Motivational Monday

Hey friends!!  How is everyone?  No really. How are YOU?  This is the time of year that things start getting…stressful.  So let’s get ahead of it.  I know, I know.  Easier said than done but listen!  Knowing what you are up against is half the battle, right?  And sometimes when we get stressed, we get ornery.  And that’s not nice.  “Be Kind” is a phrase we hear a lot these days.  So, let’s talk about it.

Almost every.single.week, I mention the fact that “we are human”.  I want to start by saying that even though we ARE human, that never excuses bad behavior.  By saying, “we are human” what I am really saying is we live in a fallen world.  Sin is inevitable but yet not excusable.  We should always strive to do better.  Growing up, people had bracelets that said, “What would Jesus do?”  And honestly, that’s a perfect question in every situation.

But have you ever thought about how you live impacts others?  Let me explain.  Most of you reading this are Christians.  I would speculate at least 50% of those reading this outwardly profess your christian faith to others when you have an opportunity.  WHICH IS GREAT!  But what happens when you have a bad day?  It could be something fairly simple like…being stressed out over the holidays.  You are on edge and then BAM!  You snap at someone.  And someone sees this one single moment and immediately judges your faith.

You see, people think that just because we are christians it suddenly means we are better.  And, many get that idea because some Christians believe they are better because they were saved by grace.  Listen, I thank God every single day for Him.  I thank Him for sending His son.  I LOVE MY FAITH.  It brings me more peace than I can describe in words.  But I fail Him everyday.  I sin every single day.  I need God’s grace every single day and I don’t deserve it.  

And listen, I know we, as Christians, want what is best for people.  And we know that being a Christian is what is best, right?  I think we are all on the same page here.  But there is a fine line with leading people to Christ and making them feel judged.  No one likes the feeling of, “I’m doing something wrong.”  But in your mind, they are wrong.  So, you see where non-believers hesitate to come to church or to have a conversation about religion with you?

As Christians, there was a time you were a non-believer.  Some of you were kids when you accepted Christ and others it was later.  But prior to accepting Christ, we were obsessed with our sins.  Just because we are now obsessed with Him doesn’t mean we don’t mess up, right?  God gives us grace and forgives us for our sins!  So, it’s time you extend that same grace to others.  I’m talking about the non-believer to the crabby cashier.  Showing grace is so much easier than explaining why you got flustered because “you’re just human.”  AND, by you showing grace, how does that impact them and their potential walk with the Lord?  How many opportunities is missed because of attitudes?

You see the circle I’m making here?

“For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast.” Ephesians 2:8-9.  If God can extend that kind of grace to me, then you KNOW He can extend that grace to anyone.  In fact, He sent His son to spend time with those who felt and were lost.  He spent time with people who had nasty infectious diseases that were “incurable”.  He spent time with people who openly and secretly betrayed him.  Why?  God’s grace….and love.  

So the phrase “be kind” is really just that simple.  But I feel like if you are Christian, there is an added layer there.  You are a leader whether you see yourself as one or not.  On a normal day, people make quick assessments about you whether you like it or not.  Are you approachable?  Are you happy, sad, mad, etc?  This is human nature.  If you are stressed and being ugly, I’m not so sure you will “attract flies with that honey” as my momma would say.  Don’t allow your second of stressful ugliness, impact someone else’s salvation.

 

Love you all,

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  It is so good to be back.  I am so thankful for my time away to just regroup when it comes to these motivations.  I’ll tell you…the hardest part is figuring out a topic (kinda like deciding what’s for dinner!).  Well, while I was away this country had a few things happen…like a hurricane.  And there’s another catastrophic one headed straight for Florida.  We have seen devastation and sadness all over the news.  People missing their loved ones, animals, and everything they have worked for.  Where is God??!  Why would He allow this to happen??  Well, let’s talk about it.  

This is my personal opinion.  But, I feel like when you talk about God and natural disasters together, you have to tread lightly.  Does anyone else feel like that?  I’ll explain.  I never want to lead someone to believe that God is “bad” by not stopping what happened.  But to be fair to the person the disaster impacted, you can see where they would feel abandoned, hurt and lonely.  You could see why they can’t understand why this happened to them and their community when they are a “good” christian.

