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Motivational Monday

Hey Friends!  IT’S FINALLY HERE!!!  December!  Christmas!  THE CANTATA!!!  WOOHOO!  Seriously, the Cantata is THIS SUNDAY.  Listen, we might be a small church but the Cantata sure is mighty.  Amy, the choir, those playing instruments, and guys in the sound booth do such a great job every.single.year.  Please go if you have never been.  Please go if you have been!

When I first mentioned December and Christmas, what was your response?  Were you happy, sad, or stressed?  I want to go down the stressed road today.  Why are you stressed?  I am going to go out on a limb and say it’s finances.  Am I right?  Let’s talk about it.

When Jon and I got married, we were broke.  And when I say broke, we were broke.  And then BAM!  I got pregnant with Logan.  God planned him perfectly but Jon and I were not prepared.  So after a year of daycare, diapers, formula and all of our other bills that we couldn’t afford, we were bankrupt.  Literally.  The house was in foreclosure.  The cars were getting repo’d.  It was bad.  We had no choice but to declare bankruptcy.  

We wanted to keep everything we had (because we couldn’t afford NOT to).  So we filed a chapter 13 which means we had to pay it all back within 5 years.  And guess what?  We paid it back in 3 years!  But there were a million tears shed.  Lots of hours worked.  And we became a connoisseur of hotdogs.  😏  

When Christmas rolled around during those years, my stomach would hurt because of stress.  I wasn’t worried about Jon and I.  I mean we knew our situation and we just dealt with it.  But Logan.  We loved that little boy more than ANYTHING and we wanted to give him the world (still do).  We never wanted him to know we were struggling.  So it was a facade.  I was so thankful for our families picking up any pieces we fell short on when it came to gift giving.  We got through it.  Logan was not impacted negatively.  And we are better financial stewards because of this time.  So I wouldn’t change it.

So why do we give gifts at Christmas?  I mean hello!  It’s not our birthday, it’s Jesus’s birthday.  And the last I checked, I don’t get gifts on my husband’s birthday.  

I think what is important to remember when giving gifts is the meaning behind it.  2 Corinthians 9:15 says, “Thanks be to God for his inexpressible gift!”  he wasn’t talking about that Bath and Body Works set you were eyeing.  He’s talking about His son.  The very essence of Christmas is about generosity, kindness, grace and giving.  God gives God for the enjoyment of his people, whom he saves by giving his Son to suffer. That’s beautiful. It is the heart of Christmas.

Second, we give to Christ.  Now, I want to be clear here.  God does not want you to buy anything.  I mean, he has zero use for a Lowes gift card.  He’s not interested in you trading anything with Him.  Seriously, He gave you His son.  You can’t compete with that (and He doesn’t want you to!).  But what He does want…your time.  Commitment from you.  Yes, I know it’s hard and there are a million reasons why “you can’t today”.  But stop and think about what gift would be equal to what He did for you.  I’ll wait.  Spoiler alert!  There’s not one.  You can make time for Him.

Lastly, we need to give in the right mindset.  2 Corinthians 8:2, “for in a severe test of affliction, their abundance of joy and their extreme poverty have overflowed in a wealth of generosity on their part.”  One more…Hebrews 13:16, “Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God.”  When giving gifts, you need to do it in the mindset of giving back to Christ.  That is the gift of trust, hope, admiration, joy and affection.  

So, if you are worried about gift giving at Christmas, please hear me when I say, STOP.  I promise God did not give you His son for you to worry about gifts.  Christmas is truly not about financial hardship.  Your children will love you if you can’t afford that XBox.  And if you can’t afford it, that doesn’t make you less of a parent.  And it sure doesn’t mean you love them less.  

So, if you are someone feeling this stress, please pray.  I would pray specifically for peace, love and joy in your life and for your family.  If you are someone who is more fortunate, remember you are blessed.  Your generosity can positively impact someone’s life forever.  Can you remember a time someone was generous to you?  You have never forgotten it or how it made you feel.  That feeling needs to be shared because it gushes love, joy, trust, and hope…like God.  Like what Christmas should be.

Love you all, 

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  I am so glad you are here!  Y’all.  I love Thanksgiving.  I used to be the person that felt like it was a “eh” holiday but as I have gotten older, I really appreciate it.  I am super excited about it this year and I hope you are too!

This week I want to talk about the Bible.  I know, I know!  I talk about it every week.  But THIS week, I want to talk about what’s NOT in the Bible.  Am I crazy?  Of course I am!  Let’s talk about it!

I believe most people in this world are good, well meaning people.  Look, I know there is evil in this world.  I am not naive.  However I believe, as Christians, we say (and believe!) things we have heard that’s in the Bible and we repeat them.  We repeat them out of love and support because these things sound really nice.  But these things are…unbiblical.  So I want to talk about some unbiblical statements that we hear the most often.

“God wants me to be happy.”  I appreciate that you relate God to happiness.  But God wants you to be obedient.  He wants you to trust Him.  He wants us to believe that everything He does for us is for our own good.  And sometimes, what is good for us will not make us happy.  And we need to realize that is ok!  It’s ok to be unhappy.  I know that’s a VERY unpopular opinion. But listen, you can’t justify sinful behavior with, “God wants me to be happy.”  It just doesn’t work that way.  “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28).

“We are all God’s children.”  Hopefully the person who said it originally meant God created everyone.  And that is true.  But unfortunately, we are NOT all God’s children.  Only those who have repented of sin, placed their faith in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior, and possess the Holy Spirit of God inside of them can claim Him as their Father: “But you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!” The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God” (Romans 8:15–16).

“Cleanliness is next to godliness.”  Such a good southern saying!  I know as a child when I came in sweaty and stinky my parents wanted to just bathe.  And, as a parent,  I can appreciate that!  I mean, we have all been around some stinky people.  It happens.  But nowhere in the Bible does that statement occur.  Can you imagine the smell of the lepers?  Or heck!  What about people in general at that time?  There was no deodorant!    You didn’t see Jesus saying, “You stink.  I can’t help you because you are dirty.”  It was quite the opposite.

“God won’t give you more than you can handle.”  My personal favorite.  This is always said when you are overwhelmed with life.  And, I know the person telling you this is well meaning.  But friends..this statement is just not true.  Life is more than we handle because we live in a fallen world.  It is more than WE can handle which is why God wants us to surrender to Him!  God has a way of getting you on your knees…so give it to Him.

“Bad things happen to good people.”  I know you’re thinking, “well I don’t see how that statement is inaccurate.”  But in order to believe this statement, you would have to believe we are all inherently good.  And as Romans 3:10 states, “As it is written: ‘None is righteous, no, not one’”.  We, human Christians, are the ones judging what is good and bad.  This is human nature but inaccurate.  When we say this (or believe this), I think our heart hurts for someone else because we see them hurting.  We need something to help us make sense of what’s happened and that statement is sort of a bandaid.  When we just need God.  

I can name more but these are just a few.  And I do want to say, I truly believe when people use these sayings they want what is best for you.  And I believe they believe it’s in the Bible.  I don’t believe Christians purposely spread false information.  I believe their heart is in the right place.  One thing I’ve had to learn (and I’m still learning) is your words can’t fix their problem and vice versa.  So I think it is best to listen to state facts.  Even if all you can say is, “I am so sorry you are going through that!  What can I do to help you?  I will pray for you.” 

This week, I would like to assign you a little bit of homework.  Reflect on a statement you have said or one you have heard.  Then, I would like you to look up scripture in the Bible to see if it’s there OR supports what you have heard.  I think you will be surprised at what you learn.  

See you next Sunday,

Jennifer



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