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Hey friends! Today we will be wrapping up our back to school series. As I have said in this series a couple of times, if your child(ren) does not have a strong foundation that you set, they will have difficulty standing firm in their beliefs. I’m a grown woman and I have trouble! Can you imagine a 10 year old?! So let’s get to talking.

I am all over social media. Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, X to just name a few. And truth be told, I have a love/hate relationship with it. We have talked about it on several occasions in these motivations. I like that I can stay connected and I like the opinions of others. But, social media can skew perceptions of people, places and even words. Social media can make or break businesses all over one person’s bad experience. I am SO GLAD social media wasn’t around when I was learning to drive! I would have been on my city’s page with a picture of my car and tag!

One of the buzzwords of today’s culture is courage. There are a lot of messages geared toward kids especially of what it means to be courageous. To take risks and follow their dreams. To pursue self-actualization. To have the courage to be themselves, accept themselves and love themselves. But that definition is a lie. You are basing that courageous behavior on the “I am enough” culture. But you aren’t and neither are your kids. You see faith begins at the core of we are NOT enough. We are all sinners and deserve God’s wrath (Ephesians 2:1-3) but instead, we receive mercy by providing for us and the salvation in Christ. Christ is enough, not you.

By telling your child they are not enough, give them courage…the right courage.

People, in general, want to be liked and accepted. Perception is key. For instance, you see a friend on social media driving a fancy car, living in a fancy house, travelling all the time and has met the “love of their life”. But a year later, their life is crumbling. All the smiles, money and love was just a farce. They did that to “keep up with the Joneses” as momma would say. I just gave you a scenario as an adult, children are no different. Peer pressure hits every age.

Biblical courage is not the absence of fear. In fact, they fear the right thing. (Proverbs 1:7). We need to teach our kids to live before God. They don’t need to worry about being condemned by their peers because God is the only one with that power (Romans 8:33-34). But we don’t want to motivate them out of fear…that’s not the point. We, as parents and loved ones, need to instill courage by pointing out the reality that Jesus already paid the price for our sins. They don’t have to fear their peers because the Lord has already declared there’s no condemnation for those who are in Christ (Romans 8:1).

Biblical courage comes out of confidence that we are God’s children. We don’t need to prove ourselves to others because we should live to please Him. Not the other way around. And as adults, it’s so easy for us to say, “Don’t worry about what little Josh is saying. He’s just trying to hurt you!” But your child is watching you. They see you fall to peer pressure. Their peer pressure may seem silly to you because “it’s kid stuff”. But, it is the exact same thing you are succumbing to but on a bigger, financial level. Right?

So, at the end of the day, no. You are not enough. And that’s exactly where you need to be. That’s exactly where your kids need to be. It’s not a bad place. It’s a place of knowing and needing the Lord. You can face all of life’s circumstances with courage.

Love you all and see you next week,

Jennifer

Motivational Monday- Back to School Edition 3

By Jennifer Robbins

On August 18, 2025

In Motivational Monday, News and Announcements

Hey friends! I am so glad you stopped in. This week, I want to continue our Back to School series on preparing your kids for school. By now, most kids have started school BUT that shouldn’t stop us from continuing to help them cultivate their faith while battling the peer pressure of today. So, let’s continue to talk about it.

I have A LOT of faults. A.LOT. But one of things that I do well is admit when I am wrong. In fact, I have had coworkers pull me to the side and say, “You didn’t have to be THAT transparent.” 🙄. But one thing I am NOT good at is asking for help. And this could be asking for help for anything. Putting together a piece of furniture, writing a report or even something to do with my mental health. In my crazy way of thinking, I don’t want to be judged as weak. And asking for help is a sign of weakness.

Part of helping our kids as they go back to school is reminding them they are learners. They aren’t in charge, they don’t make the rules and they don’t know everything (but if you have a teenager, they might tell you differently). Teaching humility is teaching vulnerability. No one likes to feel vulnerable because that exposes a weakness.

But, did you know that being vulnerable is a spiritual practice? You see, God knows our imperfections. He knows our struggles. God doesn’t see our weakness as weakness. God sees it as an opportunity for you to lean into Him. He’s a patient father and He remembers we’re but dust and has compassion on us in our weakness, (Psalm 103:13-14). Cultivating the self-awareness in our children that they are needy and they don’t know everything helps them to live in a posture that teaches them to depend on God. Plus, recognizing you have much to learn is a hallmark of wisdom: “Listen to advice and accept instruction,” the Proverbs advise, “that you may gain wisdom in the future” (Proverbs 19:20).

