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Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  Spring is HERE!!!  Guess what else is here?  Pollen. 👎🏻 I know, I know.  I should be grateful and I am…but everything is just so….yellow.  And, I am a loud sneezer.  Anyway, we are NOT talking about pollen or my less than quiet sneezes today.  Today, I want to talk about friendships but not in the happy go lucky traditional, motivational way.  I want to talk about friendship breakups.  Is it ok?  Let’s talk about it.

I think most of you know me as outgoing.  When you’re outgoing, you tend to naturally meet people easily.  And I have met A LOT of people and I have had the honor of making A LOT of friends.  Some of these people are “just friends” to “they know so much about me it’s scary and they better stay quiet about it”.  But have you ever made friends with someone, developed a relationship with them and then (for whatever reason) you decided you were no longer compatible?  Or!  Have you been the friend that was broken up with?  Unfortunately, I have been both.  Both situations are hard for different reasons.

If you read up on ending friendships, people are conflicted if it’s ok as a christian.  We are taught to be kind and patient.  To help those who are suffering and to love them unconditionally.  And all of that is absolutely true.  But the Bible also teaches boundaries.  When you draw boundaries, that doesn’t give you (or them) the right to be mean or rude.  So, in saying that, I believe it IS ok for friendships to end.

Some friendships are seasonal.  In the summer of ‘99, I met a group of girls who were seasonal friends.  Literally, one summer we were inseparable and had a BLAST!  Because of them, I met Jon!  After that summer, we parted ways for one reason or another.  It wasn’t a harsh split.  We had just…moved on.  Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 sums it up perfectly.  Some friends might last you a lifetime and some might be for a season.  I have never, ever seen or heard from these girls again.  In fact, I can’t remember their last name.  But because of them, I met my love.  I understand why God led me in that season.

Some of these friendships are a little more complicated.  When you parted ways, it wasn’t because “you just moved on”.  It’s because you or them realized you were not on the same page morally.  We have all had this friend.  You love them.  They are so much fun!  Until they aren’t.  One day, while you are laughing and having a good time, you suddenly see something that’s “not cool”.  Then you notice other things they are doing that just don’t align with your christian beliefs.  When you see this, you stop and think about all the times you laughed or went along with their bad behavior.  You realize YOU have allowed them to compromise your beliefs. 1 Corinthians 15:33 warns us of these friends.  Even someone with the best character can be impacted by the company they keep. 

And then there are times, God leads us to do something different.  Have you heard the saying, “You can’t see the forest for the trees”?  Well, we can be pretty stubborn.  We may think this friend is GREAT!  But God, right?  He knows.  He has a way of leading us in different directions when He sees we are not prioritizing Him.  Wanna know how I know this?  Matthew 15:38 shows us Jesus drew a boundary and was very aware of how he was investing His time.  

As I am wrapping up, I know there are other verses that support the contrary.  Again.  You are not wrong.  But I would encourage you to read not just one verse.  Read the context.  When you have a friend breakup, this doesn’t mean you have to go out in a blaze of glory.  No, you can’t call them a name when they call you one (I know, I know.  I struggle too).  In fact, walking away peacefully and prayerfully is one of the most loving ways to end a friendship.

Love you all,

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  Yesterday, we had our annual Soup-er Missions Fundraiser.  Every year the OutReach Team looks at different mission opportunities.  Then, we allocate the funds from the soup-er fundraiser to those opportunities.  Each year, we have a speaker come to discuss what we are supporting that year.  This got me thinking about missions and how important they are.  So, let’s talk about it.

To start with, I am on the OutReach Team.  How many mission trips have I personally been on?  None.  That’s right.  Zero.  It was only somewhat recently that I have felt a calling to do mission work.  I am not sure how, when or where I will go but I do plan on something one day.   I feel certain God will let me know when it’s the opportunity He wants me to be a  part of.  But, being on the OutReach Team, it has opened my eyes on the importance of being a part of a church that is mission minded.

Many churches nowadays are pulled in MANY different directions.  There are different programs, needs and decisions that need to be made.  Because of this, it is easy for a church to just retreat inward.  Because let’s be honest, that’s the easiest thing to do.  But if you look at the Bible, church is meant to be outward facing.  Matthew 28:19-20 says, “Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.”  

