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Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  June is a big month for marriages.  How do I know?  Well, next Saturday, Jon and I will be celebrating our 23rd wedding anniversary.  I’ll be honest, some days I didn’t think 23 years would ever get here! Marriage is hard but definitely doable with Jesus (and yes!  Marriage needs Jesus!)  So, let’s talk about it.

In our 23 year marriage, we have had countless.  Yep.  I stopped there.  Countless.  Countless fights, annoyances, and financial hardships (I’m really selling this marriage thing aren’t I?)  But, we have also had countless laughs, deep discussions, happiness, adventures, teamwork, pets 🙂, but most importantly, love.  Having been married for 23 years, Jon and I have learned a thing a two and I suspect we will continue to learn a thing or two here and there.  We are not experts, because the Lord knows we need help daily, but here are a few things we have learned along the way.

First, marriage is about “we” and not “me”.  Listen, when we first got married, I wanted things done my way.  We HAD to have certain things (that we couldn’t afford).  Jon was there trying to get me to see that WE couldn’t do those things.  Listen, marriage was created to embody selfless love, just as Christ poured himself out as a sacrifice (Isaiah 53:12). In a biblical marriage, God calls us to prioritize “we” over “me.”  I honestly didn’t know how selfish I was until I got married.

Second, marriage is about the long haul.  Nowadays, the mindset is, “Well, if it doesn’t work out, we will get divorced.”  No, no.  You took an oath before God.  The apostle Paul begins the familiar “love” passage in 1 Corinthians with the words, “Love is patient.” Patience in marriage is vital for a healthy relationship.  Relationships have seasons. Some seasons are GREAT and others not so great.  But we have to be patient to wait out the bad seasons.  Scripture says: The Lord is not slow about his promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance. (2 Pet. 3:8-9, Rom. 2:4).

Third, marriage is a covenant and not just a contract.  Jon will playfully say, “Listen.  I got papers on you!”  Of course, this is just a joke but marriage is more than a piece of paper.  Marriage is God’s idea.  Genesis 2:24 says: “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Just as God created an everlasting covenant with his people, marriage is a solemn and binding covenant between a man and a woman made before God (Eph. 5:32).  We are taught to treat everyone with Christ like love.  And yes, that includes your spouse.  It is so easy for your spouse to be the brunt of a bad day.

Lastly, and probably most controversial, marriage is counter cultural and not conformist.  I’ll explain.  Ephesians 5:22-24: “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.”  In today’s time, many have an issue with this passage because some believe it justifies abuse.  In a Christian marriage, a husband’s role requires that he love his wife enough to lay his life down for her as Christ did for the church. God calls wives to respond to that radical Christ-like love with submission. (1 Pet. 2:13, 22-25, 5:5, Eph. 5:21). Ultimately, God requires husband and wife to submit to Him.

As sassy and headstrong as I am, when Jon says stop or no, I listen.  I don’t do it because I don’t want to fight.  I don’t do it because I’m scared of him.  I don’t do it because I am a submissive person.  I do it because I trust him.  I KNOW he’s looking out for me or us.  When he speaks authoritatively, I listen.  And to be clear, he doesn’t abuse this either.  In fact, he knows me well enough to know that I am more prone to do the EXACT opposite if he gets too sassy.

Listen, my marriage is not perfect.  It won’t ever be because we are two flawed people trying our hardest to be the best for God and for each other.  I have learned that our marriage is not defined by our disagreements. It is not defined by a bad day or the times we thought about giving up. Our marriage is about trusting God to be the driving force.  And just like everything in the world, you start at the top and it trickles down from there.  

Love you all,

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  Today, I want to talk about something I try to do everyday.  Do you ever just close your eyes and listen to the birds and thank God?  Thank him for the sounds you hear and birds happily singing (have you ever heard a grumpy bird sing?).  Or maybe thank Him for that tooth that’s hurting (true story right now for me!).  I am thankful I have a tooth to hurt, dental insurance that will help pay for it and a dentist who is willing to help me this week!  And all of this is…God.  So, let’s talk about it.

