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Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  Guess what??  It’s almost Fall Festival TIME!!!!  WOOOHOOOO!!  If you have never been to our Fall Festival, you need to come.  It’s a lot of fun and the kids have a blast.  Make sure you spread the word and let everyone know.  Remember, it’s next Sunday from 5pm-6:30pm.  

Speaking of spreading the word…have you ever thought about what kind of influence you are?  Are you a positive or negative influence?  Well, let’s talk about it.

Overall, I think I am a glass half full kinda person.  Don’t get me wrong, when I get negative, I am pretty negative.  But, I like to believe people are generally good.  I know that’s not the case of all people.  I also know, people are sinners and not perfect.  Just because they sin, doesn’t make them a bad person, it means they made a bad decision.  Churches are made up of imperfect, sinful people.  Sometimes, as we attend our church, we might learn something about a fellow member or church goer that “upsets” you.  Something they did in the past so therefore you judge them.  Are you holding them to the same standard as a coworker?  A friend?  A family member?  Do you know the whole story?

Just because someone sins and struggles differently than you, doesn’t make them right or wrong.  It doesn’t mean they deserve to be judged more or less than your other brothers and sisters in Christ.  Our past experiences and sins make us who we are today and God uses those experiences (even sins) for you to use for His glory.  So do you use your experience as a light?

In a world filled with darkness, uncertainty, and challenges, the call to “let your light so shine before men” from Matthew 5:16 is a powerful reminder of our responsibility as Christians. It’s an invitation to be a beacon of hope, a source of inspiration, and a reflection of God’s love in our daily lives.

The call to shine in Matthew 5:16 encourages us to let our light shine before others so that they may see our good works and glorify our Father in heaven.  This verse tells us that our actions speak louder than words.  We are called to be more than “just believers”.  We have to put actions behind what we say.  So how do we do that?

We are just nice.  We hold the door open for the person behind us.  We help our neighbor.  We tell someone how good they look today.  We make someone smile.  We buy a homeless man some shoes.  But here’s the thing!  If you are not financially able to help that homeless man, no big deal!  You can pray for him and that’s worth so much.  You can talk to him.  You are…kind.  Small acts of kindness are so small and insignificant to us but it can mean the world to someone who is barely holding it together.  These acts of love, kindness and empathy shines a light on the values and principles of our faith.

And while everyday kindness is essential, the most profound way to shine your light shine is sharing the gospel.  Telling everyone you know about God’s love and salvation.  God’s love is available to everyone even to those who make bad decisions.  By sharing His message is the ultimate way to show love and compassion to others.  People need hope.  They need to forgive and be forgiven.  And they will get that from Him but what if YOU were the reason they know Him?

Are there times you feel like you can’t talk to someone about something because you struggle or struggled with the same sin?  Or, do you feel like since you are sinful, you can’t do something like write a Motivational Monday?  Trust me.  I get it.  I struggle.  But I try to use my life experiences- good, bad and ugly- to, hopefully, be a positive influence.  And you, (yes you!) can do the same.  And remember that being a positive influence is also recognizing those around you aren’t perfect either.  We can’t hold them to a standard that we can’t achieve ourselves.  There’s only one who is perfect.  Remember, let your light shine brightly this week and make a difference in the world one person at a time.

Love you all,

Jennifer


Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  Thanks for being with me for the Wednesday message last week.  So let’s get this motivation started!  What do you do everyday?  And I mean, your routine.  Do you basically do the same things day in and day out?  Or do you do the same thing on a specific day?  Of course you do!  We all do.  When you do those things, are you looking for God?  Let’s talk about it.

Y’all.  Listen.  I love coffee.  Coffee is a form of therapy for me.  I drink coffee first thing in the morning.  I don’t think it helps me “wake up” like some say.  It just starts my day because it’s my routine.  Then, I have afternoon coffee when I get home.  I use this time to unwind.  It’s therapeutic.  I’m drinking coffee right now while writing this!  Typically, depending on the time of the day, I use the same cups and the same mugs.  Again.  It’s my routine.  Do I feel God’s presence as I am brewing the coffee?  Or selecting the same cup?  I mean, truthfully no.  Am I looking for Him?  That’s a no too.

As you are going about your routine day, do you ever stop and say, “Where is God today while I am doing this task?”  Again, if you are like me, I don’t normally ask that question.  But if I did, I am not sure I would feel His presence or hear His voice.  Of course, I feel close to Him when I am praying, worshiping, singing Christian music, etc.  If I am going through a hard time, I feel Him.  But just everyday life?  Right here, right now?