Being mission minded is so much more than meeting once a month to talk about global missionaries and what they are doing.  It’s more than discussing and planning trips.  And I think when people hear the word missions, they think global.  And yes!  That is correct!  But it’s also a worship service.  It’s our youth group.  It’s community outreach.  AND!!  It’s about global mission efforts.  Why is this essential in our church?

Well first, it reflects the heart of God.  God has always been focused on redeeming people from every single nation.  In Acts 1:8, Jesus told His disciples that they would witness “in Jerusalem and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the earth.”  Notice in that scripture, it covers local, national and global.

Speaking of globally, we are able to engage with churches all over the world.  You see, missions are not just about helping those who are lost.  It is also about building relationships with other Christians worldwide.  We have connected with many people/churches and we are able to see how they worship (from a cultural aspect).  We stay in contact with missionaries who are on the front lines of spreading God’s word in countries who are less than thrilled with them being there.  It helps me to appreciate what I have and shows me I need to be diligent about spreading the word here in the US. 

Lastly, this about the next generation.  I want to arm and empower our kids with the word of God.  The Youth Group and Kreek Kids have a great time when they get together.  Yes, there is a lesson every day they meet.  But they are shown the importance of outreach.  Just the fact they are there and they are engaging in the group, they are products of outreach.  They take that back home.  They take that to school.  They are armed with the knowledge to make good decisions.  

Missions are so much more than I can write today.  And frankly, I don’t feel I am doing it complete justice.  I know we hear about missionaries and what they are doing but comprehending it is difficult sometimes (because we aren’t there and it’s hard to understand that people don’t have a right to worship).  We are spoiled in that respect (and thank you Jesus for that!).  But when you think about missionary work being in your own church…you see the waves it creates globally.  It’s up to us to be on the boat that creates those waves.

Love you all and see you next week,

Jennifer


Motivational Monday

Hey friends!!  Today I want to talk about something very different than my norm.  BREAD MAKING!!  I know, I know.  This isn’t a cooking show!  But stay with me here.  Let’s talk about it.

Most of you know by now, I really enjoy cooking.  And I especially enjoy baking.  Being a diabetic, baking and diabetes don’t exactly go hand in hand BUT that’s why I have many people willing to take these carbs off my hands.  Recently, I have REALLY gotten into making bread.  Without going into too much detail, I have been reading up on what preservatives are in our food.  And I have seen first hand how long store bought bread lasts versus homemade bread.  So this year, I made a pact with myself to make more of our bread (notice I didn’t say all because…that’s a lot).

After making several different types of loaves of bread, I was ready to try sourdough.  It was REALLY intimidating to me.  There are so many “rules”.  I tried a couple of years ago to start a starter and I failed miserably.  I was so defeated because I really babied it!  But this time, I felt like I could do it.  And I did!!  It took weeks for the starter to be a good, viable starter.  And then, there is the breadmaking part.    Did you know that it takes 24-48 hours to actually get a loaf of sourdough baked so you can eat it?  It has to be stretched and folded and hang out in the fridge before you can bake it or it’s no good.  Needless to say, it’s…way more than I thought.  But deep down, I really love it.  And this weekend, I was reflecting on what this process has taught me.

To start with, you really need good quality ingredients.  Since this bread was started because I was concerned about what is going into our bodies, I did research.  In fact, I devoted a crazy amount of time in studying up to make sure I was getting the most nutritional, first rate bread.  Am I that devoted to the ingredients I put into my relationship with the Lord?  Let’s just say, I can do better.  With equal parts of time and effort and a dash of attention, our relationship can bloom (like yeast) into something that never stops growing.

Not only did the starter take weeks to be ready to bake with, but the entire bread making process is time consuming.  And, I’ll be the first to admit, I am not a patient person.  But all of the best things in life take time and preparation.  You see, there are a lot of times in bread making that it looks like nothing is happening. But then you see a bubble in the dough, you then realize your hard work is paying off (this bread is going to make it!).  Kinda like how God works in your life.  You are rocking through life and you think He’s absent, and then suddenly His plan starts to unfold.  And you realize He was working the whole time.  Like your starter..

Lastly, when I make bread, it makes 2 BIG loaves.  Sure, I can freeze one and hopefully it will be good later.  But you know as well as I do, it won’t be as good as it is when it’s fresh.  So, I always give one away.  Usually it’s a neighbor or coworkers but this weekend it was taken to my momma.  I intentionally baked it for her and then hand delivered it to her.  I stayed and visited with her.  She really appreciated my efforts and I, of course, just appreciate her.  But that bread, which is nothing more than flour and water, was shared with someone I love.  It brought us together.  It doesn’t matter if it’s my mom or a stranger, we share a smile and a bond when I give it to them.  Whether they recognize it or not, this act is how Jesus taught us to live.  With love, kindness, mercy and a need to serve others.