God isn’t punishing anyone with these disasters.  God doesn’t do that BUT if He did, my guess is He would just punish YOU and not everyone else.  You’re special but not that special.  

In Genesis 1:1, God created the universe and its law of nature.  What does that mean?  Well, if you live in Alabama, you know when a cold and hot front collide, we have the potential of tornados.  Everyone knows that, right?  That’s a law of nature.  As well as James Spann predicts the weather, he is just a man.  God is 100% in control but we are not.  He wants us to know it.  These types of disasters remind us that life is unpredictable and uncertain.  But God is always there to guide us through (Joshua 1:9).  

Could God have prevented this?  Well of course!  He can literally do anything.  But if you are like me and something like this happens, you have to look at it with optimism.  There is a reason for everything.  Yes, even when you have lost everything.  You were meant to go through this.  Will you ever know why?  Maybe.  Maybe not.  But when you get to heaven, ask Him.  He will tell you.  I’m sure Noah asked a lot of questions….

When disasters occur, I look at it differently.  Again, to be fair, I am an outsider looking in so my perspective is different.  One question is why didn’t/doesn’t God intervene?  My question back is how do you know He didn’t?  It can ALWAYS be worse.  If you are alive, it can be worse.  That sounds negative but it is the truth.  But how many times have you seen a tornado drop out of the sky, LEVEL miles and miles and then poof!  Back up in the clouds and never touched that school full of kids.  That was a miracle, right?  That tornado SHOULD HAVE blown right through that school.  No.  That was God.

There are times, disasters are a wake up call.  Do I think they happened so YOU would wake up?  Ummm….let’s just say I think maybe you and several others.  Sometimes when our lives get off track, we forget a few things.  And when something catastrophic happens, we tend to know who to seek.  Kinda like your child when they are scared…they come running to you for comfort and protection.  Well, that is no different than you running to your Father.  And that is EXACTLY what you are supposed to do.

Listen, we live in a fallen world.  We know this and we talk about it every week.  As a christian, what should you do?  It’s ok to grieve for these people.  It’s ok to grieve WITH these people.  We can pray for comfort and healing.  We can volunteer and help if we are able.  We can continue to worship and praise Him despite this!  If Job could continue worshiping, you definitely can as someone looking in.  Don’t allow these disasters to get you down and doubt.  He’s there…just look.

Please keep Florida, Tennessee, South Carolina, North Carolina and everyone impacted by these storms in your prayers.  They appreciate it more than you know.

 

Love you all,

Jennifer

 



Motivational Monday

The 5 “L’s” of Life Series

Hey friends!  Today is the last day of our series and I have to say, I have really enjoyed writing it.  To have started off with, “How in the world am I going to write about this?” to “Oh, I kinda enjoyed this series!” is a huge win for me.  😂  That thought actually made me giggle a little when I wrote it…which is a PERFECT segway into today’s last topic.  Laughter.  So, let’s talk about it.

Listen, I LOVE to laugh.  I laugh at the wrong times and right times!  😣  Fun fact about me (like you don’t know enough)!  I laughed the whole way through my wedding ceremony.  Yep.  True story.  When I think of my best friend Samantha, I can literally hear her laughter.  Her laugh makes me laugh!  Laughing makes me feel good.  It brings me closer to the person I am laughing with.  But have you ever thought about laughter from a christian aspect?  I’ll be honest, I have never thought about it so let’s take a go at it!

So from a health perspective, what does laughter do for us?  Well, it has been proven that laughter lowers blood pressure and stress hormones.  There have been times I am annoyed with my husband and he will cut the tension with a “funny”.  And 9/10 times, my mood is much better.  Proverbs 17:22 says, “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”  Laughter wasn’t a by-product from emotions.  God knew exactly what we needed with laughter.