When I was younger, I never thanked God.  Not because I was a brat (I mean, I might have been) but it wasn’t something I thought about.  Weird, isn’t it?  I mean, I thanked people around me.  I had manners.  But when it came to God, I just didn’t think about it.  One day as I started praying, I thanked Him for something major that had happened in my life and He helped me through it.  And that’s when it hit me.  Why am I thanking Him for this…and ONLY this?  From that point on, I would try to make it a point to thank Him everyday for something.  And some days it’s hard to thank Him.  But as you do it daily, you realize how not hard it is.  Cultivating a grateful heart takes dedication but not a huge amount of time.

Begin your day with thanks.  You can literally thank Him for waking you up.  This is usually the time my sweet Marcy (calico cat) wants her cuddle time.  So, I lay there and cuddle her.  I thank Him for her.  I thank Him for all my animals and all my loved ones.  No, I don’t say, “Thank you for waking me up” but I do.  Beginning your day with a conversation with the Lord is a great way to start the day.  

Thank Him in your worship.  I know, I know.  You feel like since you are worshipping Him, that is a sign of gratitude.  I don’t disagree with that mindset but while you are worshipping Him, take it one step further.  Listen to the words of the songs Amy picks for the choir and congregation to sing.  I can’t tell you how many times I close my eyes and say, YES LORD!!  Thank you!”  Or when Pastor Scott is in the pulpit and he reminds us of what we have been given.  Thank you Lord!  Which is a perfect segway into the next one.

Speak of all His benefits.  What does that mean?  Basically, how has God shown His faithfulness to you?  How has He blessed you?  Psalm 103:2 says: “Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits.”  When we recall these benefits, we need to tell others.  It is our goal to lead others to Him.  One of the ways is to tell your testimony.  I guarantee you that your testimony has many benefits you can share.

Thank Him as you read the Word.  Many people, including myself, can find the Bible challenging to read and understand.  You are not alone, friend.  There are times I have read whole sections of the Bible and I just go with it.  I have no idea what I just read.  But that’s why we have Bible studies and we go to church.  Pastor Scott has a great way of explaining scripture.  But when we do stop and thank Him while hearing or reading His word, it turns our hearts to Him and not to ourselves.

Lastly and one of the hardest…thank Him for hard times.  We live in a sinful world.  We will encounter difficult things everyday.  It could be a tooth that hurts or we lost a loved one.  It is so easy in difficult times to become despondent.  And hey!  I am no different than you when it comes to being down.  By thanking Him in a hard time, again, turns our hearts to Him.  We are surrendering to Him and allowing Him to help us when we need it the most.

I want to challenge you for 7 straight days to pray a thankful prayer to God.  This doesn’t have to be anything grandiose.  This can literally be a quick, “Thank you God for my green grass.”  That might sound silly but if you pray that prayer this is what I hear you say.  You are thanking Him for the opportunity that you have grass and it’s healthy (maybe you have battled army worms).  You are thanking Him for the health you have to mow your grass or the financial security for you to pay someone who maintains it for you.  You are thanking Him for a place for insects to live and a place for the birds to eat.  So you see, a prayer like that isn’t usually as topical as it sounds.  And it gets you thinking how blessed you really are even when times are tough.

Thank you for being here and reading this far.  I thank God everyday for each and everyone of you.  

 

Jennifer


Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  Wasn’t yesterday just beautiful?  And I mean beautiful for so many reasons!  I know Easter is once a year but it is so important to remember ALL YEAR what He did for us and our salvation.  Which is an awesome segway into our motivation this week…

Have you ever gone through something and felt alone?  Of course, you have family and friends all around you but you feel…isolated.  You feel as though no one understands what you are going through.  You are stuck in your head.  OR, you have been isolated from friends and/or family and it’s devastating.  And you asked, “Why me?  Why now?”  Well, let’s talk about it.

As you all know, I am a talker.  An overall extrovert.  But when something is wrong in my life, I retreat.  And when I say retreat, I am a turtle that you just came up on from behind.  I ain’t coming out of that shell until I am safe.  To be fair, my “safe” is usually working things out in my head.  This can last a day to months.  Which is why I am involved in church as much as I am.  Church doesn’t allow me to be in my shell long because I have people who call and text to say, “Where have you been?  We’ve missed you.”  I have a sense of accountability to those people and I don’t want to let them down.