Psalm 46:1 says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.”  Present.  So, wait?  He’s present when I am making my coffee?  Yep.  He’s right there.  He’s a present God.  Even on the most very basic day you live.  “The Lord of hosts is with us, the God of Jacob is our fortress.” Psalm 46:7.  So, who does He host?  Angel armies, right?  And the God of Jacob means what?  It means He’s a personal God.  He is there for just me.  And just you.  And that homeless man in Birmingham.  He is here individually for all of us.  So even when we don’t know our issues, He is there.  He is our refuge, our fortress and shield.

It takes discipline to look for God in your routine days.  You have to remember to look for Him.  It takes faith. 

“For we walk by faith, not by sight.” 2 Corinthians 5:7

Walking is something we don’t really think about (unless you suddenly can’t and you realize how you took it for granted).  But 2 Corinthians 5:7 tell us to walk.  Not run.  Not stop.  Walk.  By walking in faith, we are living in the present.  As we are moving in our mundane way that we don’t think much about, He’s telling us to see His mercy.  To see His goodness.  His faithfulness.

I brought this up because it seems like from October through December, we are busy.  We are busy with the same things year after year.  And most of us want to do these things.  We look forward to this time of year.  But we need to remember to stop and praise Him for the food you had for dinner tonight.  Or the friend that sends a quick text to ask, “How are you?”  Or the look you get from your child or grandchild when they see you.  They light up!  Do you look for Him in those moments?

I am writing this knowing I am guilty of living life everyday and not looking for Him in the mundane things.  And lately, I have been pretty frustrated with the mundane in my life.  But let me tell you something, Matt Fridy spoke in church yesterday about life and stress.  And that made me think about my silly frustrations and my silly stresses.  I think if we look for Him in our most mundane activities, not only will that strengthen our walk with Him but the byproduct will be less stress overall.  Isn’t that how we are supposed to live?

Love you all,

Jennifer

 



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  Listen, I knew yesterday what my topic was on today.  Wanna know why?  Because I was HOT!  Yes, I was physically hot because it was a million degrees with 100% humidity but what I am specifically talking about is mad.  😡  As I am upset, I thought, “Yep.  This is what this week’s topic is going to be about!”  So, let’s talk about it.

We are having a deck built on our house.  Some of you might have heard me talking about it.  This deck is on the larger side and we are adding to our roof line.  We have saved for this deck for YEARS and honestly, I am SO EXCITED to get it.  But…like most projects, it is not going as planned for a lot of reasons.  And truth be told, they are all avoidable reasons.  Yesterday, as I was working in the yard (that I hadn’t cut in 2 weeks because of the deck project), I was getting madder and madder about the situation.  I was working myself up in a tizzy and I was mad at EVERYBODY.  You’ve been there, right?

So is anger a sin?

The short answer is no.  It’s a God given emotion.  Anger is a signal that something is wrong and needs to be addressed.  What you should be angry over is sin and injustice because we serve a God that is just and holy.  And man, let me tell you.  When reading the Old Testament, there are LOTS of examples of when God was angry.  Whew.  The quickest example that comes to mind is the Great Flood.  He flooded the whole world and destroyed all living creatures except who and what was on the Ark.  Why?  Because he was OVER the wickedness and corruption on the Earth.  I would say He was pretty mad…

Whereas anger is not a sin, how we react to it can be.  To be completely transparent, how I acted yesterday was sinful.  I was quick tempered and infuriated by our situation.  And trust me, everyone knew I was NOT happy.  Everyone who couldn’t fix the situation knew about it.  I was misusing my anger.  “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”(Ephesians 4:31-32) Another short verse that is easy to remember is, “…everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment…” (Matthew 5:22)

When you become that angry, you need to pause, reflect on why you are angry and then ask God to help you.  Now, look.  I did ask God to help me with my anger yesterday because I didn’t like being around me.  But was I ready yesterday to reflect?  Truthfully, no.  I wasn’t mentally ready to work through it.  Was that right?  Well, I asked God for help and that did help me to simmer down enough to get through the day.  Then, I slept (I always have to sleep on it to have a clearer understanding).  Today, I was ready to work through it.