Laughter is a response to God’s love and grace.  I think about the movie, Steel Magnolias.  At the end of the movie when M’lynn is having a meltdown over Shelby’s death (and rightfully so), Clairee throws Ousier in the mix by offering M’lynn a “once in lifetime opportunity to knock Ouiser out!”  Life presents us with good times and bad.  There is a “time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.”  Ecclesiastes 3:4

Can you imagine a life without laughter?  More than likely, we only know pain, grief, and just melancholy.  Right?  What if we only ONLY experienced joy?  Listen, pain and suffering are a part of God’s plan in your life.  Those things draw you closer to Him.  Laughter is a part of ups and downs of life.  David says in Psalm 16:11, “You make known to me the path of life; You will fill me with joy in Your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand.”  David not only shared his sadness with the Lord but his joy.  Laughter is part of relationship building.  With people and God!

But do you know what I see when people laugh?  Faith.  Let me explain.  Has there ever been a time in your life when something is eating at you?  Or you have extreme sadness?  Or you have a loved one in the hospital?  And all you can do is pray.  You’re worried.  And then one day, it’s like you let go and suddenly a little chuckle comes out of you.  It’s hard to laugh when you feel unsafe.  By allowing laughter to return, you are trusting Him to help you through this time.  Laughter helps us know that God is good and that He has a plan for us. By laughing, we also share His love, grace, and joy with others. So, let us laugh more often, and let our laughter reflect our soul.  

So this week, I want to challenge you to a game.  This is a made up “Jennifer” game (ask Jon!  This is a real game I play).  When you go shopping this week, I want you to make your cashier laugh.  I’ll give you a hint as to how to open them up to laughter…say something positive about them first.  Ask them questions about THEM.  Then, have a conversation as they are ringing you up.  Get them to laugh.  I want you to take note of their face from beginning to end.  Look at how you impacted their stress level for what…3-5 minutes?  It’s amazing.  God did that.

Love you all and see you Sunday,

Jennifer

 

Motivational Monday

The 5 “L’s” of Life Series

Hey friends!  We are continuing our 5 “L’s” of life series and today is listening.  Like the other “L’s”, you can go in a million directions with this one.  I talk alot about listening to God.  But today, I want to talk about becoming a good listener.  So, let’s talk about it.

When I went into HR, I wasn’t a very good listener.  I heard what you were saying but I didn’t allow it to actually sink in.  I would love to tell you that between the 2 degrees I received and the gazillion dollars in student loan debt, SOMEONE taught the importance of listening!  If I was taught, I wasn’t listening.  (Come on…that was funny)  It wasn’t until I was in my career for a minute when I was with an employee who was irate and I was just overwhelmed.  I had nothing to say to them that would calm them down.  So…I had no choice but to sit there and listen.  And they calmed down.  When the conversation ended, I hugged them and promised to do what I could (which wasn’t much).  She looked at me and said, “I just appreciate you letting me get this off my chest.  I appreciate you listening to me.”  And that’s the moment I learned to listen.

 So what does listening do for people?

First, it affirms them.  A the most basic form, when we listen to someone we are acknowledging their existence.  Which in today’s world, says alot.  In Mark 10, Jesus was surrounded by a crowd when he heard a blind beggar call out to him.  Jesus stopped.  Jesus called out to Batimaeus and listened to him.  He asked Jesus to heal him and Jesus did.  Of course, by restoring his sight, it affirmed him but what if Jesus never stopped to listen?

Second, we strengthen each other just by listening.  James Dopson once said, “For some strange reason, human beings . . . tolerate stress and pressure much more easily if at least one other person knows they are enduring it.”  Is that not accurate?  Look at Bartimaeus.  This interaction he had with Jesus strengthened him not only by restoring his sight but through the acknowledgement of Jesus when others didn’t think he was worth listening to.  

Third, listening allows others to work through their thoughts.  I am sure you have been talking to someone about an issue you were having.  They might have asked a few questions now and then but by the time the conversation was over, YOU came up with a resolution.  Did you know there’s a bible verse about that?  Proverbs 20:5 says, “The purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out.”  How clever that was written in the Bible when you thought YOU were the mastermind behind working out your issue.  🙂

How can we improve with listening?

I’m about to say something profound.  I need you all to write this down.  Ready?  You have to hush and let the person talk. <drops mic and walks away>  I’m kidding about the profound part but I’m serious about hushing!  When God listens to you, he listens to you.  He doesn’t interrupt you.  He lets you get it all out.  Which circles us back to the beginning!