When I started this bread making journey, I just wanted to see if: 1. I could do it and 2. I wanted to know what I was eating.  I never expected to make parallels between breadmaking to christianity.  Sure, eating and making bread is talked about all throughout the Bible.  But I didn’t really see the comparisons until I was in the throes of being patient!  Also it’s crazy how very few limited ingredients turn into nutritional, beautiful, tasty bread.  When you really stop and think about how we are to live, it’s really not hard.  In fact, the ingredients are pretty limited.  We overthink and become intimidated which sometimes causes us to give up prematurely or not start the process at all.  When it comes to breadmaking, it’s just flour, water and time.  You are not losing much.  But think about what you lose if you don’t knead your relationship with the Lord…

Love you all and see you next week!

Jennifer


Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  I hope you are all doing well.  If you have missed it, Pastor Scott has been preaching a series called, “Good Stories From The Good Shepherd”.  It’s REALLY good.  If you have missed a week or two, no big deal!  Just look on Facebook and all his sermons are there waiting on you to watch them!  I highly recommend them.

You are enough.  Love yourself.  You are perfect just the way you are!  Do these saying ring a bell to you?  In our world today, we hear these a lot.  You see them printed on notebooks, shirts, hats etc. mostly targeting young women.  Are these right?  Are we enough?  Are we perfect just the way we are?  Should we love ourselves?  Let’s talk about it.

This is the part of my motivation where I tell you a story about me.  But this week, I have been in a situation where I have sat back and watched someone spiral downward.  I’ll be honest, being someone on the outside looking in, it’s heartbreaking.  I want to grab them and yell, “Get it together! Stop this nonsense!”  And to me, it is nonsense.  Because I care about them.  This person’s family cares about them.  This person’s neighbors care about them!  We all love this person.  They just don’t love themself.  Because of this situation, I’ve really had a long hard look at myself.

While growing up as a christian, I was always told to love God and love others.  It was pretty clear cut.  But Matthew 22:37-39 states, “And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”  Did you see that last part?  Love your neighbor as you love yourself. This got me to thinking.  The grace I show others is directly related to the grace I show myself. In the way I care for my mental, physical, and emotional needs will also be the way I invest in caring for the needs of those around me. The way I learn to have compassion on myself is the way that I would have love and compassion for others.

We all know the song, “Jesus Loves Me”.  And as a christian, we don’t doubt His love for us, right?  And the Bible clearly states we are to love others, right?  Well, if we are going to do what Jesus tells us to do (which is love others) don’t you think love has to come from within?  

Now, John MacArthur has a different take on the verse above.  He states in The MacArthur Bible Commentary, “Contrary to some contemporary interpretations, it does not mandate self-love. Rather, it contains in different words the very same idea as the Golden Rule. It prompts believers to measure their love for others by what they wish for themselves.”  Many believe self-love takes the focus off loving God and pursuing Him.  Philippians 2:3 says, “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.”  

Well, Jennifer…what is the right answer?

Well, after looking at all sides of the Bible, I think it’s a balance.  I do believe all the, “You are enough” sayings are silly.  Because, that’s false.  YOU are not enough without Him.  YOU are not perfect just the way you are.  YOU need to seek Him for…everything.  But do I believe God wants us to not love ourselves to the point mistreating our body?  Absolutely not and there is scripture to back that up.  I believe loving yourself enough to know YOU can’t do this alone is the balance.  

Love you all,

Jennifer


Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  Thank you for letting me have an off week.  It was my birthday and Valentine’s week so it was a busy week.  One of the many reasons I love the month of February is because it is centered around love.  We talk about love a lot in these motivations but today I want to focus on christian love.  So, let’s talk about it.

Most of you know me in real life (unlike the internet one! 🙂).  In real life, I have (more than) a few tattoos.  I have the word “love” tattooed twice on me.  Once on my left ring finger (for my love, Jon) and the second is a bible verse.  1 Corinthians 16:14, “Let all that you do be done in love.”  I got this verse for many reasons.  But the first and foremost reason was to be able to witness to nonbelievers.   This verse speaks to me.  If everyone did everything in love, this world would be a great place.  I think even nonbelievers would agree, right?