Some of the questions I asked myself were:

  • Has there been injustice? Was there sin against you, another, or God? Before you look to who your angry with, are you convicted about your own sin or how you have contributed? If so, begin to biblically address sin in you. (Matthew 18:15-17)
  • Are you hurt? Has this person hurt you (physically, mentally or emotionally) or opened an old wound? Is your pride wounded or do you feel shame? Be honest with yourself and God about your pain, recall God’s forgiveness of you, and continue to take steps to forgive. (Colossians 3:12-13)
  • Are you afraid? Has something stirred up an insecurity? Do you feel threatened? Are you struggling to trust God? If so, confess your fear and lack of trust to God and begin to confront your idols. (Psalm 56:3) If this is the case, I would recommend immediately seeking help.
  • Are you frustrated? Has someone failed  to meet your expectations? Have you yourself failed them? Examine whether your expectations are realistic and address how you may have sought significance or life apart from God. (Psalm 42:11)

Look, luckily for me, it is just.a.deck.  But this deck means a lot to me because this is something I have wanted for years.  And we have worked hard to get it.  So, there is some minor hurt and a lot of frustration.  After reflecting, I do know my anger was just but how I went about it was wrong.  And I want to own that.  I know that God is completely in control and can bring good out of a mess.  I  know it will work out one way or another because God’s got me.

I used this example because, typically, I am pretty easy going. And I know a lot of you out there are probably like me.  Some of you might struggle and you consider yourself to be hot headed.  What’s important to note is, most of us can name a time we misused our anger.  Have you ever gotten mad and later felt bad how things went down?  Well, that’s a sign your anger might have been misused.  All you can do is confess and ask forgiveness from God and from the person you were ugly to unnecessarily.  

This week, I challenge you to reflect on the why behind your anger.  If you encounter someone who is angry, was their anger just and valid?  Maybe, maybe not.  But if it’s a “maybe not” situation, maybe you can show them grace.  Because they will calm down and they will remember what you said or did.  This will cause them to reflect and see that maybe they overreacted. 😬 Not that I’m talking from experience…nope not me.

Love you all and don’t be ugly,

Jennifer

 



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  Thank you for allowing me to take the week off last week for VBS.  As always, it was a success!  Kathy and all the volunteers do such an amazing job and these kids just love it.  All the effort in the props, the Bible stories, and the food.  Seriously, chef’s kiss.  We might be a small church but one thing I know…we do VBS (among other things 🙂) RIGHT! 

Today’s motivation is brought to you by the weather and the raging heat and humidity we have all endured this last week.  😂  Ok, ok, I’m joking but not.  Over the last week, I have talked to many people who have been frustrated…including myself!  The fuse has been short and I have been blaming the heat.  Which is probably a huge portion of it BUT this got me to thinking.  And you know what that means, let’s talk about it.

When we look at frustration at its core, it’s an emotional response to opposition to the fulfillment of an individual will.  That is a nice way of saying, when we don’t get what we want, we aren’t happy.  So, I want you to envision your current frustration (whatever that may be) as a roadblock.  And the bigger the frustration, the bigger the roadblock.  You are headed down this road, because we have a special assignment that only we can do by God.  That’s why we are put on this Earth, right?  And you get to the roadblock.  If you are doing God’s will, why is it there?  Well…funny you should ask.  Go back to that first sentence of this paragraph.  WE aren’t getting what WE want.  What WE want and God’s will are two very different things.

So, let’s talk about a time in the Bible when frustration was high.  For the record, there are A LOT of examples.  Can you imagine Jesus’s frustration level??!  Anyway, let’s go way back to the Old Testament because frustration has been around for a HOT minute.  Moses.  He leads the Israelites out of Egypt and into the wilderness and then BAM!  Things don’t go as planned.  Probably because they were OVER having it hard for 400 years.  So they get frustrated with Moses and questioned him as to why he led them out of Egypt to die in the wilderness.  They even said it would have been better in Egypt (pause story.  Really?  Would they have really been better in Egypt?  No ma’am.  They were just mad and they were probably in the heat and there were skeeters around…can you feel their pain? Ok, unpause story).

As the story goes, you realize they became angry because of the obstacles in the path.  They could only see the roadblock and not God.  Now, in their case, some of them completely left the path and found new gods, which, woah.  They got WAY off course.  But, not to ruin the story if you are unaware, but God showed them!  He showed them He was in charge by giving miraculous provisions like manna and quail.  But…He wasn’t super happy with their frustration level so they stayed in the wilderness for another 40 years.  Back in the OT, God would show HIS frustration level more openly.  But, you can see the entire lesson there, right?  He gave them good times and bad times but it was all for His glory and their growth.

Like you and your frustration.  It’s what we do with it and how we respond.

What is important in frustrating times is to focus on blessings.  I know, I know.  It’s hard when you’re mad.  Deuteronomy 28:2 says, “And all these blessings shall come upon you and overtake you, if you obey the voice of the Lord your God.”  And when you are counting your blessings, it IS ok to feel the frustration.  Even Jesus felt emotions.  We just don’t need to get stuck in those emotions.  Once you have your meltdown, ask God to realign you to His will and stop thinking your path is His path.

