Month: October 2024

Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  I am so glad you are all here reading this today (whatever day you are reading it).  I appreciate you being here.  Today was an easy topic for me.  I think most of you know I get inspiration from my own life, friends, family and coworkers.  Well today, it’s about me. 😂 Hard decisions.  They are zero fun.  Especially making hard decisions in the light of God’s will.  So, let’s talk about it.

Over the last several nights, I have not slept well.  I am sure you have all been there, right?  You know you have to do something unpleasant and it keeps you up.  These decisions can be life threatening or life changing.  And sometimes, these decisions are not necessarily life changing for you but for someone else.  And honestly, I don’t like being a person that changes someone’s course in their life.  In fact, I think I do better mentally when I am the only one affected!

So how can we make tough decisions in the light of God’s will?

First, pray.  I know we talk about praying every single week.  But it IS JUST that important.  But when you are awake at 3am stressed about the next day, THIS IS THE EXACT TIME to have a conversation with God.  I pray until I fall back asleep.  And I ask Him for peace and comfort and to allow me to sleep.  You see, I believe we are put in these situations to draw us closer to God.  He knows, but we don’t.  He wants us to make decisions that are according to His word and will.  By doing this, we glorify and magnify Him in our own lives.

Second, get your heart right.  This one can be a tough one for me.  When making a tough decision, many people want it their way and not God’s way.  To be fair, I don’t think people go into decision making as “against God”.  I think we are all somewhat selfish.  Even when we do look to Him for help, sometimes we look for “signs: or “feelings”.  But we have to be careful not to bend those feelings towards our preference.  The best thing is ALWAYS God’s will.  

Speaking of feelings, those can be deceptive.  The longer we walk with God the better we are discerning His voice (the ladies bible study on Wednesday nights are studying about this exact thing!).  The easiest thing is not to base a decision on your feelings.  In fact, try to see past it.  One thing I can say for certain.  If your feeling is against the Word of God, I assure you that is NOT God’s will.  

Lastly, ask others to pray for you.  Again, this can be a tough one for me.  I don’t want to be a bother or draw negative attention to me.  And this is my thought process when I ask for prayers…which is so silly!  Why?  When others ask me to pray for them, I don’t think twice about it!  I don’t think they are bother at all!  You see, being a part of the body Christ means we have an army of prayer partners.  Your brothers and sisters don’t need to sit idle when you need them.  They love you and want what is best for you!  And what is best, is God’s will.

I am at a point in my life that I do thank God for His wisdom.  And, I know I receive His wisdom in times like this.  Life is full of decisions daily.  Some good.  Some are not so good.  I pray everyday that God will show me the right way when I have to make decisions on the spot. 

Hopefully this week, you don’t have to make a tough decision!  But if you do, I challenge you to sit back, read His word, pray and listen.  But making sure when you listen that you discern HIS voice and not your own.  I know I am telling you all these things but the reality is…I needed reminding.  And I thank you for being here to remind me.

Love you all,

Jennifer

 

Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  So good to see you here!  I just want to say I really appreciate you reading what I have written.  It really means alot to me.  I HOPE I am true and accurate and I never lead someone astray.  If I do…please call me out.  🙂  Seriously.  But, I do appreciate you.

The other day, I was talking to someone about church, christianity, etc.  After talking to them, they informed me that they used to be a youth pastor.  In the same breath without skipping a beat, he said not only did he stop being a youth pastor but he stopped going to church.  I told him I hated to hear that and I asked him why.  He stated he was tired of dealing with judgmental hypocrites.  Well, you know what we have to do…let’s talk about it.

I grew up in a christian home and we went to church frequently but, at times, inconsistently.  When we settled into a church home, I’m not going to lie, I did not like it.  At the time, I was a kid and honestly had no say so in the decision of where to worship.  You see, the church my parent’s settled on had a private school.  I went to public school.  I didn’t “fit in” because they all knew each other from school.  And, honestly, they could be mean about what school I went to, what I was wearing, who I was wearing, what socioeconomic class we belonged to, why I didn’t know basic things about the Bible, etc.  

Here is an example of my thought process.  Hold up, hold up, hold up.  This is CHURCH??!  These kids are so mean!  We are in the house of the Lord!  What in the world??!  That’s it!  I hate church because EVERYONE HERE IS A HYPOCRITE!