But in the seasons where I have retreated and I was isolated, they were not good times in my life.  Something was wrong.  So, it was hard on me mentally.  I guess because I did isolate myself, I talked to God a lot.  I can remember times trying to make deals with Him.  I know that’s not how it works (and I knew it then), I just wanted Him to intervene and make things better.  I wanted to know why this was happening.  Why is God isolating me?

Well, first, He wants your focus on Him.  Listen.  I know I say this every week on Mondays and Pastor Scott says it every week in church and in his midweek messages but God loves you.  He really does.  You are here on this Earth, because He put you here.  He wants you to choose Him like He chose you.  Maybe this season of isolation is to get your attention.  We all have a to-do list and we are all crazy busy.  Sometimes we push Him to the back because we know He will be there always.  Well, maybe this is His way of saying, “Um ma’am.  Hi.  I need you to focus on me and not that list.”

During these times, God is protecting you.  We all come to God at different places in our life and because of this, we all have unique testimonies.  However, God may ask us to let go of certain people, environments, vices, ungodly habits, etc.  You can’t hold onto those things because God has bigger plans for you.  And there are LOTS of times, you don’t understand why.  And that’s ok.  It’s your job to know the whys behind everything.  It’s your job to trust and obey Him.  Jeremiah 29:11 and Hebrews 11:6 are great verses to back this up.  🙂

From personal experience, these isolations have a lasting impact on me.  I can honestly say, I am a better person because of them.  God uses this time to grow His people…to develop our character that helps shape us to carry out His divine assignments for us.  Maybe you are going through this because you are meant to help one person on this Earth.  Or maybe 10.  100.  1000s.  You just don’t know who and how many you are meant to impact with your testimony and fulfilling God’s purpose.  John 16:33

Lastly, He is trying to realign your heart.  I am so guilty fighting with God because I want to do something and it ain’t happening.  Because I want it and God says, “No ma’am.  Not today.”  He uses these times of isolation to realign our hearts to be in line with His desires and not our own.  Sometimes, we have to be taken all the way down so we depend on Him.  And this should be somewhat familiar because this is how my parents disciplined me as a child.  They took away things I liked so I would see the error of my ways.  My parents did this because they love me.  God is no different here.  He disciplines those He loves.  Hebrews 12:6

I say this all the time.  I am not someone who is the most studious christian.  I make mistakes every.single.day.  I even make mistakes when I write these.  I sin every day!  And these sins are things I know not to do!  But I like to think I am called to write these motivations week after week because God believes in me.  Sometimes, I think these are more for me and y’all are just my cheerleaders (who doesn’t love an entourage?!).  But every week, I pray that He speaks through me to help one of you.  And because I sin daily, these are just a way to stay close to Him.  1 Corinthians 1:27

Seasons come and go for a reason and every season is beautiful.  Sometimes it’s hard to see when you’re in the middle of it.  If you are in a season of isolation, just know this is an opportunity for you.  This is the BEST time for you to grow.  Lean into Him.  He is there waiting to hug you.  And for those who are not in that season, look around at those who are.  Check on them.  Stop right now, and send them a quick text.  Let them know you love them and you are there if and when they need you.

Love you all,

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  Yesterday, we had our annual Soup-er Missions Fundraiser.  Every year the OutReach Team looks at different mission opportunities.  Then, we allocate the funds from the soup-er fundraiser to those opportunities.  Each year, we have a speaker come to discuss what we are supporting that year.  This got me thinking about missions and how important they are.  So, let’s talk about it.

To start with, I am on the OutReach Team.  How many mission trips have I personally been on?  None.  That’s right.  Zero.  It was only somewhat recently that I have felt a calling to do mission work.  I am not sure how, when or where I will go but I do plan on something one day.   I feel certain God will let me know when it’s the opportunity He wants me to be a  part of.  But, being on the OutReach Team, it has opened my eyes on the importance of being a part of a church that is mission minded.