Look, I want to tell you that as a Christian, we will experience frustrations here and there.  But to be fair, that is just not going to happen.  I get frustrated over something everyday.  It can be something simple like breadcrumbs left in the butter or something bigger like a deadly illness, whether it’s you or someone you love.  And I know I am sitting here writing this, like I am a pro at managing my frustrations but I’m not.  I just know a guy that helps me with all my frustrations and He is literally a prayer a way.

Love you all,

Jennifer

PS- Remember y’all.  It’s hot.  It’s humid.  Fuses can be a little shorter and frustration can happen a little quicker than normal.  Go find some AC and talk to God. ♥️.  My experience says, that helps  😉

 



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  I am so glad you stopped by.  Today, I want to talk about validation.  Where do you get your validation from?  Is it ok to want people to like you?  Let’s talk about it.

As I do every Monday, I think about the previous week and decide what to write about today.  I was laying in bed and I opened TikTok.  I follow a K-9 police officer and he’s great.  He’s funny, vulnerable and just wholesome.  When I opened the app, there he was giving a Monday message (oddly enough, I have never seen him give a message like this one). He said, “Stop trying to find validation in a world that crucified the perfect man.”  And that really hit me.  Wow.  I like to think of myself as someone who doesn’t need earthly validation but I do.  Let me give you examples: needing to be reassured, people pleasing, difficulty in making decisions alone, feeling anxious without approval, over apologizing, overachieving to gain praise, comparing yourself to others, and list could go on and on.  Do you see yourself in any of those?  Transparency moment..I see myself in every.single.one of these.  

So the pressing question, is it wrong?  As with every Motivational Monday most answers are not quite black and white.  There are a lot of gray areas.  So the answer is mostly yes and some no.  I’ll explain.

If you look at the examples I gave above, it all boils down to being liked.  Which means we naturally want to seek approval, fit a certain mold, wanting to belong and feel accepted.  But if you have ever been in this place of wanting these things it’s exhausting, frustrating and a lot of times end in disappointment.  It’s an emotional roller coaster.  For me personally, I struggle with wanting to be the best christian I can be (which can be difficult depending on the day).  I feel like I need to be an example so I see myself needing to be validated by what I am doing.  I know it sounds silly but that’s just how I think.  But then, I think, didn’t God make me this way?

Actually, yes. Isaiah 43:4 shows us that God designed us in a way that we yearn to belong. But here’s the thing, if we are looking for approval from others (even godly people) we will never truly feel validated.  They will fail you as YOU will fail them.  This is because they can’t fill our souls with what we truly need.  And truth be told, it’s unfair for you to place them on a pedestal for them to give the feeling of validation.

But if he designed us in a way of wanting to be validated, how is this wrong?  What does God say about it?  I need receipts!

So glad you asked.  Let me deliver.

When you seek validation from others, it can be swept up by emotions, compromise our beliefs, and grow frustrated because they (whoever they are) are not living up to our expectations.  In Galatians 1:10, Paul points out that if we are constantly trying to please people, we are not serving Christ.  We literally can’t do both.  1 Thessalonians 2:4, tells us that we have the honor of sharing the gospel.  So, basically, we can’t twist what the Bible says to fit their narrative.  And in Acts 5:29, Peter warns of people pleasers.  Pride cannot get in the way by wanting validation from others and placing ourselves above God.

Well, how can I determine if I am seeking external validation because I thought I was doing pretty good in the department?  Same friend.  I thought I was good but I realize I need work.

Here’s some scripture to help you weigh your personal situation.

  • Examine Intent- Galatians 6:4 reminds us to test our actions and motivations.  Are you doing this for comparisons?  Are you expecting or wanting an atta boy?
  • Consider your response to reactions- 1 Peter 2:23 shows us that despite Jesus facing insults and suffering, he did not retaliate or seek revenge.  This teaches us our self worth should not be defined by others.
  • Quantity and quality of sharing- Matthew 7:6 shows us the importance of discernment in sharing aspects of lives with others.  Listen, not everyone needs to know everything and that’s ok.  Some people are negative.  You can choose to not share certain highs and lows because it will expose you to negativity from certain people.  
  • Dependency on external validation- Galatians 1:10 tells us who we need to seek approval from and it’s not those here on Earth.  Our focus would be on pleasing God and not people.
  • Check your feelings- Philippians 4:4 tells us to find joy in relationship with God.  Remember, true joy comes from within and not in people.