When you are listening, you don’t have to fix their problems.  You just affirm love and compassion.  Affirm.  Affirm His love to them.  By affirming His love, it gives them security.  Security that God does love them and He is there for them.  And to be honest, He is so much better at “fixing” their problems than you are.

So this week, I want to encourage you to listen to others.  When they ask you a question, understand there is a statement behind the question.  If they ask you, “Do you ever feel like God ignores you?”  That’s how THEY FEEL.  And you being the great friend you are, wants to fix their feelings.  Work on NOT fixing it.  Give them the affirmation they are looking for.  If it was good enough for Jesus, it’s good enough for me.

Love you all,

Jennifer


September Newsletter

Motivational Monday

Motivational Monday- the 5 “L’s” of Life Series

Hey friends!  When I started this series, I would love to tell you that I planned to talk about labor on Labor Day but I am not that organized.  It just worked out that way.  Speaking of work…what does God say about work?  How hard do we need to labor?  So, let’s talk it!

For those who don’t know, I am 44 years old.  I have worked since I was 16 years old and I have quite a bit of my work life left in me.  I think about the day I can retire but I am not sure what I will do when that time comes.  If I turn out like my mother, I’ll be busier retired than working!  She never really stopped working.  Her focus just shifted to working for the Lord.  

The Bible makes it clear that work matters to God.  And it doesn’t matter how much you make or what your occupation is.  God cares about your work (He really does!).  There are some points the Bible makes about working/laboring.  It provides us with a practical foundation for Christians asking about what the Bible says about how we should approach our work.

First, work is part of God’s big picture.  Let’s start with Adam and Eve and the Garden of Eden.  Genesis 2:15 says, “The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it.”  Work was planned by God from the beginning until the very end.  He created it.  So working is a gift from God.  You don’t have to love working but you should acknowledge that He gifted you the ability to work.

Second, God provides us with unique skills, gifts and talents and calls us to certain roles and activities.  I know one of my skills is people.  I can make people feel at ease and therefore, they open up to me (like in the middle of Walmart.  True story).  For my mental state, I never wanted to be a counselor but I knew I SHOULD work with people.  I think like everyone, I worry if I am fulfilling God’s calling with my life but all I can do is pray and stay open to His guidance.  In my professional life, when people open up to me, I try to approach all subjects with love and understanding.  So far, it hasn’t failed me yet!

Third, a foundation of work is quality, character and ethics.  We are responsible for our quality of work we produce, our faithfulness to God in the way we pursue work and our own character while working.  Early in my career, I was asked to do something that was unethical.  I really needed my job and we couldn’t afford for me to be terminated (which was the stated outcome if I didn’t comply with what was presented).  I had to make a quick decision and I didn’t have time to talk it over with Jon.  Not only did I refuse but I dared them to fire me.  Now, I probably shouldn’t have dared them 😬 (anger slid in and took over a minute) but I don’t regret the decision.  I knew my time with them was limited because of the decision I made but it was the right decision.  I left my job a few months later.  My ethics are based on right and wrong.  Biblical ethics in my professional life.  For the record, I talk about my ethics in job interviews so this is never an issue again.

Fourth, we are called to rest.  Can I tell you how MUCH I appreciate the Lord stating we need to rest?  I am someone who never stops.  I can never get it all done whether it’s at home, at church or work.  There are things that stay unfinished and I feel guilty for resting.  But there are days (like today), I need to recharge and rest.  I have to remind myself that it’s ok to do this because God!  When God created us, He didn’t have to design us to sleep but He did.  Have you ever thought about that?  He could have designed us to be the Energizer Bunny and keep going and going and going…

I appreciate Labor Day because it’s a celebration of the social and economic achievements of American workers.  Labor activists pushed for a federal holiday to recognize the many contributions workers have made in America’s strength, prosperity and well being.  But laboring isn’t about our country.  It doesn’t matter how young or old.  Never stop laboring for God.

Love you all and see you next week!

Jennifer


Motivational Monday

The 5 “L’s” of Life Series

Hey friends!  So let’s continue our series this week on love.  This topic is pretty broad so we have plenty to discuss.  So, let’s talk about it.