Many churches nowadays are pulled in MANY different directions.  There are different programs, needs and decisions that need to be made.  Because of this, it is easy for a church to just retreat inward.  Because let’s be honest, that’s the easiest thing to do.  But if you look at the Bible, church is meant to be outward facing.  Matthew 28:19-20 says, “Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.”  

Being mission minded is so much more than meeting once a month to talk about global missionaries and what they are doing.  It’s more than discussing and planning trips.  And I think when people hear the word missions, they think global.  And yes!  That is correct!  But it’s also a worship service.  It’s our youth group.  It’s community outreach.  AND!!  It’s about global mission efforts.  Why is this essential in our church?

Well first, it reflects the heart of God.  God has always been focused on redeeming people from every single nation.  In Acts 1:8, Jesus told His disciples that they would witness “in Jerusalem and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the earth.”  Notice in that scripture, it covers local, national and global.

Speaking of globally, we are able to engage with churches all over the world.  You see, missions are not just about helping those who are lost.  It is also about building relationships with other Christians worldwide.  We have connected with many people/churches and we are able to see how they worship (from a cultural aspect).  We stay in contact with missionaries who are on the front lines of spreading God’s word in countries who are less than thrilled with them being there.  It helps me to appreciate what I have and shows me I need to be diligent about spreading the word here in the US. 

Lastly, this about the next generation.  I want to arm and empower our kids with the word of God.  The Youth Group and Kreek Kids have a great time when they get together.  Yes, there is a lesson every day they meet.  But they are shown the importance of outreach.  Just the fact they are there and they are engaging in the group, they are products of outreach.  They take that back home.  They take that to school.  They are armed with the knowledge to make good decisions.  

Missions are so much more than I can write today.  And frankly, I don’t feel I am doing it complete justice.  I know we hear about missionaries and what they are doing but comprehending it is difficult sometimes (because we aren’t there and it’s hard to understand that people don’t have a right to worship).  We are spoiled in that respect (and thank you Jesus for that!).  But when you think about missionary work being in your own church…you see the waves it creates globally.  It’s up to us to be on the boat that creates those waves.

Love you all and see you next week,

Jennifer


Motivational Monday

Hey friends!!  Today I want to talk about something very different than my norm.  BREAD MAKING!!  I know, I know.  This isn’t a cooking show!  But stay with me here.  Let’s talk about it.

Most of you know by now, I really enjoy cooking.  And I especially enjoy baking.  Being a diabetic, baking and diabetes don’t exactly go hand in hand BUT that’s why I have many people willing to take these carbs off my hands.  Recently, I have REALLY gotten into making bread.  Without going into too much detail, I have been reading up on what preservatives are in our food.  And I have seen first hand how long store bought bread lasts versus homemade bread.  So this year, I made a pact with myself to make more of our bread (notice I didn’t say all because…that’s a lot).

After making several different types of loaves of bread, I was ready to try sourdough.  It was REALLY intimidating to me.  There are so many “rules”.  I tried a couple of years ago to start a starter and I failed miserably.  I was so defeated because I really babied it!  But this time, I felt like I could do it.  And I did!!  It took weeks for the starter to be a good, viable starter.  And then, there is the breadmaking part.    Did you know that it takes 24-48 hours to actually get a loaf of sourdough baked so you can eat it?  It has to be stretched and folded and hang out in the fridge before you can bake it or it’s no good.  Needless to say, it’s…way more than I thought.  But deep down, I really love it.  And this weekend, I was reflecting on what this process has taught me.

To start with, you really need good quality ingredients.  Since this bread was started because I was concerned about what is going into our bodies, I did research.  In fact, I devoted a crazy amount of time in studying up to make sure I was getting the most nutritional, first rate bread.  Am I that devoted to the ingredients I put into my relationship with the Lord?  Let’s just say, I can do better.  With equal parts of time and effort and a dash of attention, our relationship can bloom (like yeast) into something that never stops growing.

Not only did the starter take weeks to be ready to bake with, but the entire bread making process is time consuming.  And, I’ll be the first to admit, I am not a patient person.  But all of the best things in life take time and preparation.  You see, there are a lot of times in bread making that it looks like nothing is happening. But then you see a bubble in the dough, you then realize your hard work is paying off (this bread is going to make it!).  Kinda like how God works in your life.  You are rocking through life and you think He’s absent, and then suddenly His plan starts to unfold.  And you realize He was working the whole time.  Like your starter..