Now, I love my husband.  I do.  But the easiest love is my son.  Sure, he gets on my nerves but in my mom mind, the love you have for your child is the closest you will ever experience to pure love.  It’s the closest love we can experience as  how our Father loves us.  Every person on Earth is a child of God whether they are a believer or not.  Our God created everything you see.  Look around…everything.  And He did this for YOU.  He did it for me.  He did it for all of us. YES!  Even those who hate Him.  AND, He gave us HIS only son.  Can you imagine allowing your child to use his life to pay for our salvation when we could care less about it?  I can’t either.  This love is agape love.  

Agape love is the desire to do good for others, even enemies, and is not based on feelings. If you are anything like me, it is hard to separate feelings from doing good.  I can’t tell you how many times I have to walk away to just think.  In my younger days, I erroneously just reacted.  I am definitely not perfect but I can tell you I have mellowed as I have gotten older.  This more mellow Jennifer usually allows the opportunity to consult with God and ask questions.  There are times I listen and there are times I don’t because I allow emotions to get in the way.  I say this all the time, it’s because I’m human.  Let me be clear when I say, that is no excuse for bad behavior.  It’s just important to know that’s how God made us.  Why did He make it hard on us?  I don’t know exactly (I’ll ask when I get to heaven) but I feel certain it was a way to constantly seek Him.

Then, there is unconditional love.  I think unconditional love and agape love are very similar but different.  Unconditional love is what I believe is the closest most of us come to agape love.  Let me sum up unconditional love.  Jesus.  Jesus helped.  Jesus loved.  BUT, Jesus also held people accountable.  Unconditional love doesn’t mean allowing people to live a sinful life without you calling them out.  It is your duty as a christian to tell them what they’re doing is wrong.  This isn’t being judgemental.  This is love.  Remember, be careful of your delivery.  When Jesus called people out, He did this with love and not hate.

And then, there is forgiving those who need to be forgiven.  As a friend, I am going to tell you some bad news.  People will hurt your feelings.  They may do it intentionally or unintentionally.  But when you are on the receiving end of that hurt, intentional or not, it hurts all the same.  It will be up to you on how you deal with that hurt.  As a byproduct of that hurt, it will shape you.  Will you become bitter and angry?  Or will you let go?  What I can tell you is God is there to help you through it.  And once you DO forgive, that is love.  To just put it in perspective, can you truly love someone who hurt you bad enough to not forgive them?  I know I couldn’t.  

Love is hard and complicated because we have feelings.  Love is an emotion that is hard to control.  Love is the backbone of who we are or who we want to be.  I used to say God tests us but I think God stretches us like a muscle.  When a muscle is used and stretched for the first time in a long time, it hurts.  It might hurt to use that muscle after it’s been worked but you still do it because you have to go about your day.  Hopefully, you have used that muscle enough to where you don’t injure yourself too bad and need surgery.  But with a little ice or a little heat, you are usually just fine.  God wants to be our day to day life.  He is our ice and heat.  And if it’s too bad, He’s the only surgeon I want.

Love you all (and I promise I do!!),

Jennifer


Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  As I was thinking about what to write today, I was hit in the face with a subject idea (thanks to my best friend 🙂).  Judgement.  Who is supposed to pass judgment?  So let’s talk about it.

When I was younger, I used to judge others pretty harshly.  I honestly don’t know why because I never thought of myself as better than anyone else (truly).  I guess, in my mind, right is right and wrong is wrong.  As I have aged, I see there is a lot of gray in that black and white.  Maybe this is easier for me to see because I have my own past.  And in this past, I needed people to see my gray and not judge me.  But, here’s the funny part, I DID need them to judge me.  What I needed was grace, love and accountability.  And to hold someone accountable that involves judgement.  And those closest to me did and they helped change me (which I am forever grateful). 

Following Jesus is simple, but not easy.

Matthew 7:1 simply states, “Judge not, that you be not judged.”  That’s pretty direct, right?  But let’s look at the verses after that, “For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” Matthew 7:2-5.  

If you read Matthew 7:1 and nothing else, it seems pretty clear.  But when you keep reading, you realize Jesus tells listeners how to approach someone who is behaving poorly.  If you skip down to Matthew 7:15-20, Jesus says that we can discern the true character of people by observing the fruit they bear.  So, can we judge or not?  Because, as a Christian, I feel like I am in a trap.  If I judge someone, I’m a hypocrite but if I don’t then I am not spreading the true gospel.  Personal opinion here, but this feels like the devil is doing his work perfectly.  We are doubting ourselves and we are allowing Jesus’s own words to stop us.