This week I want you to challenge you in being honest about your validation on Earth.  Can you relate to these things and if so, how are some ways you change to seek validation in the Lord?  

Love you all,

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  June is a big month for marriages.  How do I know?  Well, next Saturday, Jon and I will be celebrating our 23rd wedding anniversary.  I’ll be honest, some days I didn’t think 23 years would ever get here! Marriage is hard but definitely doable with Jesus (and yes!  Marriage needs Jesus!)  So, let’s talk about it.

In our 23 year marriage, we have had countless.  Yep.  I stopped there.  Countless.  Countless fights, annoyances, and financial hardships (I’m really selling this marriage thing aren’t I?)  But, we have also had countless laughs, deep discussions, happiness, adventures, teamwork, pets 🙂, but most importantly, love.  Having been married for 23 years, Jon and I have learned a thing a two and I suspect we will continue to learn a thing or two here and there.  We are not experts, because the Lord knows we need help daily, but here are a few things we have learned along the way.

First, marriage is about “we” and not “me”.  Listen, when we first got married, I wanted things done my way.  We HAD to have certain things (that we couldn’t afford).  Jon was there trying to get me to see that WE couldn’t do those things.  Listen, marriage was created to embody selfless love, just as Christ poured himself out as a sacrifice (Isaiah 53:12). In a biblical marriage, God calls us to prioritize “we” over “me.”  I honestly didn’t know how selfish I was until I got married.

Second, marriage is about the long haul.  Nowadays, the mindset is, “Well, if it doesn’t work out, we will get divorced.”  No, no.  You took an oath before God.  The apostle Paul begins the familiar “love” passage in 1 Corinthians with the words, “Love is patient.” Patience in marriage is vital for a healthy relationship.  Relationships have seasons. Some seasons are GREAT and others not so great.  But we have to be patient to wait out the bad seasons.  Scripture says: The Lord is not slow about his promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance. (2 Pet. 3:8-9, Rom. 2:4).

Third, marriage is a covenant and not just a contract.  Jon will playfully say, “Listen.  I got papers on you!”  Of course, this is just a joke but marriage is more than a piece of paper.  Marriage is God’s idea.  Genesis 2:24 says: “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Just as God created an everlasting covenant with his people, marriage is a solemn and binding covenant between a man and a woman made before God (Eph. 5:32).  We are taught to treat everyone with Christ like love.  And yes, that includes your spouse.  It is so easy for your spouse to be the brunt of a bad day.

Lastly, and probably most controversial, marriage is counter cultural and not conformist.  I’ll explain.  Ephesians 5:22-24: “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.”  In today’s time, many have an issue with this passage because some believe it justifies abuse.  In a Christian marriage, a husband’s role requires that he love his wife enough to lay his life down for her as Christ did for the church. God calls wives to respond to that radical Christ-like love with submission. (1 Pet. 2:13, 22-25, 5:5, Eph. 5:21). Ultimately, God requires husband and wife to submit to Him.

As sassy and headstrong as I am, when Jon says stop or no, I listen.  I don’t do it because I don’t want to fight.  I don’t do it because I’m scared of him.  I don’t do it because I am a submissive person.  I do it because I trust him.  I KNOW he’s looking out for me or us.  When he speaks authoritatively, I listen.  And to be clear, he doesn’t abuse this either.  In fact, he knows me well enough to know that I am more prone to do the EXACT opposite if he gets too sassy.

Listen, my marriage is not perfect.  It won’t ever be because we are two flawed people trying our hardest to be the best for God and for each other.  I have learned that our marriage is not defined by our disagreements. It is not defined by a bad day or the times we thought about giving up. Our marriage is about trusting God to be the driving force.  And just like everything in the world, you start at the top and it trickles down from there.  

Love you all,

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

Hey friends! How was your Mother’s Day? I hope you spent it with loved ones. I know holidays can be a difficult time for some (no matter the holiday). Holidays are a time that brings up memories…sometimes good and sometimes bad. Holidays can also leave us feeling lonely. So let’s talk about it.

There have been times in my life where I felt very alone. And trust me, I was never really alone. My husband, son and all our 8 million animals have always been there physically for me. In fact, there are times when being physically alone might’ve been nice at the time. 😉 But the alone I am referring to is being mentally alone. And, we have all been there no matter your age. This could be something small and insignificant to something huge like a loss of a loved one. But let’s be honest, the small things are usually the ones that come and go the most in life. Do you ever feel guilty about it?

Fun fact! Did you know May is Mental Health Awareness Month? It’s ok, I didn’t either until recently. But how appropriate this topic came up during this month.