I did a quick google search to find some physical benefits of love.  Love and your health go hand in hand.  Did you know when you love and show love your life expectancy is increased?  It also helps you maintain a healthy heart, reduces depression, boosts your immune system, lowers blood pressure, reduces stress, eases acute/chronic pain, helps your tummy, and improves your sleep?  That’s…a lot!  Seeing all the physical health benefits, how can anyone believe we were not here to love one another, right?

Love is defined as a strong or deep affection for; to like or enjoy very much; to hold dear or cherish; concern for the good of another.  But what is the biblical definition of love?  1 John 4:7-10 defines it pretty well, “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God.  Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.  Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us:  He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him.  This is love:  not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.”  This passage tells us that God is love; love comes from God; love was demonstrated by sending His only son to die for our sins; and, love is NOT that we love Him but that God loves us.

God.is.love.

Perfect…that’s great Jennifer.  But, how and who does God want us to love?  Because, I have a hard time loving everyone.  Listen, I understand but imagine being God.  He loves everyone and I’m sure there are some He wants to roll his eyes over.  

Love everyone.  Yep.  You need to.  In the Parable of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37) Jesus made it clear that loving your neighbor means more than loving those you know, like or most like you.  It extends to those that are different.  This includes people whose political affiliations are different from you (which is a pretty hot topic at the moment!).  But different races, religions, social circles, and even those who make fun of you.  Why?  Because we all sin.  Their sin is just different from yours and you want to be loved right?  In fact, Jesus loved the most unlovable people.  WE are to do the same.

Second, you need to exhibit biblical characteristics of love.  One of my favorite passages in the Bible is 1 Corinthians 13:4-8.  “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails.”  We live in a world where we are told we have to accept anything and everything or we are hateful.  Well, in a biblical sense, love is caring about a person’s soul.  So we are expected to share the truth and gospel message in love.  Romans 12:9, “Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.”

Third, pairs really nicely with the second point and that’s love one another in action and truth.  1 John 3:16-18, “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us.  And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters. If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person? Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”  We can’t die on a cross for someone’s sins like Jesus but we can act in love.  You balance this with God’s Word and prayer.  

Listen, loving everyone is not an easy thing to do.  Trust me, I feel this everyday.  And because this can be a struggle for me, I have to pray about it.  In fact, I pray the most for people I DON’T get along with because I know I need to do better.  I know the entire Bible is based on God’s love through Jesus.  Faith and hope have a fulfillment date but love is never ending.

 

Love you all,

Jennifer

 

Motivational Monday

The 5 “L’s” of Life Series

Several weeks ago, Cheryl Star gave me some notes about the 5 “L’s” of life.  I was honored that she thought of me and these Motivational Mondays.  But I’ll be honest, when I looked through it, I thought, “How am I going to make this a motivation?”  And today, it just hit me.  So get ready for another miniseries!

The 5 “L’s” of life was written by Dr. Gladys McGarey.  She has a book called, “The Well Lived Life: A 102-Year-Old Doctor’s Six Secrets to Health and Happiness At Every Age”.  To be very fair and transparent, I have not read the book.  So this miniseries is based loosely on her writings.  And by loosely, I mean we will be talking the L’s she names in the book.  The L’s are: life, love, listening, labor and laughter.  Today, I want to focus on life.  So you know the drill…let’s talk about it.

When I think of life, I think living.  And not just, “Oh I have a heartbeat” living, I mean, “I wouldn’t want to miss this for the world” living.  Living life to our fullest.  The kind of life where you can find beauty in anything because you notice it.  Butterfly wings.  Children laughing.  A cool breeze when the sun is shining.  Love.  Even death.  But is that what living life to the fullest is about?

John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they have life, and have it abundantly.”  What does that mean?  Did Jesus mean we should live a life of comfort?  Plenty of money?  Few troubles?  Eh, as much as we would like that (to a degree) I don’t think that is what He meant and here’s why.  That’s not life.  Life is not always peaceful and easy.  And why is that?  Simple answer.  Sin.

Well Jennifer, what did He mean?  Well, I can only base my answer on scripture and I genuinely hope this is correct.  But, I  think Jesus meant that to have a “full, abundant life” means to live so close to him that we become one with him.  Paul talks about this imitation of Christ in the letter to the Philippians.  Paul talks about knowing Christ and sharing in his sufferings and becoming like him in death.  