Judging is looking at another person’s action in such a way that you are pronouncing guilt on them. But what if that person has told you they were guilty?  They are coming to you needing guidance. During his time on Earth, Jesus lived what he taught, and he regularly (and rather assertively) addressed people’s harmful choices. So it wouldn’t make sense for him to prohibit us from using discernment in our relationships or the world at large.  I believe when Jesus used the word “judge” he referred to condemning others or treating them with judgemental contempt.

Let’s go back to Matthew 7:3-5 above.  Jesus’ words suggest there is a time and place to speak up when you see a problem.  Like Jesus, we can call out wrongdoing in ways that do not condemn or diminish anyone else.  But notice that it isn’t until the final line of his metaphor that Jesus says anything about assessing another person’s behavior. The majority of his instruction is about the important first step of self-reflection.  This is where I used to fall off the wagon on the whole “judging others” thing.  My self reflection was TERRIBLE!!

Recognizing, acknowledging and addressing our own failures is a very humbling experience.  And if you have ever been in a situation where you are lost (mentally and spiritually) but you emerged on the other side…then you know.  You were humbled to your core.  From this place of honest humility, we are less likely ro judgmentally condemn or think less of others.

This week, as you are watching the news or listening to a friend/family, pay attention to your thoughts or words. Notice when judgement escapes.  Where is this coming from?  This is where self reflection comes into play.  Likewise, if a friend is telling you something that is wrong, then stand up and say something!  If they are your friend, they will appreciate you (maybe not right then but later 😂). It IS ok to hold people accountable for their sins.  Mine did.  They listened, loved me and showed me grace.  And because of this accountability and love, I chose to come out the other side.

Love you all,

Jennifer

aka just some girl trying to get in heaven

 



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  Listen…LISTEN!!  I live in Alabama because I don’t do cold.  Honestly, I don’t love hot weather but I’ll take it over cold.  It.is.cold!  Have y’all been outside today??!  What in the world?!  As my teeth were chattering in the car, I started thinking about what the weather would be like in heaven (because this is NOT heaven to me 🙂).  Once I started going down that path, I thought of a million other questions!  So let’s talk about it.

Every week with these Motivational Mondays, we always talk about praying, doing the right thing, loving the Lord, etc.  We do all of this to keep our eyes on the prize and that’s eternity in heaven.  Heaven isn’t the only prize in all of this but we are promised eternity with our Lord and Savior.  But have you ever thought about heaven?  Sure you have…we ALL have.  Now, I have never been but I hear the accommodations are phenomenal!  Like you never want to leave phenomenal, which is good because well, you are there to stay.  So today, I wanted to address a few common questions about heaven.

Before I start, I’ll be the first to admit that I DON’T have all the answers (and this applies to ALL Motivational Mondays).  I try to put personal feelings aside and look at things from a Biblical stance.  If I do state a personal feeling, I try to explain why I personally feel that way.  Because I have never been to heaven or have spoken to anyone personally who has been and came back, I am not sure I have all the accurate answers to questions but we can try.

Will we have bodies and live human lives?  When I envision heaven, I appear (in my head) as my physical appearance.  I envision seeing my loved ones and even my previous pets there.  I have always thought that we might look different (maybe we are our younger selves) but we know who each other are.  I think heaven is a place of pure beauty with lush green fields, waterfalls and produce galore (I don’t know if we will need to eat but maybe…?).  We will laugh with joy and be merry all the time.  And I believe this will involve all of those in heaven we love.  Why? We were/are created in God’s image.  God is creative (I mean, look out your window) and intelligent.  I would imagine heaven is a place that fulfills God’s original plan.

Will we still be ourselves with our memories of this life?  When Jesus died on the cross and he arose from the dead, Luke 24:36-40 says, “As they were talking about these things, Jesus himself stood among them, and said to them, ‘Peace to you!’ But they were startled and frightened and thought they saw a spirit. And he said to them, ‘Why are you troubled, and why do doubts arise in your hearts? See my hands and my feet, that it is I myself. Touch me, and see. For a spirit does not have flesh and bones as you see that I have.’ And when he had said this, he showed them his hands and his feet.”  Jesus didn’t turn into anyone else.  He was Jesus.  And Jesus remembered what happened to him because he showed his hands and feet.  To be fair, when he arose and spoke, he wasn’t in heaven.  Isaiah 65:17 says, “‘For behold, I create new heavens and a new earth, and the former things shall not be remembered or come into mind.’”

