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Motivational Monday

Hey friends!!  Well, today was a big day for our country as we have a new president. I know some of you reading this might be happy and some might be apprehensive. And for the record, no matter how you feel, it’s ok. I love that I live in a country where I can disagree with someone’s politics (and religion!) and not worry about persecution. We are VERY blessed to live in the United States no matter how your cookie crumbles.  

In the past, we have talked about presidents and world leaders. Growing up, I was always taught to respect those in leadership positions. Remember, respect and agreeing with them on all topics are two very different things. So today, I wanted to talk about leadership roles. From the President to a CEO to your church.  What does God say about it?  Let’s talk about it.

Years ago, I was an Executive Assistant to the President of a large company. It was my job to KNOW this man….and I did. I knew what foods he liked, when his wife’s birthday was, his kids names, and even how he liked his coffee. One day, I was sitting in his office discussing work items when he asked me if I liked my job. I was stunned. By him asking me this question, I felt like he thought I wasn’t good at my job. I frantically started telling him all the things I knew about him.  He stopped me.  “Jennifer, do you feel like this job is a waste of your talents? Do you like your job?” I had never thought I was smart enough to do anything else until he asked me this question.

All throughout the Bible, we see a series of leaders who submit to God’s authority and those who don’t.  People prospered under leaders who honored God and sought after Him, but were oppressed by leaders who did not. The first two commandments God gave His people were to have no other gods before Him and we should not make any image that we worship before Him (Exodus 20:3-4). As we have talked about in previous Mondays, the idols we worship today are more likely to be people than statues. We value and honor those in leadership roles sometimes more than we value and honor the Lord. With leadership often comes recognition. And with recognition comes the temptation to put ourselves or our positions before God. If we’re not careful, we can worship the position instead of the One who promoted us to that position. 

True leaders roll up their sleeves and get in the trenches when times call for it. In Matthew 20:25-28, Jesus tells His disciples that leaders should not exercise authority over people. Instead, whoever wants to become great must lower himself to be a servant. Leaders realize that serving others is the only way to lead with a pure heart, free of pride and arrogance.  

Leaders know you.  They come up and ask you about the wife and kids. That’s the kind of leader Peter, one of Jesus’ followers, describes in 1 Peter 5:1-5. Peter reminds us that leaders should be like shepherds, caring for and watching over the group of people they’ve been entrusted with. You see, back in the day, shepherds KNEW their sheep. They named them, cared for them, and trained them to respond to their voice. If the sheep wandered away, the shepherd went and found it and brought it back to the flock. This is the type of leader God calls us to be.

Lastly, a leader is someone you want to follow. Proverbs 29:2 says, “When the righteous increase, the people rejoice, but when the wicked rule, the people groan.”  Like today, there are many people who are excited and ready to see what is in store for the US. Others are reluctant.  No matter what side of the fence you are on, you understand these emotions. We’ve all had a new boss we weren’t sure about!

Whether you are excited or reluctant, our country needs your prayers.  In 1 Timothy 2, Paul tells us to pray “for kings and all those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness.” Paul wrote these words under one of the harshest rulers in history, Nero, who was much worse than any leader the United States has ever had in power. 

This week, pray for our leaders to have wisdom, to be able to discern what is best for the people they are leading, and for unity. Don’t use your words to tear down or degrade your leader, but lift them up to the only One who can help the situation. Pray for a leader who asks you questions to help you become a better person and see your talents. I am thankful there have been a few on earth who have helped shape me but there is only ONE who made me who I am today.

Love you and see you soon,

Jennifer


Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  So here we sit…7 days after Christmas and just like that!  It’s New Year’s.  Every year about this time, I always like to sit and ponder what my personal goals are for the upcoming year.  Of course, I know myself better than anyone.  So my goals have to be realistic or they will never stick.  I try very hard to listen to the Lord and determine what I need to focus on for the upcoming year.  So far, I am struggling!  So, is it necessary to set goals as a christian?  Let’s talk about it!