I know you are reading this and you are thinking, “So my life is not always going to be great.  But I am supposed to live it abundantly and be like Jesus…even the hard parts of being Jesus. Wait, wasn’t Jesus crucified?  Wow.  You are really selling this whole life motivation thing Jennifer!”  Friends listen.  We can do this.  If you know anything about the Bible and Jesus, he oozed love.  His attitude was literally everything.  Even when he said no, it was out of love.  We NEED to adopt his attitude.

This attitude means you need to submit fully to Christ.  You need to look past what you “think” your life should be and become a servant to Christ AND servants to each other.  You need to be humble and obedient.  You literally take your hands off your life and let it be controlled by Jesus.  Can you do that?  It’s HARD isn’t it??!  Trust me, I get it!  But if you do this, you will have no option but to imitate Christ in your thoughts, actions, words and opinions of others.

An “abundant life” is not about the people you know, the things you own, or how much money is in the bank.  It’s not about religion or church.  It’s not about how many times you have read the Bible.  It’s about grace greater than our sin.  It’s about you belonging to God’s family.  It’s about YOU sharing that news with EVERYONE.  This abundant life is given to us free and unconditional.  

So, how full is your life?  

Love you all,

Jennifer


Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  Today, I want to talk about something that we all grew up hearing.  “You need to forgive and forget.”  Now friends, I don’t know about y’all but that’s a hard one for me.  Let’s be honest for a second, forgiving is hard but doable most times, right?  But forgetting…?  Man, as much as I want to forget, I can’t and don’t.  But what does the Bible say about this?  So, let’s talk about it.

In real life, I have a big personality.  As I have gotten older, I can tame it when needed but when I am being my true self, I can be alot.  For you to see this side of me, I have to trust you and this wasn’t always the case.  I used to be more carefree with myself.  But in the past, I had people talk about my personality negatively.  I am about to get pretty raw here, but it really hurt.  I am not sure why it bothers me so bad but it does.  I guess because I am more guarded and I feel like if you see that side of me, that’s authentically me.  And, for you to see that side of me, you are/were a friend.  Over the years, I have forgiven the people who hurt me but I never forgot.  I…can’t.  And I’m not sure I want to forget.  So did this forgive and forget rule come from God?

No.  Whew!  I am so glad too!

Matthew 6:21 tells us we DO need to forgive.  And as a person, I can tell you that letting anger and hurt eat you alive is no way to live.  As a Christian, I can tell you that God has given you SO MUCH just so your sins are forgiven.  So by not forgiving someone, are you saying you are better than God?  I can hear you now, “No Jennifer.  It’s complex and hard.”  Trust me.  I understand.  But really, you don’t think it’s complex and hard for God?  I’m serious.  We ALL have our issues with forgiving but you HAVE to for you.

There are many places in the Bible it tells us to forgive, but nowhere does it say to forget.  In fact, if you could just magically forget that might be a concern for you.  Let me give you an example.  An acquaintance robs you at gunpoint but asks for forgiveness as soon as they rob you.  You forgive them and then POOF!  You have forgotten all about the robbery.  The next day, you come in contact with this acquaintance and they rob you AGAIN because you have no memory.  You see what I mean?  I know this is extreme but we have memories for a reason.  That’s why God created us that way.  For our safety, well being, and happiness.

I’ve talked about this before to other friends who struggle with “forgive and forget” and they feel guilty.  Some believe that if you can’t forget, then you don’t  truly forgive.  Forgiving means you are no longer angry.  You don’t have any negative thoughts about this person and you don’t seek revenge.  In fact, Romans 12:19 tells us we should never seek revenge on anyone at any point of time.  Forgiving just means to give it to God and let Him handle the situation and to allow Him to handle YOUR feelings.

By allowing Him to handle your feelings that means you will lose your anger, bitterness, resentment, hurt and your overall negative thoughts.  If you have ever been in a situation where you have to forgive (which has to be everyone right?) then you know how these feelings weigh you down and you aren’t yourself.  When you finally let go, it feels so good.  One of the best feelings in the world to me, is sitting outside in the sun and there is a cool breeze.  I swear it feels like a hug from God.  That’s what forgiveness feels like to me.