Lastly, when I make bread, it makes 2 BIG loaves.  Sure, I can freeze one and hopefully it will be good later.  But you know as well as I do, it won’t be as good as it is when it’s fresh.  So, I always give one away.  Usually it’s a neighbor or coworkers but this weekend it was taken to my momma.  I intentionally baked it for her and then hand delivered it to her.  I stayed and visited with her.  She really appreciated my efforts and I, of course, just appreciate her.  But that bread, which is nothing more than flour and water, was shared with someone I love.  It brought us together.  It doesn’t matter if it’s my mom or a stranger, we share a smile and a bond when I give it to them.  Whether they recognize it or not, this act is how Jesus taught us to live.  With love, kindness, mercy and a need to serve others.

When I started this bread making journey, I just wanted to see if: 1. I could do it and 2. I wanted to know what I was eating.  I never expected to make parallels between breadmaking to christianity.  Sure, eating and making bread is talked about all throughout the Bible.  But I didn’t really see the comparisons until I was in the throes of being patient!  Also it’s crazy how very few limited ingredients turn into nutritional, beautiful, tasty bread.  When you really stop and think about how we are to live, it’s really not hard.  In fact, the ingredients are pretty limited.  We overthink and become intimidated which sometimes causes us to give up prematurely or not start the process at all.  When it comes to breadmaking, it’s just flour, water and time.  You are not losing much.  But think about what you lose if you don’t knead your relationship with the Lord…

Love you all and see you next week!

Jennifer


Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  As I was thinking about what to write today, I was hit in the face with a subject idea (thanks to my best friend 🙂).  Judgement.  Who is supposed to pass judgment?  So let’s talk about it.

When I was younger, I used to judge others pretty harshly.  I honestly don’t know why because I never thought of myself as better than anyone else (truly).  I guess, in my mind, right is right and wrong is wrong.  As I have aged, I see there is a lot of gray in that black and white.  Maybe this is easier for me to see because I have my own past.  And in this past, I needed people to see my gray and not judge me.  But, here’s the funny part, I DID need them to judge me.  What I needed was grace, love and accountability.  And to hold someone accountable that involves judgement.  And those closest to me did and they helped change me (which I am forever grateful). 

Following Jesus is simple, but not easy.

Matthew 7:1 simply states, “Judge not, that you be not judged.”  That’s pretty direct, right?  But let’s look at the verses after that, “For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” Matthew 7:2-5.  

If you read Matthew 7:1 and nothing else, it seems pretty clear.  But when you keep reading, you realize Jesus tells listeners how to approach someone who is behaving poorly.  If you skip down to Matthew 7:15-20, Jesus says that we can discern the true character of people by observing the fruit they bear.  So, can we judge or not?  Because, as a Christian, I feel like I am in a trap.  If I judge someone, I’m a hypocrite but if I don’t then I am not spreading the true gospel.  Personal opinion here, but this feels like the devil is doing his work perfectly.  We are doubting ourselves and we are allowing Jesus’s own words to stop us.

Judging is looking at another person’s action in such a way that you are pronouncing guilt on them. But what if that person has told you they were guilty?  They are coming to you needing guidance. During his time on Earth, Jesus lived what he taught, and he regularly (and rather assertively) addressed people’s harmful choices. So it wouldn’t make sense for him to prohibit us from using discernment in our relationships or the world at large.  I believe when Jesus used the word “judge” he referred to condemning others or treating them with judgemental contempt.

Let’s go back to Matthew 7:3-5 above.  Jesus’ words suggest there is a time and place to speak up when you see a problem.  Like Jesus, we can call out wrongdoing in ways that do not condemn or diminish anyone else.  But notice that it isn’t until the final line of his metaphor that Jesus says anything about assessing another person’s behavior. The majority of his instruction is about the important first step of self-reflection.  This is where I used to fall off the wagon on the whole “judging others” thing.  My self reflection was TERRIBLE!!