I know a lot of people talk about “resolutions”.  Listen, I let that term leave my vocabulary (in regards to me personally) years ago.  You see, a resolution is a “firm decision to do or not to do something”.  I can’t make a firm decision on dinner and you want me to decide for the year??!  This is why I had to go BACK to college because I couldn’t decide firmly on what I wanted to be when I grew up!  But a goal…I can work with a goal.  My goal is to cook dinner for my family and eat.  Bam!  I got that.  See the difference in my brain.  🙂  It’s what works for me.

My goals have become more and more Christ centered over the years.  I know!  It should ALWAYS be Christ centered.  But again, as I grow in my faith, my goals change to be Christ centered.  But as a christian, do I need to make a goal for the upcoming year?

Yes and no.  To be very black and white, the Scripture doesn’t say anything about goals at the end of one year and the beginning of another.  But what Scripture does say is: contemplate our lives and commit them to the Lord (Prov 16:9). We are told to set our minds on things above (Col. 3:2) and to put our immoralities to death (Col. 3:5) while pursuing compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience (Col. 3:12).  I like there is  no specific date because it goes to show you can do these at ANY time.  Not just this time of year.  

You know I like to keep these real, right?  80% of us who set well intended goals, will not see them past Valentine’s Day.  I would love to tell you why this is but for me, I overestimate what I can accomplish.  Of course, we have different levels of busyness.  So, I try to create a focus for the year.  Of course, my eyes are always set on the Lord.  But I try to reflect on what I accomplished in 2024 and then decide what I need to work on for 2025.  This year, for me, is being more intent with my time with the Lord.  I need to set aside a set time for Him and not be all willy nilly with my time with/for Him.

When you set this goal, understand that you don’t need to know what the future holds.  These goals help us face the future. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6.  These two verses tell us to trust Him, acknowledge Him and follow His plans.  When you break it down like that it sounds easy doesn’t it?  I know, I know!  It’s not quite that easy but that’s why we set spiritual goals.  To get better in areas we need to work on!

I am not going to assign you homework or give you a takeaway this week. I think that is on you.  I pray that your walk with the Lord will grow this year.  

Love you all and see you next year,

Jennifer


Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  A few more days until Christmas is here!!  By now, HOPEFULLY your stress level is down and you are pumped to celebrate the birth of Jesus.  I know I am.  I can’t wait to sit back, drink my coffee and watch the fam open their gifts.

Yesterday, we spent Christmas with Jon’s side of the family for the first time since COVID.  There are a lot of reasons why we haven’t seen each other, but at the end of the day, it was easier to not get together at this time of year (we all have to drive to a central location to see each other).  This year, Jon said, “Nope.  We are getting together!”  So we did.  And it was so nice!  It was low key, easy, full of laughter and love.  Jon, Logan and I realized how much we missed them and just how much we love them!  We always loved them but you know the saying…absence makes the heart grow fonder.

This got me thinking about the season.  For most of us, this season is about love.  But what about those who are hurting?  I can see where some find this time of year as the most loveless time of year.  Where do you find love in the middle of this season where everyone is happy?  Let’s talk about it.

No matter how you feel about the Christmas season, God’s Word gives us reason to rejoice when we consider the meaning behind this holiday.  Scripture tells us that God loved ALL of us (yes, He loves those who don’t love Him) so much that he sent His only Son to save us.  Clearly this was the plan all throughout history because it was prophesied MANY times throughout the Old Testament.  When Jesus was born, the path was always to the cross where He would die to save us.  If that doesn’t define love, let me give you a few other reasons.  🙂

God is love.  If you are not familiar with God defining love, this statement might be confusing.  The Bible tells us that God is perfect.  He is patient, good and righteous.  He is not loving…he is love.  The miracle of Christmas is from the great love He has for us.  “So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.”  1 John 4:16.  