This week, if you have some unresolved forgiveness issues, I want to challenge you to pray and seek God for helping you to forgive.  You HAVE TO give it to Him.  And likewise, if you have hurt someone, then maybe a way for them to rest with forgiveness is for YOU to reach out and apologize.  Extend an olive branch.  We all have to live on this Earth until we get to heaven.  And fun fact, when you get to heaven, that hurt won’t matter!!  So, if it doesn’t matter there, why are you holding on to it here?

Love you all,

Jennifer

Motivational Monday

As I was scrolling through Pinterest for inspiration for this week’s meals, I came across a prayer someone had pinned called the “I Don’t Know Prayer”.  It goes like this: “You just go somewhere quiet and you sit at the feet of God and you say, ‘I don’t know. I don’t know where to go from here. I don’t know what is happening. I don’t know how to process this. I don’t know what to do with these emotions. I don’t know how to handle this situation’. And then with whatever little grain of faith you have, you say, ’but You know.’ And you leave it there. God most certainly hears your prayer. Declare Amen.”

Man, have I been there before!  So, let’s talk about it!

When I was a young mother, life was pretty hectic and mundane at the same time.  Everyday, we would get up, get dressed, get Logan dressed, feed him, pack his bag, get him to the car, take him to daycare, go to work, go back to get him, come home, cook dinner, get him a bath, read a book, cuddle, then I would shower, I MIGHT watch some TV but then I would go to bed.  (For the record, Jon is a very involved dad and he would help wherever I needed him.)  Even though the day is different, it’s the exact same.  And you get…lost.  Or at least, I did.  I was lost in the middle of MY life.  

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE(D) my life.  I love being a mom and wife.  I love making my house a home.  But how much time have I spent pouring laundry detergent in the washer?  How much time have I spent asking Logan what he wants for dinner?  It’s not washing or cooking, it’s the redundancy and cyclicality of it all.  And then there is the time factor…

And the more I did, the more hidden I felt.  I was unnoticed.  I was unseen.  I didn’t need a trophy.  I didn’t need “atta girl” daily.  But I was becoming more and more lost.  I am sure Jon felt the same way.  To this day, we talk about that time when life was hard.  Everything from eating to talking was…hard.  Why?  We were lost.

You know who saw us?  Who knew down to second how much time has been spent pouring that laundry detergent in the washer?  Who saw every single thing I did and uttered, “Keep going”?  My heavenly Father.  How do I know this?

Hagar, who also felt unnoticed, unseen and hidden, He told her he saw her. (Genesis 16:6).  He assured her He had a plan and this mundane work would last a season.

Ruth, who also was doing mundane work, picking up leftover grain for a season (Ruth 2:2) and He reminded her this would prepare her for a husband.

David was doing mundane work by shepherding sheep for a season (1 Samuel 16:19) and He reminded him how this prepared him to become king one day.  

Peter and other disciples were doing mundane work by casting a fishing net in hopes of catching a plethora of fish (Matthew 4:19) and He reminded them how this would prepare the disciples to be fishers of men.

You see, the work you do doesn’t DEFINE you.  I think we get caught up in that sometimes.  What we do is for seasons.  This mundane work you are doing creates character.  There is beauty in mundane work. So what you are doing for this SEASON, lays groundwork for the future.  Don’t get bogged down with “mundaneness”.

And for the record, God always sees you.  You aren’t lost.  He knows EXACTLY where you are at all times.  He knows exactly where you have been, where you are today and where you are going!  If you feel lost, remember that is just a feeling.

This week, as you are doing dishes or washing clothes and you are tired, it’s ok.  It’s ok to feel tired and unnoticed.  Feeling this way is just a reminder you need to pray.  And your prayer can be the “I Don’t Know Prayer” and THAT’S ok too!  Why?  Because He’s got you.  He sees you.  He knows you’re tired and He has plans for you.  Just know that what you are doing now is for just a very small season.  That mundane work you’re doing is love.  Imagine the love He shows you daily and what that entails on His part.

Love you all and see you Wednesday for the midweek message!

Jennifer

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