Recognizing, acknowledging and addressing our own failures is a very humbling experience.  And if you have ever been in a situation where you are lost (mentally and spiritually) but you emerged on the other side…then you know.  You were humbled to your core.  From this place of honest humility, we are less likely ro judgmentally condemn or think less of others.

This week, as you are watching the news or listening to a friend/family, pay attention to your thoughts or words. Notice when judgement escapes.  Where is this coming from?  This is where self reflection comes into play.  Likewise, if a friend is telling you something that is wrong, then stand up and say something!  If they are your friend, they will appreciate you (maybe not right then but later 😂). It IS ok to hold people accountable for their sins.  Mine did.  They listened, loved me and showed me grace.  And because of this accountability and love, I chose to come out the other side.

Love you all,

Jennifer

aka just some girl trying to get in heaven

 



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  A few more days until Christmas is here!!  By now, HOPEFULLY your stress level is down and you are pumped to celebrate the birth of Jesus.  I know I am.  I can’t wait to sit back, drink my coffee and watch the fam open their gifts.

Yesterday, we spent Christmas with Jon’s side of the family for the first time since COVID.  There are a lot of reasons why we haven’t seen each other, but at the end of the day, it was easier to not get together at this time of year (we all have to drive to a central location to see each other).  This year, Jon said, “Nope.  We are getting together!”  So we did.  And it was so nice!  It was low key, easy, full of laughter and love.  Jon, Logan and I realized how much we missed them and just how much we love them!  We always loved them but you know the saying…absence makes the heart grow fonder.

This got me thinking about the season.  For most of us, this season is about love.  But what about those who are hurting?  I can see where some find this time of year as the most loveless time of year.  Where do you find love in the middle of this season where everyone is happy?  Let’s talk about it.

No matter how you feel about the Christmas season, God’s Word gives us reason to rejoice when we consider the meaning behind this holiday.  Scripture tells us that God loved ALL of us (yes, He loves those who don’t love Him) so much that he sent His only Son to save us.  Clearly this was the plan all throughout history because it was prophesied MANY times throughout the Old Testament.  When Jesus was born, the path was always to the cross where He would die to save us.  If that doesn’t define love, let me give you a few other reasons.  🙂

God is love.  If you are not familiar with God defining love, this statement might be confusing.  The Bible tells us that God is perfect.  He is patient, good and righteous.  He is not loving…he is love.  The miracle of Christmas is from the great love He has for us.  “So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.”  1 John 4:16.  

To show us, Jesus came to show us God’s love.  We all are separated from God by sin because only He is perfect.  We couldn’t fix our relationship with Him because it wasn’t possible and He knew it.  He knew He had to intervene by sending Jesus.  This was the only way we could receive salvation.  Christmas is the time of year we remember Jesus’s arrival.  “but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”  Romans 5:8

Because of Jesus, we can show God’s love to others.  As we have talked in previous weeks, it’s easy to get caught up in the gift giving aspect.  But what this time of year should tell us is to love others as God has loved us.  We need to be ready to love those who feel alone or discouraged.  It’s the time of year where we encourage others to experience the gift we all received from God.  “We love because he first loved us.”1 John 4:19

Lastly, God’s love is eternal.  This season, if you are hurting, it is most likely over rejection, bitterness or heartbreak.  God will never let you down.  He will never break a promise, lessen His love or let you go.  God gave us Jesus which is HUGE.  Do you think if someone gave you their only Son would revoke their love from you?  Nope.  THIS is something we can all rejoice in this Christmas and all throughout the year!  “So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.”  1 Corinthians 13:13

So friends, this holiday season, remember those who need extra love.  I know some say they don’t want or need love, but you know they are hurting.  If you feel like you can’t show them love by inviting them over or giving them a meal, then just pray for them.  You don’t have to tell them OR maybe you do want to tell them.  If you are someone who is hurting this season and you need/want to feel God’s love, please come to our service tomorrow night at 6pm.  It’s always short and we don’t care what you wear!  What I can promise you is people will be smiling and happy.  We will introduce ourselves but we won’t be annoying, I promise!  If you want to sit next to me, I always sit on the right side as you walk in.  I am a little more than halfway up and I sit on the vent.  🙂  It’s my unofficial assigned seat.  No matter what, please come and feel His love this season.  