Some of you are reading this and you are thinking, “Good thing my kid is humble! They are great learners. They make straight A’s, never get into trouble, and are captain of the football team. Really what more could I say about them?” And I want to be clear here, seriously, that is awesome. And you should pat them on the back and remind them they are making great decisions. And you as a parent are doing something right too! But…where did this rock star come from?It didn’t come from you or them. It came from Him. “What do you have that you did not receive?” the apostle Paul asks the Corinthians (1 Corinthians 4:7). As their parents, you need to remind them to grow in gratitude.

I know this series is geared for school age kids but can you see yourself fighting to stay humble? You know, a lot of times when we think of someone who’s prideful, that has a negative tone. But when you stop and see yourself where you are weak, do you believe you are being prideful OR is pride getting in the way? I know it’s the same thing, but is it? To me it’s where the intent falls.

This week, when you are listening to the kids talk about their day, make sure to point out areas where you see an opportunity to have a lesson on humility. That sounds like a negative conversation but don’t let it be. This needs to be normal, everyday conversation. No finger pointing or tearing them down (whether it’s intentional or not). Your kid is just trying to make it (like you) and reminding them they aren’t perfect AND they aren’t expected to BE perfect, might actually help them. It’s ok to ask for help and to not know it all.

Love you all and see you next week,

Jennifer

Motivational Monday- Back to School Edition 2

By Jennifer Robbins

On August 11, 2025

In Motivational Monday, News and Announcements

Hey friends! Today we are continuing our Back to School series. This series is geared towards helping children transition back into school all while bolstering their faith. This gives them courage, love and humility. So, let’s CONTINUE to talk about it! 😉

Last week, I told you about my first big job as a bank teller. One of the things they taught me was how to spot counterfeit money. For some reason, I was fascinated by this! And because I was fascinated, I REALLY studied the different bills and what made them authentic. Because the only way you can spot the fake ones is to know the real ones, right?

Kids need to know the core truths of the Christian faith. When you send your kid to school, they are facing the “real world”. Their faith will be questioned and trials will follow. Will they be like the man who dug down deep and built his house upon a rock? (Luke 6:48) Will they “be prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks” them for the reason for their hope? (1 Peter 3:15). Teaching the foundations of faith is based on what and why.

What is the what?

That’s easy! I know we have all heard this before but kids are sponges. Their little brains are ready to soak up knowledge. This is peak time to make sure they KNOW the Bible. They know the truth so they can draw from that knowledge for a lifetime. We can help them store up God’s word in their hearts, so they’ll be equipped to fight temptation when it comes (Psalm 119:20). By giving them the what, it’s an investment in your child’s life…entire life. They will encounter false gospels and false gods no matter how hard you try to protect them. So, you have to arm them.

What is the why?

You can teach your kids what we believe all day and they may or may not retain it. But, if you give them the why behind it it shows our faith has substance. There’s two ways you can teach the why: digging deeper in the faith with your child or allowing your child to ask questions. Personally, I have taught both ways but I prefer the second option and I’ll tell you why. When children learn the what and think about it and turn it into a question, then you know they are genuinely thinking about what is being said. Also, it challenges me! I don’t always know the answer and again, I’m ok with that. I LIKE letting them know that I don’t know the answer and we look for the answer together.

When a child asks a why question that sounds like they are questioning the faith, it’s ok. A questioning faith is a stronger one. How you respond to the question (not the question itself) will dictate a lot of their feelings towards faith. You know, when you teach the why it’s ok to elaborate on why people leave and reject Jesus. It’s ok to expose false narratives that are being taught. It’s ok to admit to them if you have ever had doubts or struggles. Curiosity will come. And, if they’ve never seen it before, it might be bright and shiny, even as it leads to death (Proverbs 16:25).

I think sometimes, we are scared of questions. We think if we can’t answer questions, that’s a reflection on our faith. And you have even been around a child for 5 minutes, sometimes they can ask hard questions because they usually have no filter. As adults, you need to remember that God has provided us with a family within our homes and within His church that can help with questions if needed. That’s why we are all here. Questions shouldn’t be looked at as a sign of their faith unraveling. Reassuring them it shows a deeper confidence in God as they ask for answers.