To show us, Jesus came to show us God’s love.  We all are separated from God by sin because only He is perfect.  We couldn’t fix our relationship with Him because it wasn’t possible and He knew it.  He knew He had to intervene by sending Jesus.  This was the only way we could receive salvation.  Christmas is the time of year we remember Jesus’s arrival.  “but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”  Romans 5:8

Because of Jesus, we can show God’s love to others.  As we have talked in previous weeks, it’s easy to get caught up in the gift giving aspect.  But what this time of year should tell us is to love others as God has loved us.  We need to be ready to love those who feel alone or discouraged.  It’s the time of year where we encourage others to experience the gift we all received from God.  “We love because he first loved us.”1 John 4:19

Lastly, God’s love is eternal.  This season, if you are hurting, it is most likely over rejection, bitterness or heartbreak.  God will never let you down.  He will never break a promise, lessen His love or let you go.  God gave us Jesus which is HUGE.  Do you think if someone gave you their only Son would revoke their love from you?  Nope.  THIS is something we can all rejoice in this Christmas and all throughout the year!  “So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.”  1 Corinthians 13:13

So friends, this holiday season, remember those who need extra love.  I know some say they don’t want or need love, but you know they are hurting.  If you feel like you can’t show them love by inviting them over or giving them a meal, then just pray for them.  You don’t have to tell them OR maybe you do want to tell them.  If you are someone who is hurting this season and you need/want to feel God’s love, please come to our service tomorrow night at 6pm.  It’s always short and we don’t care what you wear!  What I can promise you is people will be smiling and happy.  We will introduce ourselves but we won’t be annoying, I promise!  If you want to sit next to me, I always sit on the right side as you walk in.  I am a little more than halfway up and I sit on the vent.  🙂  It’s my unofficial assigned seat.  No matter what, please come and feel His love this season.  

Merry Christmas,

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

Hey Friends!  IT’S FINALLY HERE!!!  December!  Christmas!  THE CANTATA!!!  WOOHOO!  Seriously, the Cantata is THIS SUNDAY.  Listen, we might be a small church but the Cantata sure is mighty.  Amy, the choir, those playing instruments, and guys in the sound booth do such a great job every.single.year.  Please go if you have never been.  Please go if you have been!

When I first mentioned December and Christmas, what was your response?  Were you happy, sad, or stressed?  I want to go down the stressed road today.  Why are you stressed?  I am going to go out on a limb and say it’s finances.  Am I right?  Let’s talk about it.

When Jon and I got married, we were broke.  And when I say broke, we were broke.  And then BAM!  I got pregnant with Logan.  God planned him perfectly but Jon and I were not prepared.  So after a year of daycare, diapers, formula and all of our other bills that we couldn’t afford, we were bankrupt.  Literally.  The house was in foreclosure.  The cars were getting repo’d.  It was bad.  We had no choice but to declare bankruptcy.  

We wanted to keep everything we had (because we couldn’t afford NOT to).  So we filed a chapter 13 which means we had to pay it all back within 5 years.  And guess what?  We paid it back in 3 years!  But there were a million tears shed.  Lots of hours worked.  And we became a connoisseur of hotdogs.  😏  

When Christmas rolled around during those years, my stomach would hurt because of stress.  I wasn’t worried about Jon and I.  I mean we knew our situation and we just dealt with it.  But Logan.  We loved that little boy more than ANYTHING and we wanted to give him the world (still do).  We never wanted him to know we were struggling.  So it was a facade.  I was so thankful for our families picking up any pieces we fell short on when it came to gift giving.  We got through it.  Logan was not impacted negatively.  And we are better financial stewards because of this time.  So I wouldn’t change it.

So why do we give gifts at Christmas?  I mean hello!  It’s not our birthday, it’s Jesus’s birthday.  And the last I checked, I don’t get gifts on my husband’s birthday.  

I think what is important to remember when giving gifts is the meaning behind it.  2 Corinthians 9:15 says, “Thanks be to God for his inexpressible gift!”  he wasn’t talking about that Bath and Body Works set you were eyeing.  He’s talking about His son.  The very essence of Christmas is about generosity, kindness, grace and giving.  God gives God for the enjoyment of his people, whom he saves by giving his Son to suffer. That’s beautiful. It is the heart of Christmas.