Have you been there?  Clearly, I have and by my conversation with a friend, they are there currently.  In fact, this is the number one excuse I hear people say when you talk about christians and churches.  I’m not going to lie, I felt this way for years.  I didn’t go to church consistently until 12 years ago.  So what changed?  Did I find a perfect church with perfect people?  Nope.  Am I now suddenly perfect?  Absolutely NOT!  But did I change?  Yep.  I’ll explain.

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way as you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.  Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”  Matthew 7:1-5 

Jesus’s point here does not mean we can’t judge, we just can’t be hypocritical about it.  At the time when Jesus said this, there were religious leaders in the community who were GREAT at judging and not so great for holding themselves to the same standard they spoke of.  They were judgmental.

But understand, there is a difference between being judgemental and judging.  As Christians, we want our brothers and sisters in Christ to be the best they can be. We want those who don’t know Christ, to be their best and accept Him as their Lord and savior. So, it IS ok to hold people accountable for their actions and yes…we have to judge them in order to correct them.  But this judgment comes from love and not pride or hate.

Judgmental attitudes stem from pride.  Seeing someone struggle or make mistakes can make you think, “Whew!  At least I’m better off than them!”  Not cool.  It’s that attitude that just ranked their sin.  Where did your sin rank when you thought that??!  Why do we feel the need to rank sins?  Does it make us feel better in our own sinful behavior?

So what changed in me?  I had to understand that we are all not perfect.  We all sin because we live in a fallen world.  You might sin differently than me but I still sin.  And just because we sin differently doesn’t make me or you better than one another.  

So this week, I want to work on 4 things if you see yourself as a the judger or the judgee (I know that’s not a word but it works! 🙂)  First, look inward at your own sins.  Recognize where you fall short.  Second, reflect on the reasons why they believe what they believe.  Is it something you identify with?  Third, realize no one has all the answers except God.  So if there is a question about right and wrong, go to His word.  Lastly, RESPECT other people, even if they reject God’s way.  Yep.  Do it.  That doesn’t mean you agree or accept that behavior,  but respect the person.  I promise they are watching your behavior/response and they will remember it.  You don’t want to be the hypocrite they remember.

Side note- if I have judged you (because I know, at times, I have fallen short in this category), I am sorry.  Please know that when I write these motivations, I think about all the times I have been THAT hypocrite and it’s something I work on daily.  Thank you for accepting me, faults and all.

 

Love you all,

Jennifer

 



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!!  How is everyone?  No really. How are YOU?  This is the time of year that things start getting…stressful.  So let’s get ahead of it.  I know, I know.  Easier said than done but listen!  Knowing what you are up against is half the battle, right?  And sometimes when we get stressed, we get ornery.  And that’s not nice.  “Be Kind” is a phrase we hear a lot these days.  So, let’s talk about it.

Almost every.single.week, I mention the fact that “we are human”.  I want to start by saying that even though we ARE human, that never excuses bad behavior.  By saying, “we are human” what I am really saying is we live in a fallen world.  Sin is inevitable but yet not excusable.  We should always strive to do better.  Growing up, people had bracelets that said, “What would Jesus do?”  And honestly, that’s a perfect question in every situation.

But have you ever thought about how you live impacts others?  Let me explain.  Most of you reading this are Christians.  I would speculate at least 50% of those reading this outwardly profess your christian faith to others when you have an opportunity.  WHICH IS GREAT!  But what happens when you have a bad day?  It could be something fairly simple like…being stressed out over the holidays.  You are on edge and then BAM!  You snap at someone.  And someone sees this one single moment and immediately judges your faith.

You see, people think that just because we are christians it suddenly means we are better.  And, many get that idea because some Christians believe they are better because they were saved by grace.  Listen, I thank God every single day for Him.  I thank Him for sending His son.  I LOVE MY FAITH.  It brings me more peace than I can describe in words.  But I fail Him everyday.  I sin every single day.  I need God’s grace every single day and I don’t deserve it.  

And listen, I know we, as Christians, want what is best for people.  And we know that being a Christian is what is best, right?  I think we are all on the same page here.  But there is a fine line with leading people to Christ and making them feel judged.  No one likes the feeling of, “I’m doing something wrong.”  But in your mind, they are wrong.  So, you see where non-believers hesitate to come to church or to have a conversation about religion with you?

As Christians, there was a time you were a non-believer.  Some of you were kids when you accepted Christ and others it was later.  But prior to accepting Christ, we were obsessed with our sins.  Just because we are now obsessed with Him doesn’t mean we don’t mess up, right?  God gives us grace and forgives us for our sins!  So, it’s time you extend that same grace to others.  I’m talking about the non-believer to the crabby cashier.  Showing grace is so much easier than explaining why you got flustered because “you’re just human.”  AND, by you showing grace, how does that impact them and their potential walk with the Lord?  How many opportunities is missed because of attitudes?