Love you all and see you next week,

Jennifer

Motivational Monday

By Jennifer Robbins

On July 14, 2025

In Motivational Monday, News and Announcements

Hey friends! So glad you are here AND I am so glad I’m here. 🙂 I don’t know about you but summers are hectic. What’s odd is that my “child” is an adult so I don’t have an excuse. I used to think the older I got, life would slow down but so far I am still wide open! Why is that? I don’t know either. Which is a great segway into this week’s motivation…I don’t know. Let’s talk about it.

I know you have probably reread that last line and you’re confused. It’s ok. Lately, I stay in a constant state of confusion. It doesn’t matter if I’m at work or at home, one of the things I have said a lot lately is, “I don’t know. I just work here.” Lately, life has been full of shoulder shrugging and “I don’t knows”. That used to bother me. I realized I liked to be in control but now…now, I’m ok with not knowing certain things. And, let me be super transparent with that last sentence. If I could control it, I probably would. That’s just who I am. But, I genuinely believe God’s got me. Knowing and believing that God’s got me, offers a peace that is difficult to put into words. But if you struggle in this category, does it make a bad Christian? I literally giggled as I wrote that question because it’s absurd. Of course you’re not.

Those of us who like control (like me) want clarity on every situation. We want to know the why in every situation. Fun fact, ain’t gonna happen. It’s nice to know but God doesn’t owe that to you. Scripture tells us, “Trust in Him at all times, you people; Pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us” (Psalm 62:8). Trust.in.Him. If you are having an issue, God is your immediate refuge. When you seek refuge, you may not know what’s next but you’re safe.

A name that comes to mind when thinking about trust vs clarity is Noah. Here’s a dude that was told to build a huge, HUGE boat. It is dry as bone and here Noah is, building away. You know his neighbors were talking about him! “Hey Betty! I think Noah is off his rocker. He said God told him to build this thing because there’s going to be a flood. What’s he going to do? Save the town??! Bahahaha!” Noah never asked for clarity. He did as he was told and I am sure was judged for it.

I think most of us like a strategic plan. And we appreciate a copy of said plan. Why? So we aren’t surprised. We are prepared for what’s ahead. Good or bad. But when Jesus said, “Follow me” 21 times in 12 different conversations throughout the Bible, it was never followed with “and I’ll tell you what’s going on”. When He said to follow Him, it is an alignment of our lives to His teachings. You see, as a Christian you have been given a gift. Faith, not certainty, is the single most important ingredient to a life pleasing to God (Hebrews 11:6).

So, I say ALL OF THIS to say, I don’t know. I don’t know what’s next. I don’t know how long I have on this Earth. I don’t know if World War 3 is going to happen. I don’t know if or when the ice cream machine is working at McDonald’s. And you know what? By worrying about it, I can’t change it. Why? Because, God. He loves me and He loves you. Even if you are struggling in your faith because you are having uncertainty in your life. He wants you to lay it at His feet and give it to Him.

Love you all,

Jennifer

Motivational Monday

By Jennifer Robbins

On June 30, 2025

In Motivational Monday, News and Announcements

Hey friends! Thank you for allowing me to take the week off last week for VBS. As always, it was a success! Kathy and all the volunteers do such an amazing job and these kids just love it. All the effort in the props, the Bible stories, and the food. Seriously, chef’s kiss. We might be a small church but one thing I know…we do VBS (among other things 🙂) RIGHT!

Today’s motivation is brought to you by the weather and the raging heat and humidity we have all endured this last week. 😂 Ok, ok, I’m joking but not. Over the last week, I have talked to many people who have been frustrated…including myself! The fuse has been short and I have been blaming the heat. Which is probably a huge portion of it BUT this got me to thinking. And you know what that means, let’s talk about it.

When we look at frustration at its core, it’s an emotional response to opposition to the fulfillment of an individual will. That is a nice way of saying, when we don’t get what we want, we aren’t happy. So, I want you to envision your current frustration (whatever that may be) as a roadblock. And the bigger the frustration, the bigger the roadblock. You are headed down this road, because we have a special assignment that only we can do by God. That’s why we are put on this Earth, right? And you get to the roadblock. If you are doing God’s will, why is it there? Well…funny you should ask. Go back to that first sentence of this paragraph. WE aren’t getting what WE want. What WE want and God’s will are two very different things.