Is it appropriate for Christians feel lonely? Well of course it is! If you listened to Pastor Scott’s sermon yesterday, he talked about Jesus having emotions. Can you imagine how lonely Jesus felt on the cross after He was betrayed by His disciples? I mean, man. What about in the Garden of Gethsemane when He wanted his disciples with Him yet they were asleep? If you have ever felt lonely, it’s not a good feeling at all. So why does God allow it?

Why does God allow anything bad to happen? He can stop or start anything He wants. So why does this happen? Well, just like all things, we have free will. Let me tell you how my mind works on this. We are a rubber band. When something happens, our rubber band is stretched. Sometimes just a little and sometimes it’s stretched to the max. Sometimes it stretches a little and little more and little more. But there is a time when the rubber band is going to break or you have to relieve the tension. What relieves the tension? God. Yep. Just God. Seeking Him and allowing Him to work through you resets your rubber band.

I think what is important when loneliness hits you is to compartmentalize it. That way, once you know where it falls, you will know how to correct it, right?

  1. Situational Christian Loneliness– This is where we don’t have enough friends and/or family.This could be more of in general or maybe you moved. So how do you combat that without making friends in an unchristian-like manner? Always be proactive in making friends. Listen, years ago, I met a lady while she was working at Publix. Today, I hug her when I see her out and I keep up with her on social media. You never know who or where you are going to meet someone! And social media…it’s great and it’s not so great. It’s great because you can stay in touch. And just go to church! I can’t tell you the amount of friends I have now just because I go to church. You don’t have to get involved in everything. Just go. Trust me. These people will be your friend!
  2. Emotional Christian Loneliness– Honestly speaking, this is what I experience the most. This is where you DO have friends and family but you feel like they don’t love you. This sounds really dramatic as I write it but we all experience it. This can be something as simple as not being invited to a party or social event you feel like you should have been invited to. This one is hard to get around because you are in your head. It is important to remember to not set unrealistic expectations for how people love you. You need to believe they do love you. Also, envy is a terrible thing. Envy sets the stage for loneliness (one of the downsides of social media). Remember, study your own lawn. Don’t worry why their grass is so green. And just be thankful! Thank Him everyday for what you have and WHO you have.
  3. Social Christian Loneliness– Where are my introverts? Shocker. Y’all are in the back. These are your socially awkward people, introverts and those with low self esteem. That all sounds bad but I promise…it’s not. My husband is an introvert and we complement each other well but it was a learning curve. So for those of you that struggle in this area, make sure to renew your mind daily. Have your quiet time with God. Ask Him to help you connect with others who see you as you are.
  4. Spiritual Christian Loneliness– This is where you don’t feel close to God. Or maybe you feel like God let you down. Listen friends, if this is where you are, know that it’s ok. But know that relationship needs to be fixed asap. You need to work on your relationship with God. That’s the only way to get out of that loneliness. Jeremiah 29:13 says, “You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.” Tell God how you feel even if it’s not pleasant! Trust me, He knows what you’re thinking anyway. You might as well say it. If you are struggling to talk to Him and you are not there yet, start a new habit of renewing your mind. This could be self driven or group driven Bible study or maybe just journaling. Write it down! Write Him letters.

I would love to tell you that my life is perfect and I never experience loneliness. I am extroverted and I seem confident. In reality, there are days that it is all a show. And it’s normally something pretty small that causes me to get that way because I am in my head. All I am saying, you are not alone. You are never alone because you have Him. He is literally a prayer away. And listen, when I’m struggling, I just start talking. He knows and He loves me for it.

Love you all (and I mean it),
Jennifer

Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  I hope you were all able to make it to Homecoming this year.  I heard it was phenomenal (as usual).  Listen, we know how to cook and eat, don’t we?  I missed it this year for good reason.  My nephew graduated from college and I, of course, wanted to go and support him in his accomplishment.  So today’s topic…it would be a huge foul if I didn’t talk about Mother’s Day since it is this upcoming Sunday.  So mommas…is motherhood a duty or a privilege?  Let’s talk about it.

Several weeks ago, Logan came to me and informed me he wanted to go skydiving.  He expected me to just lose it but instead, I shrugged my shoulders and said, “Just be careful.”  I mean, what could I really say that would stop him?  Not to mention, I have thought about skydiving myself.  I waited several weeks to tell my mom (his beloved granny) about him skydiving.  She ABSOLUTELY lost it. In fact, she called Logan and asked him to rethink his choices.  I had to have a talk with her and tell her that no matter what we said, he would do what he wanted.  She sighed and said, “Well, he is your child.” 😆  Sigh.  