I genuinely hope I am me when I get heaven and I hope I remember the good in this life.  I am sure I will be the best version of me which is sinless.  Based on the above scriptures, I am inclined to believe we will be ourselves with possibly some memory.

Will there be animals and will past pets be there?  Okay friends, if you know ANYTHING about me at all, it’s that I am a HUGE animal lover.  I love all animals.  I am sure that one day when I die, I will be trying to pet something that will eat me.  I pray for animals almost as much as I pray for humans.  So before answering this question, I felt the need to be 100%transparent.

As you know from reading scripture, the Bible is full of references of animals.  The Bible is clear about how important animals are to us.  God didn’t put them on earth because they are cute (but they are cute!)  Animals are the second most important inhabitants on the planet.  So what about heaven?  Isaiah 65:25 says, “‘The wolf and the lamb shall graze together; the lion shall eat straw like the ox,and dust shall be the serpent’s food. They shall not hurt or destroy in all my holy mountain,’says the Lord.”  When the Lord said this he was referring to the new heavens and a new earth.  I think this shows that we will cohabitate with animals.  Maybe in heaven, I can pet all the animals without fear of being eaten!

So for our past pets to be there…I don’t know.  There is nothing I can point to in the Bible to say, “This!  This is it right here!”  What I can say (personal feeling here), is God knew all my animals would be my pet.  He knows the great joy they bring me and because he is mighty and loving God, it would be just like him to have our animals waiting on us.  At least, that is my hope.  But again, I am biased when it comes to animals.

As stated earlier, I don’t have all the answers about heaven.  But I can’t imagine a heaven where love isn’t first and foremost.  I mean the Lord is there for us to love.  He will be right.there.  So, if we love things here on earth that were created by him and were “good”, I can’t imagine it not being a part of heaven.  That’s our love for each other, our love to help one another, our love for beautiful natural things, and our love (and/or appreciation) of animals.  I don’t want to leave this earth until my service here is done.  But, BUT!  I can’t wait to see heaven!  I can’t wait to see what is in store for me.  And I can’t wait to see all of you there where we can worship the Lord together, eternally.

Love you all,

Jennifer


Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  A few more days until Christmas is here!!  By now, HOPEFULLY your stress level is down and you are pumped to celebrate the birth of Jesus.  I know I am.  I can’t wait to sit back, drink my coffee and watch the fam open their gifts.

Yesterday, we spent Christmas with Jon’s side of the family for the first time since COVID.  There are a lot of reasons why we haven’t seen each other, but at the end of the day, it was easier to not get together at this time of year (we all have to drive to a central location to see each other).  This year, Jon said, “Nope.  We are getting together!”  So we did.  And it was so nice!  It was low key, easy, full of laughter and love.  Jon, Logan and I realized how much we missed them and just how much we love them!  We always loved them but you know the saying…absence makes the heart grow fonder.

This got me thinking about the season.  For most of us, this season is about love.  But what about those who are hurting?  I can see where some find this time of year as the most loveless time of year.  Where do you find love in the middle of this season where everyone is happy?  Let’s talk about it.

No matter how you feel about the Christmas season, God’s Word gives us reason to rejoice when we consider the meaning behind this holiday.  Scripture tells us that God loved ALL of us (yes, He loves those who don’t love Him) so much that he sent His only Son to save us.  Clearly this was the plan all throughout history because it was prophesied MANY times throughout the Old Testament.  When Jesus was born, the path was always to the cross where He would die to save us.  If that doesn’t define love, let me give you a few other reasons.  🙂

God is love.  If you are not familiar with God defining love, this statement might be confusing.  The Bible tells us that God is perfect.  He is patient, good and righteous.  He is not loving…he is love.  The miracle of Christmas is from the great love He has for us.  “So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.”  1 John 4:16.  