So, let’s talk about a time in the Bible when frustration was high. For the record, there are A LOT of examples. Can you imagine Jesus’s frustration level??! Anyway, let’s go way back to the Old Testament because frustration has been around for a HOT minute. Moses. He leads the Israelites out of Egypt and into the wilderness and then BAM! Things don’t go as planned. Probably because they were OVER having it hard for 400 years. So they get frustrated with Moses and questioned him as to why he led them out of Egypt to die in the wilderness. They even said it would have been better in Egypt (pause story. Really? Would they have really been better in Egypt? No ma’am. They were just mad and they were probably in the heat and there were skeeters around…can you feel their pain? Ok, unpause story).

As the story goes, you realize they became angry because of the obstacles in the path. They could only see the roadblock and not God. Now, in their case, some of them completely left the path and found new gods, which, woah. They got WAY off course. But, not to ruin the story if you are unaware, but God showed them! He showed them He was in charge by giving miraculous provisions like manna and quail. But…He wasn’t super happy with their frustration level so they stayed in the wilderness for another 40 years. Back in the OT, God would show HIS frustration level more openly. But, you can see the entire lesson there, right? He gave them good times and bad times but it was all for His glory and their growth.

Like you and your frustration. It’s what we do with it and how we respond.

What is important in frustrating times is to focus on blessings. I know, I know. It’s hard when you’re mad. Deuteronomy 28:2 says, “And all these blessings shall come upon you and overtake you, if you obey the voice of the Lord your God.” And when you are counting your blessings, it IS ok to feel the frustration. Even Jesus felt emotions. We just don’t need to get stuck in those emotions. Once you have your meltdown, ask God to realign you to His will and stop thinking your path is His path.

Look, I want to tell you that as a Christian, we will experience frustrations here and there. But to be fair, that is just not going to happen. I get frustrated over something everyday. It can be something simple like breadcrumbs left in the butter or something bigger like a deadly illness, whether it’s you or someone you love. And I know I am sitting here writing this, like I am a pro at managing my frustrations but I’m not. I just know a guy that helps me with all my frustrations and He is literally a prayer a way.

Love you all,

Jennifer

PS- Remember y’all. It’s hot. It’s humid. Fuses can be a little shorter and frustration can happen a little quicker than normal. Go find some AC and talk to God. ♥️. My experience says, that helps 😉

Motivational Monday

By Jennifer Robbins

On June 9, 2025

In Motivational Monday, News and Announcements

Hey friends! I am so glad you stopped by. Today, I want to talk about validation. Where do you get your validation from? Is it ok to want people to like you? Let’s talk about it.

As I do every Monday, I think about the previous week and decide what to write about today. I was laying in bed and I opened TikTok. I follow a K-9 police officer and he’s great. He’s funny, vulnerable and just wholesome. When I opened the app, there he was giving a Monday message (oddly enough, I have never seen him give a message like this one). He said, “Stop trying to find validation in a world that crucified the perfect man.” And that really hit me. Wow. I like to think of myself as someone who doesn’t need earthly validation but I do. Let me give you examples: needing to be reassured, people pleasing, difficulty in making decisions alone, feeling anxious without approval, over apologizing, overachieving to gain praise, comparing yourself to others, and list could go on and on. Do you see yourself in any of those? Transparency moment..I see myself in every.single.one of these.

So the pressing question, is it wrong? As with every Motivational Monday most answers are not quite black and white. There are a lot of gray areas. So the answer is mostly yes and some no. I’ll explain.

If you look at the examples I gave above, it all boils down to being liked. Which means we naturally want to seek approval, fit a certain mold, wanting to belong and feel accepted. But if you have ever been in this place of wanting these things it’s exhausting, frustrating and a lot of times end in disappointment. It’s an emotional roller coaster. For me personally, I struggle with wanting to be the best christian I can be (which can be difficult depending on the day). I feel like I need to be an example so I see myself needing to be validated by what I am doing. I know it sounds silly but that’s just how I think. But then, I think, didn’t God make me this way?

Actually, yes. Isaiah 43:4 shows us that God designed us in a way that we yearn to belong. But here’s the thing, if we are looking for approval from others (even godly people) we will never truly feel validated. They will fail you as YOU will fail them. This is because they can’t fill our souls with what we truly need. And truth be told, it’s unfair for you to place them on a pedestal for them to give the feeling of validation.