As a kid, it was never my goal to stress her out.  It’s just that I live my life as a “we only live once’” type of mentality.  If it’s something I am interested in, then…I research it and do it or not.  But I put it to bed one way or another.  That’s Logan.  But after that comment, I worried that I upset her more than I should have because parenthood is hard!  We don’t have all the answers even when we are expected to have one.  There are days where task after task sucks all the joy out of your day.  Or your child acts out or is sick.  And you just run on autopilot.

This is going to sound cliche but it is so important to find the joy in your life.  And if you are a mother, especially find joy everyday in motherhood.  YES!!  Even those days your kid wants to skydive.  Psalm 127:3 says, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.” You see…your child was given to you for you to take care of and raise.  But your child doesn’t belong to you.  Your child belongs to God.  God entrusted you with their soul.  

And the funny thing about kids, they are all unique (like fingerprints!).  And as they grow, they change every way possible (physically, emotionally, mentally).  As I am writing this, I think of a rubix cube.  When one thing changes, three other things change.  Think about that for just a second.  Slowing down just a little and realizing that stuff you have to do, can wait.  You don’t need a perfect house.  You need to make memories.

So to answer the original question, is motherhood a duty or a privilege?  Truthfully, both and I don’t think it a bad thing to admit that to ourselves.  The word “duty” sounds negative but why?  It IS our duty to raise, nurture, model faith and character, discipline and just be a positive influence.  Is that a privilege as well?  Yes.  100%.  But it’s all a mindset…your mindset.  

I absolutely love being a mother to Logan.  He brings me happiness and joy that I never knew I needed.  If you are reading this, you have a mother.  This mother might be someone who legally (or not) adopted you or birthed you.  Some of us have a lot of “mothers” in our life who would be there in a heartbeat if we called and needed them.  This Mother’s Day, make sure to tell all the moms in your life how much they mean to you.  Just like you, moms are also unique.  Some ok skydiving and others don’t…and that’s ok.

Love you,
Jennifer

Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  Today I want to continue my Easter countdown miniseries.  It’s my goal to cover topics you may or may not know because these are things I learned way later about the crucifixion and resurrection.  I had the main points down but some stuff had a ton of symbolism and I’m over here hiding eggs.  Just being honest…

So, hopefully you all know that Jesus was resurrected after He was crucified (this was a main point I was talking about 😉).  When we was resurrected, a woman was the one to see Him first.  Why was that?  Let’s talk about it.

Let’s talk about Mary Magdalene or Mary M for short.  I really like her.  To be fair, I like most (if not all) the stories about the women in the Bible.  There is a story to be learned in every single one because God is always purposeful.  To catch you up on who she was, she had a special connection to Jesus.  Mary M became a different person when Jesus came into her life (like all of us).  You see, Jesus cleansed her of her demons and because of this, she was a DEVOUT follower.  She loved Jesus with all her heart.  Her story showed us that your past does not dictate your future.

The day Jesus was crucified, she was there.  As anyone who was a follower, I am sure it was hard to watch (honestly, I am sure it was hard to watch if you weren’t a follower).  She stayed with Him until death.  After He died, He was put in a tomb with a large heavy boulder as a door so NO ONE could move it.  But on the third day after His burial, the women went to anoint the body (Mark 16:1) because they loved Him and wanted to continue to care for Him (Luke 8:1-3).  I can hear the conversation now on the way to the tomb, “Mary!  How are we going to get in?  We can’t move that stone.”  Mary M- “I don’t know but we’ll figure it out.”  It sounds like something I would do.

They get there and bam!  Stone moved.  You know their initial thought was “woohoo!” and then, “hold up.  What is happening here?  This is weird and not good.”  So she runs and gets Peter and it was then discovered that Jesus was gone.  After everyone left, Mary stayed at the tomb and just cried.  I mean, I get it.  There was A LOT of trauma that she had just witnessed and now, Jesus’s body had been stolen (or so she thought).  Two angels appeared and talked to her and she was still upset.  And then…mic drop…Jesus was there. He told her He was all good now and He was ascending to “my Father and your Father”.  Mary M was ecstatic and went to tell everyone she had seen Jesus. (John 20:1-18)

Great story right?  But why did Jesus appear before Mary M?  A woman.  For context, women at that time were considered less.  They were not allowed all the way into the Temple to worship simply because they were a woman.  They had no rights.  They were second class.  On top of her being a woman, she was a FALLEN woman (gasp!).  You can imagine when she tried telling the disciples, “HEY GUYS!!!  Jesus is alive!  He told me to tell you He was good!”  You know they rolled their eyes and said, “Sure He did Mar-Bear.”  They didn’t believe her (Luke 24:11 and Mark 16:11).