To show us, Jesus came to show us God’s love.  We all are separated from God by sin because only He is perfect.  We couldn’t fix our relationship with Him because it wasn’t possible and He knew it.  He knew He had to intervene by sending Jesus.  This was the only way we could receive salvation.  Christmas is the time of year we remember Jesus’s arrival.  “but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”  Romans 5:8

Because of Jesus, we can show God’s love to others.  As we have talked in previous weeks, it’s easy to get caught up in the gift giving aspect.  But what this time of year should tell us is to love others as God has loved us.  We need to be ready to love those who feel alone or discouraged.  It’s the time of year where we encourage others to experience the gift we all received from God.  “We love because he first loved us.”1 John 4:19

Lastly, God’s love is eternal.  This season, if you are hurting, it is most likely over rejection, bitterness or heartbreak.  God will never let you down.  He will never break a promise, lessen His love or let you go.  God gave us Jesus which is HUGE.  Do you think if someone gave you their only Son would revoke their love from you?  Nope.  THIS is something we can all rejoice in this Christmas and all throughout the year!  “So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.”  1 Corinthians 13:13

So friends, this holiday season, remember those who need extra love.  I know some say they don’t want or need love, but you know they are hurting.  If you feel like you can’t show them love by inviting them over or giving them a meal, then just pray for them.  You don’t have to tell them OR maybe you do want to tell them.  If you are someone who is hurting this season and you need/want to feel God’s love, please come to our service tomorrow night at 6pm.  It’s always short and we don’t care what you wear!  What I can promise you is people will be smiling and happy.  We will introduce ourselves but we won’t be annoying, I promise!  If you want to sit next to me, I always sit on the right side as you walk in.  I am a little more than halfway up and I sit on the vent.  🙂  It’s my unofficial assigned seat.  No matter what, please come and feel His love this season.  

Merry Christmas,

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

Hey Friends!  IT’S FINALLY HERE!!!  December!  Christmas!  THE CANTATA!!!  WOOHOO!  Seriously, the Cantata is THIS SUNDAY.  Listen, we might be a small church but the Cantata sure is mighty.  Amy, the choir, those playing instruments, and guys in the sound booth do such a great job every.single.year.  Please go if you have never been.  Please go if you have been!

When I first mentioned December and Christmas, what was your response?  Were you happy, sad, or stressed?  I want to go down the stressed road today.  Why are you stressed?  I am going to go out on a limb and say it’s finances.  Am I right?  Let’s talk about it.

When Jon and I got married, we were broke.  And when I say broke, we were broke.  And then BAM!  I got pregnant with Logan.  God planned him perfectly but Jon and I were not prepared.  So after a year of daycare, diapers, formula and all of our other bills that we couldn’t afford, we were bankrupt.  Literally.  The house was in foreclosure.  The cars were getting repo’d.  It was bad.  We had no choice but to declare bankruptcy.  

We wanted to keep everything we had (because we couldn’t afford NOT to).  So we filed a chapter 13 which means we had to pay it all back within 5 years.  And guess what?  We paid it back in 3 years!  But there were a million tears shed.  Lots of hours worked.  And we became a connoisseur of hotdogs.  😏  

When Christmas rolled around during those years, my stomach would hurt because of stress.  I wasn’t worried about Jon and I.  I mean we knew our situation and we just dealt with it.  But Logan.  We loved that little boy more than ANYTHING and we wanted to give him the world (still do).  We never wanted him to know we were struggling.  So it was a facade.  I was so thankful for our families picking up any pieces we fell short on when it came to gift giving.  We got through it.  Logan was not impacted negatively.  And we are better financial stewards because of this time.  So I wouldn’t change it.

So why do we give gifts at Christmas?  I mean hello!  It’s not our birthday, it’s Jesus’s birthday.  And the last I checked, I don’t get gifts on my husband’s birthday.  

I think what is important to remember when giving gifts is the meaning behind it.  2 Corinthians 9:15 says, “Thanks be to God for his inexpressible gift!”  he wasn’t talking about that Bath and Body Works set you were eyeing.  He’s talking about His son.  The very essence of Christmas is about generosity, kindness, grace and giving.  God gives God for the enjoyment of his people, whom he saves by giving his Son to suffer. That’s beautiful. It is the heart of Christmas.

Second, we give to Christ.  Now, I want to be clear here.  God does not want you to buy anything.  I mean, he has zero use for a Lowes gift card.  He’s not interested in you trading anything with Him.  Seriously, He gave you His son.  You can’t compete with that (and He doesn’t want you to!).  But what He does want…your time.  Commitment from you.  Yes, I know it’s hard and there are a million reasons why “you can’t today”.  But stop and think about what gift would be equal to what He did for you.  I’ll wait.  Spoiler alert!  There’s not one.  You can make time for Him.