But if he designed us in a way of wanting to be validated, how is this wrong? What does God say about it? I need receipts!

So glad you asked. Let me deliver.

When you seek validation from others, it can be swept up by emotions, compromise our beliefs, and grow frustrated because they (whoever they are) are not living up to our expectations. In Galatians 1:10, Paul points out that if we are constantly trying to please people, we are not serving Christ. We literally can’t do both. 1 Thessalonians 2:4, tells us that we have the honor of sharing the gospel. So, basically, we can’t twist what the Bible says to fit their narrative. And in Acts 5:29, Peter warns of people pleasers. Pride cannot get in the way by wanting validation from others and placing ourselves above God.

Well, how can I determine if I am seeking external validation because I thought I was doing pretty good in the department? Same friend. I thought I was good but I realize I need work.

Here’s some scripture to help you weigh your personal situation.

Examine Intent- Galatians 6:4 reminds us to test our actions and motivations. Are you doing this for comparisons? Are you expecting or wanting an atta boy?
Consider your response to reactions- 1 Peter 2:23 shows us that despite Jesus facing insults and suffering, he did not retaliate or seek revenge. This teaches us our self worth should not be defined by others.
Quantity and quality of sharing- Matthew 7:6 shows us the importance of discernment in sharing aspects of lives with others. Listen, not everyone needs to know everything and that’s ok. Some people are negative. You can choose to not share certain highs and lows because it will expose you to negativity from certain people.
Dependency on external validation- Galatians 1:10 tells us who we need to seek approval from and it’s not those here on Earth. Our focus would be on pleasing God and not people.
Check your feelings- Philippians 4:4 tells us to find joy in relationship with God. Remember, true joy comes from within and not in people.

This week I want you to challenge you in being honest about your validation on Earth. Can you relate to these things and if so, how are some ways you change to seek validation in the Lord?

Love you all,

Jennifer

Motivational Monday

By Jennifer Robbins

On June 2, 2025

In Motivational Monday, News and Announcements

Hey friends! June is a big month for marriages. How do I know? Well, next Saturday, Jon and I will be celebrating our 23rd wedding anniversary. I’ll be honest, some days I didn’t think 23 years would ever get here! Marriage is hard but definitely doable with Jesus (and yes! Marriage needs Jesus!) So, let’s talk about it.

In our 23 year marriage, we have had countless. Yep. I stopped there. Countless. Countless fights, annoyances, and financial hardships (I’m really selling this marriage thing aren’t I?) But, we have also had countless laughs, deep discussions, happiness, adventures, teamwork, pets 🙂, but most importantly, love. Having been married for 23 years, Jon and I have learned a thing a two and I suspect we will continue to learn a thing or two here and there. We are not experts, because the Lord knows we need help daily, but here are a few things we have learned along the way.

First, marriage is about “we” and not “me”. Listen, when we first got married, I wanted things done my way. We HAD to have certain things (that we couldn’t afford). Jon was there trying to get me to see that WE couldn’t do those things. Listen, marriage was created to embody selfless love, just as Christ poured himself out as a sacrifice (Isaiah 53:12). In a biblical marriage, God calls us to prioritize “we” over “me.” I honestly didn’t know how selfish I was until I got married.

Second, marriage is about the long haul. Nowadays, the mindset is, “Well, if it doesn’t work out, we will get divorced.” No, no. You took an oath before God. The apostle Paul begins the familiar “love” passage in 1 Corinthians with the words, “Love is patient.” Patience in marriage is vital for a healthy relationship. Relationships have seasons. Some seasons are GREAT and others not so great. But we have to be patient to wait out the bad seasons. Scripture says: The Lord is not slow about his promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance. (2 Pet. 3:8-9, Rom. 2:4).

Third, marriage is a covenant and not just a contract. Jon will playfully say, “Listen. I got papers on you!” Of course, this is just a joke but marriage is more than a piece of paper. Marriage is God’s idea. Genesis 2:24 says: “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Just as God created an everlasting covenant with his people, marriage is a solemn and binding covenant between a man and a woman made before God (Eph. 5:32). We are taught to treat everyone with Christ like love. And yes, that includes your spouse. It is so easy for your spouse to be the brunt of a bad day.