You see, Jesus didn’t see different classes, gender, or race. Jesus only saw people when He walked this Earth.  He didn’t care if you were a man, woman, disabled, smelled to high heavens, had an eye hanging out, or wasn’t nice…He was going to talk to you.  And in Mary’s case, at one time she was demon filled and Jesus healed her.  And then, she followed Him to the end.  And she truly loved Him with all her heart.  Jesus knew that and He rewarded her with His presence after His resurrection.  Jesus valued a sin filled, former demon possessed, second rate citizen who was a woman to share the good news.

If Jesus can see past all of that, why can’t you?  We tend to pass judgment when it is not warranted.  We are all sinners.  My sin and your sin are probably different.  That doesn’t make me better than you.  We are both sinners.  God put us (me and YOU) here on this Earth for a million reasons.  But one of the reasons is to learn from and help each other.  Don’t forget that when you get frustrated with people.  People who are hungry and you think they just need to get a job.  Or an alcoholic, who just needs to stop drinking.  Or a coworker, who isn’t pulling their weight.  We all have a story and maybe if we were more like Jesus, they would/could be a Mary M.  

God is so intentional, isn’t He?

Love you all,

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  Spring is HERE!!!  Guess what else is here?  Pollen. 👎🏻 I know, I know.  I should be grateful and I am…but everything is just so….yellow.  And, I am a loud sneezer.  Anyway, we are NOT talking about pollen or my less than quiet sneezes today.  Today, I want to talk about friendships but not in the happy go lucky traditional, motivational way.  I want to talk about friendship breakups.  Is it ok?  Let’s talk about it.

I think most of you know me as outgoing.  When you’re outgoing, you tend to naturally meet people easily.  And I have met A LOT of people and I have had the honor of making A LOT of friends.  Some of these people are “just friends” to “they know so much about me it’s scary and they better stay quiet about it”.  But have you ever made friends with someone, developed a relationship with them and then (for whatever reason) you decided you were no longer compatible?  Or!  Have you been the friend that was broken up with?  Unfortunately, I have been both.  Both situations are hard for different reasons.

If you read up on ending friendships, people are conflicted if it’s ok as a christian.  We are taught to be kind and patient.  To help those who are suffering and to love them unconditionally.  And all of that is absolutely true.  But the Bible also teaches boundaries.  When you draw boundaries, that doesn’t give you (or them) the right to be mean or rude.  So, in saying that, I believe it IS ok for friendships to end.

Some friendships are seasonal.  In the summer of ‘99, I met a group of girls who were seasonal friends.  Literally, one summer we were inseparable and had a BLAST!  Because of them, I met Jon!  After that summer, we parted ways for one reason or another.  It wasn’t a harsh split.  We had just…moved on.  Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 sums it up perfectly.  Some friends might last you a lifetime and some might be for a season.  I have never, ever seen or heard from these girls again.  In fact, I can’t remember their last name.  But because of them, I met my love.  I understand why God led me in that season.

Some of these friendships are a little more complicated.  When you parted ways, it wasn’t because “you just moved on”.  It’s because you or them realized you were not on the same page morally.  We have all had this friend.  You love them.  They are so much fun!  Until they aren’t.  One day, while you are laughing and having a good time, you suddenly see something that’s “not cool”.  Then you notice other things they are doing that just don’t align with your christian beliefs.  When you see this, you stop and think about all the times you laughed or went along with their bad behavior.  You realize YOU have allowed them to compromise your beliefs. 1 Corinthians 15:33 warns us of these friends.  Even someone with the best character can be impacted by the company they keep. 

And then there are times, God leads us to do something different.  Have you heard the saying, “You can’t see the forest for the trees”?  Well, we can be pretty stubborn.  We may think this friend is GREAT!  But God, right?  He knows.  He has a way of leading us in different directions when He sees we are not prioritizing Him.  Wanna know how I know this?  Matthew 15:38 shows us Jesus drew a boundary and was very aware of how he was investing His time.  

As I am wrapping up, I know there are other verses that support the contrary.  Again.  You are not wrong.  But I would encourage you to read not just one verse.  Read the context.  When you have a friend breakup, this doesn’t mean you have to go out in a blaze of glory.  No, you can’t call them a name when they call you one (I know, I know.  I struggle too).  In fact, walking away peacefully and prayerfully is one of the most loving ways to end a friendship.

Love you all,

Jennifer



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