You see the circle I’m making here?

“For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast.” Ephesians 2:8-9.  If God can extend that kind of grace to me, then you KNOW He can extend that grace to anyone.  In fact, He sent His son to spend time with those who felt and were lost.  He spent time with people who had nasty infectious diseases that were “incurable”.  He spent time with people who openly and secretly betrayed him.  Why?  God’s grace….and love.  

So the phrase “be kind” is really just that simple.  But I feel like if you are Christian, there is an added layer there.  You are a leader whether you see yourself as one or not.  On a normal day, people make quick assessments about you whether you like it or not.  Are you approachable?  Are you happy, sad, mad, etc?  This is human nature.  If you are stressed and being ugly, I’m not so sure you will “attract flies with that honey” as my momma would say.  Don’t allow your second of stressful ugliness, impact someone else’s salvation.

 

Love you all,

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  It is so good to be back.  I am so thankful for my time away to just regroup when it comes to these motivations.  I’ll tell you…the hardest part is figuring out a topic (kinda like deciding what’s for dinner!).  Well, while I was away this country had a few things happen…like a hurricane.  And there’s another catastrophic one headed straight for Florida.  We have seen devastation and sadness all over the news.  People missing their loved ones, animals, and everything they have worked for.  Where is God??!  Why would He allow this to happen??  Well, let’s talk about it.  

This is my personal opinion.  But, I feel like when you talk about God and natural disasters together, you have to tread lightly.  Does anyone else feel like that?  I’ll explain.  I never want to lead someone to believe that God is “bad” by not stopping what happened.  But to be fair to the person the disaster impacted, you can see where they would feel abandoned, hurt and lonely.  You could see why they can’t understand why this happened to them and their community when they are a “good” christian.

God isn’t punishing anyone with these disasters.  God doesn’t do that BUT if He did, my guess is He would just punish YOU and not everyone else.  You’re special but not that special.  

In Genesis 1:1, God created the universe and its law of nature.  What does that mean?  Well, if you live in Alabama, you know when a cold and hot front collide, we have the potential of tornados.  Everyone knows that, right?  That’s a law of nature.  As well as James Spann predicts the weather, he is just a man.  God is 100% in control but we are not.  He wants us to know it.  These types of disasters remind us that life is unpredictable and uncertain.  But God is always there to guide us through (Joshua 1:9).  

Could God have prevented this?  Well of course!  He can literally do anything.  But if you are like me and something like this happens, you have to look at it with optimism.  There is a reason for everything.  Yes, even when you have lost everything.  You were meant to go through this.  Will you ever know why?  Maybe.  Maybe not.  But when you get to heaven, ask Him.  He will tell you.  I’m sure Noah asked a lot of questions….

When disasters occur, I look at it differently.  Again, to be fair, I am an outsider looking in so my perspective is different.  One question is why didn’t/doesn’t God intervene?  My question back is how do you know He didn’t?  It can ALWAYS be worse.  If you are alive, it can be worse.  That sounds negative but it is the truth.  But how many times have you seen a tornado drop out of the sky, LEVEL miles and miles and then poof!  Back up in the clouds and never touched that school full of kids.  That was a miracle, right?  That tornado SHOULD HAVE blown right through that school.  No.  That was God.

There are times, disasters are a wake up call.  Do I think they happened so YOU would wake up?  Ummm….let’s just say I think maybe you and several others.  Sometimes when our lives get off track, we forget a few things.  And when something catastrophic happens, we tend to know who to seek.  Kinda like your child when they are scared…they come running to you for comfort and protection.  Well, that is no different than you running to your Father.  And that is EXACTLY what you are supposed to do.

Listen, we live in a fallen world.  We know this and we talk about it every week.  As a christian, what should you do?  It’s ok to grieve for these people.  It’s ok to grieve WITH these people.  We can pray for comfort and healing.  We can volunteer and help if we are able.  We can continue to worship and praise Him despite this!  If Job could continue worshiping, you definitely can as someone looking in.  Don’t allow these disasters to get you down and doubt.  He’s there…just look.

Please keep Florida, Tennessee, South Carolina, North Carolina and everyone impacted by these storms in your prayers.  They appreciate it more than you know.

 

Love you all,

Jennifer

 



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