Lastly, and probably most controversial, marriage is counter cultural and not conformist. I’ll explain. Ephesians 5:22-24: “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.” In today’s time, many have an issue with this passage because some believe it justifies abuse. In a Christian marriage, a husband’s role requires that he love his wife enough to lay his life down for her as Christ did for the church. God calls wives to respond to that radical Christ-like love with submission. (1 Pet. 2:13, 22-25, 5:5, Eph. 5:21). Ultimately, God requires husband and wife to submit to Him.

As sassy and headstrong as I am, when Jon says stop or no, I listen. I don’t do it because I don’t want to fight. I don’t do it because I’m scared of him. I don’t do it because I am a submissive person. I do it because I trust him. I KNOW he’s looking out for me or us. When he speaks authoritatively, I listen. And to be clear, he doesn’t abuse this either. In fact, he knows me well enough to know that I am more prone to do the EXACT opposite if he gets too sassy.

Listen, my marriage is not perfect. It won’t ever be because we are two flawed people trying our hardest to be the best for God and for each other. I have learned that our marriage is not defined by our disagreements. It is not defined by a bad day or the times we thought about giving up. Our marriage is about trusting God to be the driving force. And just like everything in the world, you start at the top and it trickles down from there.

Love you all,

Jennifer

Motivational Monday

By Jennifer Robbins

On May 12, 2025

In Motivational Monday, News and Announcements

Hey friends! How was your Mother’s Day? I hope you spent it with loved ones. I know holidays can be a difficult time for some (no matter the holiday). Holidays are a time that brings up memories…sometimes good and sometimes bad. Holidays can also leave us feeling lonely. So let’s talk about it.

There have been times in my life where I felt very alone. And trust me, I was never really alone. My husband, son and all our 8 million animals have always been there physically for me. In fact, there are times when being physically alone might’ve been nice at the time. 😉 But the alone I am referring to is being mentally alone. And, we have all been there no matter your age. This could be something small and insignificant to something huge like a loss of a loved one. But let’s be honest, the small things are usually the ones that come and go the most in life. Do you ever feel guilty about it?

Fun fact! Did you know May is Mental Health Awareness Month? It’s ok, I didn’t either until recently. But how appropriate this topic came up during this month.

Is it appropriate for Christians feel lonely? Well of course it is! If you listened to Pastor Scott’s sermon yesterday, he talked about Jesus having emotions. Can you imagine how lonely Jesus felt on the cross after He was betrayed by His disciples? I mean, man. What about in the Garden of Gethsemane when He wanted his disciples with Him yet they were asleep? If you have ever felt lonely, it’s not a good feeling at all. So why does God allow it?

Why does God allow anything bad to happen? He can stop or start anything He wants. So why does this happen? Well, just like all things, we have free will. Let me tell you how my mind works on this. We are a rubber band. When something happens, our rubber band is stretched. Sometimes just a little and sometimes it’s stretched to the max. Sometimes it stretches a little and little more and little more. But there is a time when the rubber band is going to break or you have to relieve the tension. What relieves the tension? God. Yep. Just God. Seeking Him and allowing Him to work through you resets your rubber band.

I think what is important when loneliness hits you is to compartmentalize it. That way, once you know where it falls, you will know how to correct it, right?