Lastly, we need to give in the right mindset.  2 Corinthians 8:2, “for in a severe test of affliction, their abundance of joy and their extreme poverty have overflowed in a wealth of generosity on their part.”  One more…Hebrews 13:16, “Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God.”  When giving gifts, you need to do it in the mindset of giving back to Christ.  That is the gift of trust, hope, admiration, joy and affection.  

So, if you are worried about gift giving at Christmas, please hear me when I say, STOP.  I promise God did not give you His son for you to worry about gifts.  Christmas is truly not about financial hardship.  Your children will love you if you can’t afford that XBox.  And if you can’t afford it, that doesn’t make you less of a parent.  And it sure doesn’t mean you love them less.  

So, if you are someone feeling this stress, please pray.  I would pray specifically for peace, love and joy in your life and for your family.  If you are someone who is more fortunate, remember you are blessed.  Your generosity can positively impact someone’s life forever.  Can you remember a time someone was generous to you?  You have never forgotten it or how it made you feel.  That feeling needs to be shared because it gushes love, joy, trust, and hope…like God.  Like what Christmas should be.

Love you all, 

Jennifer



Thankful Tuesday

Hey Friends!  I thought in honor of Thanksgiving this week, I would turn Motivational Monday into Thankful Tuesday (Thankful Monday just doesn’t have the same ring 🙂).  Clearly, today, I want to focus on Thanksgiving.  Is it a Christian holiday?  What should our focus be?  So…let’s talk about it.

I LOVE Thanksgiving.  When I was a kid, it was just an ok holiday.  I saw my cousins.  We played.  We ate.  We played again.  As an adult, I feel like Thanksgiving is overshadowed by Christmas.  A lot of us LOVE Christmas decorations and we have already decorated (and that’s ok!).  Personally I choose not to decorate early because I want to focus on Thanksgiving and if I decorate, it’s hard to keep my focus (again, this is JUST me!).  I love that this holiday is not centered around gifts.  In fact, the gift is fellowship.  We literally sit around, talk, watch some football, go outside and take naps.  It’s relaxing.  And don’t get me started on the food!  Man!  

But is Thanksgiving a Christian holiday?

Well, yes and no.  It’s a civic holiday with religious roots.  I’ll explain.  Thanksgiving is a civic holiday that came about from a custom by European Christians.  These European Christians were Puritans and Pilgrims.  When they came to North America, it was pretty traumatic in a lot of ways but they clearly triumphed.  They wanted to give thanks as a community for God’s great provision and blessings.  This tradition has been practiced heavily in North America since 1621.  So, in 1863 during the Civil War, President Lincoln declared Thanksgiving as a national holiday. 


So, let’s peel the layers away and look at Thanksgiving a little deeper.  When the Puritans and Pilgrims migrated hare, it was bleak.  Out of 102 colonists, 44 died the first winter.  At one point, their food ration was down to five kernels of corn.  Y’all.  That’s pretty bad.  But then, a ship came and swapped grain for beaver pelts.  This brought hope.  Do you believe they were saved by happenstance?  Of course not!  God saved them!  It was all in His plan for them to go through hard times and to be saved.  For them to give thanks to Him.  For a movement to make it a national holiday.  For all of us to stop and thank Him for our blessings every year.  That was all planned.  

Even though the Thanksgiving holiday is not in the Bible, there are a ton of references of thanksgiving.  Individuals offered up sacrifices out of gratitude in the book of Genesis. The Mosaic Law set aside three times each year when the Israelites were to gather together. All three of these times the Feast of the Passover, (Exodus 12:15-20), Harvest or Pentecost (Leviticus 23:15-21), and the Feast of Ingathering or Tabernacles (Leviticus 23:33-36) involved remembering God’s provision and grace. Harvest and Tabernacles took place specifically in relation to God’s provision in the harvest of various fruit trees and crops. And if you are wondering, yes the New Testament is chocked full of verses to give thanks to God in your prayers.

So while you are sitting at the table with your family and friends, please remember Him.  He gave the greatest gift and that is His Son, Jesus Christ.  Jesus paid our debts so we can peacefully sit at the table with our loved ones this season and for all seasons to come.  Please take time at the table to talk about what God has done for you and what blessings He has provided for you.  Remember what this day is really about.  Make sure it’s not overlooked.

Happy Thanksgiving and love you all,

Jennifer



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