Merry Christmas,

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

Hey Friends!  IT’S FINALLY HERE!!!  December!  Christmas!  THE CANTATA!!!  WOOHOO!  Seriously, the Cantata is THIS SUNDAY.  Listen, we might be a small church but the Cantata sure is mighty.  Amy, the choir, those playing instruments, and guys in the sound booth do such a great job every.single.year.  Please go if you have never been.  Please go if you have been!

When I first mentioned December and Christmas, what was your response?  Were you happy, sad, or stressed?  I want to go down the stressed road today.  Why are you stressed?  I am going to go out on a limb and say it’s finances.  Am I right?  Let’s talk about it.

When Jon and I got married, we were broke.  And when I say broke, we were broke.  And then BAM!  I got pregnant with Logan.  God planned him perfectly but Jon and I were not prepared.  So after a year of daycare, diapers, formula and all of our other bills that we couldn’t afford, we were bankrupt.  Literally.  The house was in foreclosure.  The cars were getting repo’d.  It was bad.  We had no choice but to declare bankruptcy.  

We wanted to keep everything we had (because we couldn’t afford NOT to).  So we filed a chapter 13 which means we had to pay it all back within 5 years.  And guess what?  We paid it back in 3 years!  But there were a million tears shed.  Lots of hours worked.  And we became a connoisseur of hotdogs.  😏  

When Christmas rolled around during those years, my stomach would hurt because of stress.  I wasn’t worried about Jon and I.  I mean we knew our situation and we just dealt with it.  But Logan.  We loved that little boy more than ANYTHING and we wanted to give him the world (still do).  We never wanted him to know we were struggling.  So it was a facade.  I was so thankful for our families picking up any pieces we fell short on when it came to gift giving.  We got through it.  Logan was not impacted negatively.  And we are better financial stewards because of this time.  So I wouldn’t change it.

So why do we give gifts at Christmas?  I mean hello!  It’s not our birthday, it’s Jesus’s birthday.  And the last I checked, I don’t get gifts on my husband’s birthday.  

I think what is important to remember when giving gifts is the meaning behind it.  2 Corinthians 9:15 says, “Thanks be to God for his inexpressible gift!”  he wasn’t talking about that Bath and Body Works set you were eyeing.  He’s talking about His son.  The very essence of Christmas is about generosity, kindness, grace and giving.  God gives God for the enjoyment of his people, whom he saves by giving his Son to suffer. That’s beautiful. It is the heart of Christmas.

Second, we give to Christ.  Now, I want to be clear here.  God does not want you to buy anything.  I mean, he has zero use for a Lowes gift card.  He’s not interested in you trading anything with Him.  Seriously, He gave you His son.  You can’t compete with that (and He doesn’t want you to!).  But what He does want…your time.  Commitment from you.  Yes, I know it’s hard and there are a million reasons why “you can’t today”.  But stop and think about what gift would be equal to what He did for you.  I’ll wait.  Spoiler alert!  There’s not one.  You can make time for Him.

Lastly, we need to give in the right mindset.  2 Corinthians 8:2, “for in a severe test of affliction, their abundance of joy and their extreme poverty have overflowed in a wealth of generosity on their part.”  One more…Hebrews 13:16, “Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God.”  When giving gifts, you need to do it in the mindset of giving back to Christ.  That is the gift of trust, hope, admiration, joy and affection.  

So, if you are worried about gift giving at Christmas, please hear me when I say, STOP.  I promise God did not give you His son for you to worry about gifts.  Christmas is truly not about financial hardship.  Your children will love you if you can’t afford that XBox.  And if you can’t afford it, that doesn’t make you less of a parent.  And it sure doesn’t mean you love them less.  

So, if you are someone feeling this stress, please pray.  I would pray specifically for peace, love and joy in your life and for your family.  If you are someone who is more fortunate, remember you are blessed.  Your generosity can positively impact someone’s life forever.  Can you remember a time someone was generous to you?  You have never forgotten it or how it made you feel.  That feeling needs to be shared because it gushes love, joy, trust, and hope…like God.  Like what Christmas should be.

Love you all, 

Jennifer



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