Situational Christian Loneliness– This is where we don’t have enough friends and/or family.This could be more of in general or maybe you moved. So how do you combat that without making friends in an unchristian-like manner? Always be proactive in making friends. Listen, years ago, I met a lady while she was working at Publix. Today, I hug her when I see her out and I keep up with her on social media. You never know who or where you are going to meet someone! And social media…it’s great and it’s not so great. It’s great because you can stay in touch. And just go to church! I can’t tell you the amount of friends I have now just because I go to church. You don’t have to get involved in everything. Just go. Trust me. These people will be your friend!
Emotional Christian Loneliness– Honestly speaking, this is what I experience the most. This is where you DO have friends and family but you feel like they don’t love you. This sounds really dramatic as I write it but we all experience it. This can be something as simple as not being invited to a party or social event you feel like you should have been invited to. This one is hard to get around because you are in your head. It is important to remember to not set unrealistic expectations for how people love you. You need to believe they do love you. Also, envy is a terrible thing. Envy sets the stage for loneliness (one of the downsides of social media). Remember, study your own lawn. Don’t worry why their grass is so green. And just be thankful! Thank Him everyday for what you have and WHO you have.
Social Christian Loneliness– Where are my introverts? Shocker. Y’all are in the back. These are your socially awkward people, introverts and those with low self esteem. That all sounds bad but I promise…it’s not. My husband is an introvert and we complement each other well but it was a learning curve. So for those of you that struggle in this area, make sure to renew your mind daily. Have your quiet time with God. Ask Him to help you connect with others who see you as you are.
Spiritual Christian Loneliness– This is where you don’t feel close to God. Or maybe you feel like God let you down. Listen friends, if this is where you are, know that it’s ok. But know that relationship needs to be fixed asap. You need to work on your relationship with God. That’s the only way to get out of that loneliness. Jeremiah 29:13 says, “You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.” Tell God how you feel even if it’s not pleasant! Trust me, He knows what you’re thinking anyway. You might as well say it. If you are struggling to talk to Him and you are not there yet, start a new habit of renewing your mind. This could be self driven or group driven Bible study or maybe just journaling. Write it down! Write Him letters.

I would love to tell you that my life is perfect and I never experience loneliness. I am extroverted and I seem confident. In reality, there are days that it is all a show. And it’s normally something pretty small that causes me to get that way because I am in my head. All I am saying, you are not alone. You are never alone because you have Him. He is literally a prayer away. And listen, when I’m struggling, I just start talking. He knows and He loves me for it.

Love you all (and I mean it),
Jennifer

Motivational Monday

By Jennifer Robbins

On May 5, 2025

In Motivational Monday, News and Announcements

Hey friends! I hope you were all able to make it to Homecoming this year. I heard it was phenomenal (as usual). Listen, we know how to cook and eat, don’t we? I missed it this year for good reason. My nephew graduated from college and I, of course, wanted to go and support him in his accomplishment. So today’s topic…it would be a huge foul if I didn’t talk about Mother’s Day since it is this upcoming Sunday. So mommas…is motherhood a duty or a privilege? Let’s talk about it.

Several weeks ago, Logan came to me and informed me he wanted to go skydiving. He expected me to just lose it but instead, I shrugged my shoulders and said, “Just be careful.” I mean, what could I really say that would stop him? Not to mention, I have thought about skydiving myself. I waited several weeks to tell my mom (his beloved granny) about him skydiving. She ABSOLUTELY lost it. In fact, she called Logan and asked him to rethink his choices. I had to have a talk with her and tell her that no matter what we said, he would do what he wanted. She sighed and said, “Well, he is your child.” 😆 Sigh.

As a kid, it was never my goal to stress her out. It’s just that I live my life as a “we only live once’” type of mentality. If it’s something I am interested in, then…I research it and do it or not. But I put it to bed one way or another. That’s Logan. But after that comment, I worried that I upset her more than I should have because parenthood is hard! We don’t have all the answers even when we are expected to have one. There are days where task after task sucks all the joy out of your day. Or your child acts out or is sick. And you just run on autopilot.

This is going to sound cliche but it is so important to find the joy in your life. And if you are a mother, especially find joy everyday in motherhood. YES!! Even those days your kid wants to skydive. Psalm 127:3 says, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.” You see…your child was given to you for you to take care of and raise. But your child doesn’t belong to you. Your child belongs to God. God entrusted you with their soul.

And the funny thing about kids, they are all unique (like fingerprints!). And as they grow, they change every way possible (physically, emotionally, mentally). As I am writing this, I think of a rubix cube. When one thing changes, three other things change. Think about that for just a second. Slowing down just a little and realizing that stuff you have to do, can wait. You don’t need a perfect house. You need to make memories.

So to answer the original question, is motherhood a duty or a privilege? Truthfully, both and I don’t think it a bad thing to admit that to ourselves. The word “duty” sounds negative but why? It IS our duty to raise, nurture, model faith and character, discipline and just be a positive influence. Is that a privilege as well? Yes. 100%. But it’s all a mindset…your mindset.

I absolutely love being a mother to Logan. He brings me happiness and joy that I never knew I needed. If you are reading this, you have a mother. This mother might be someone who legally (or not) adopted you or birthed you. Some of us have a lot of “mothers” in our life who would be there in a heartbeat if we called and needed them. This Mother’s Day, make sure to tell all the moms in your life how much they mean to you. Just like you, moms are also unique. Some ok skydiving and others don’t…and that’s ok.

Love you,
Jennifer

Motivational Monday

By Jennifer Robbins

On April 21, 2025

In Motivational Monday, News and Announcements

Hey friends! Wasn’t yesterday just beautiful? And I mean beautiful for so many reasons! I know Easter is once a year but it is so important to remember ALL YEAR what He did for us and our salvation. Which is an awesome segway into our motivation this week…

Have you ever gone through something and felt alone? Of course, you have family and friends all around you but you feel…isolated. You feel as though no one understands what you are going through. You are stuck in your head. OR, you have been isolated from friends and/or family and it’s devastating. And you asked, “Why me? Why now?” Well, let’s talk about it.

As you all know, I am a talker. An overall extrovert. But when something is wrong in my life, I retreat. And when I say retreat, I am a turtle that you just came up on from behind. I ain’t coming out of that shell until I am safe. To be fair, my “safe” is usually working things out in my head. This can last a day to months. Which is why I am involved in church as much as I am. Church doesn’t allow me to be in my shell long because I have people who call and text to say, “Where have you been? We’ve missed you.” I have a sense of accountability to those people and I don’t want to let them down.

But in the seasons where I have retreated and I was isolated, they were not good times in my life. Something was wrong. So, it was hard on me mentally. I guess because I did isolate myself, I talked to God a lot. I can remember times trying to make deals with Him. I know that’s not how it works (and I knew it then), I just wanted Him to intervene and make things better. I wanted to know why this was happening. Why is God isolating me?

Well, first, He wants your focus on Him. Listen. I know I say this every week on Mondays and Pastor Scott says it every week in church and in his midweek messages but God loves you. He really does. You are here on this Earth, because He put you here. He wants you to choose Him like He chose you. Maybe this season of isolation is to get your attention. We all have a to-do list and we are all crazy busy. Sometimes we push Him to the back because we know He will be there always. Well, maybe this is His way of saying, “Um ma’am. Hi. I need you to focus on me and not that list.”

During these times, God is protecting you. We all come to God at different places in our life and because of this, we all have unique testimonies. However, God may ask us to let go of certain people, environments, vices, ungodly habits, etc. You can’t hold onto those things because God has bigger plans for you. And there are LOTS of times, you don’t understand why. And that’s ok. It’s your job to know the whys behind everything. It’s your job to trust and obey Him. Jeremiah 29:11 and Hebrews 11:6 are great verses to back this up. 🙂

From personal experience, these isolations have a lasting impact on me. I can honestly say, I am a better person because of them. God uses this time to grow His people…to develop our character that helps shape us to carry out His divine assignments for us. Maybe you are going through this because you are meant to help one person on this Earth. Or maybe 10. 100. 1000s. You just don’t know who and how many you are meant to impact with your testimony and fulfilling God’s purpose. John 16:33

Lastly, He is trying to realign your heart. I am so guilty fighting with God because I want to do something and it ain’t happening. Because I want it and God says, “No ma’am. Not today.” He uses these times of isolation to realign our hearts to be in line with His desires and not our own. Sometimes, we have to be taken all the way down so we depend on Him. And this should be somewhat familiar because this is how my parents disciplined me as a child. They took away things I liked so I would see the error of my ways. My parents did this because they love me. God is no different here. He disciplines those He loves. Hebrews 12:6

I say this all the time. I am not someone who is the most studious christian. I make mistakes every.single.day. I even make mistakes when I write these. I sin every day! And these sins are things I know not to do! But I like to think I am called to write these motivations week after week because God believes in me. Sometimes, I think these are more for me and y’all are just my cheerleaders (who doesn’t love an entourage?!). But every week, I pray that He speaks through me to help one of you. And because I sin daily, these are just a way to stay close to Him. 1 Corinthians 1:27

Seasons come and go for a reason and every season is beautiful. Sometimes it’s hard to see when you’re in the middle of it. If you are in a season of isolation, just know this is an opportunity for you. This is the BEST time for you to grow. Lean into Him. He is there waiting to hug you. And for those who are not in that season, look around at those who are. Check on them. Stop right now, and send them a quick text. Let them know you love them and you are there if and when they need you.

Love you all,

Jennifer