Second, we give to Christ.  Now, I want to be clear here.  God does not want you to buy anything.  I mean, he has zero use for a Lowes gift card.  He’s not interested in you trading anything with Him.  Seriously, He gave you His son.  You can’t compete with that (and He doesn’t want you to!).  But what He does want…your time.  Commitment from you.  Yes, I know it’s hard and there are a million reasons why “you can’t today”.  But stop and think about what gift would be equal to what He did for you.  I’ll wait.  Spoiler alert!  There’s not one.  You can make time for Him.

Lastly, we need to give in the right mindset.  2 Corinthians 8:2, “for in a severe test of affliction, their abundance of joy and their extreme poverty have overflowed in a wealth of generosity on their part.”  One more…Hebrews 13:16, “Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God.”  When giving gifts, you need to do it in the mindset of giving back to Christ.  That is the gift of trust, hope, admiration, joy and affection.  

So, if you are worried about gift giving at Christmas, please hear me when I say, STOP.  I promise God did not give you His son for you to worry about gifts.  Christmas is truly not about financial hardship.  Your children will love you if you can’t afford that XBox.  And if you can’t afford it, that doesn’t make you less of a parent.  And it sure doesn’t mean you love them less.  

So, if you are someone feeling this stress, please pray.  I would pray specifically for peace, love and joy in your life and for your family.  If you are someone who is more fortunate, remember you are blessed.  Your generosity can positively impact someone’s life forever.  Can you remember a time someone was generous to you?  You have never forgotten it or how it made you feel.  That feeling needs to be shared because it gushes love, joy, trust, and hope…like God.  Like what Christmas should be.

Love you all, 

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  How was your week?  Before we get started, I wanted to throw something out there.  We have a Men’s and Women’s Bible Study that meets on the second and fourth Wednesday of every month (due to the holidays this month, we are only meeting this Wednesday).  Listen, I can only speak for the women, but this is a really good Bible Study.  This study flows in a way that you can join anytime and you won’t be lost.  And even if you do get lost, that’s ok.  Sit by me where we can be lost together.  The men seem to have a good time because we can hear them laughing next door.  So, please come.  We would love to have new people to add spice.

How many of you are planners?  If something doesn’t go “right”, how do you react?  Well, let’s talk about it.

Years ago, Jon and I wanted a bigger house/yard for us but mainly for Logan.  We lived in a little townhome and it was a great starter home but Lo had nowhere to really run.  So, when the time was right, we put it on the market.  It had a contract in a week.  So, we were in crunch time to find a house.  We looked at several and put an offer on a house.  This house had everything I wanted BUT…I’ll be honest, I really didn’t like it.  In fact, we called that house the “Pizza Hut House” because it was shaped like an old Pizza Hut!  But I settled.  We negotiated back and forth and we could never agree on a price.  So, we walked away.  And then, we went on vacation!!  Talk about stress.

While on vacation, I was searching the internet for a house and NOTHING.  Finally, I just prayed and asked the Lord for help.  I ended the prayer with, “I’ll figure it out when I get home but I want to enjoy this vacation.”  The next morning, I got an email of a new listing.  I loved this house.  It was cheaper than the first one and it had a bigger yard.  It had everything we wanted.  We sent our real estate agent over to check it out and she loved it for us.  We put a contract on it and we had never actually seen it in person!  I felt like it was meant to be.  Well, 11 years have passed and we are still in that house and we don’t have any plans to move.

You know, some people believe that when you are Christian, everything in life is easy and things just naturally go your way.  I have been a Christian for a long time and I can assure you, that is NOT the case.  In fact, some of my biggest challenges in life have been when I chose to follow God’s way instead of the world’s.  It is so easy to choose the path where you will be socially accepted versus stares, eye rolls, or huffs and puffs (you might get all three!).

Over the last several years, when my emotions get high, I do seek the Lord in prayer.   But this was a learned behavior that literally took decades for me to do.  So, if this is not your first response, know you are not alone.  When my heart is pounding out of my chest with emotion, I will quickly say, “Lord, help me.”  That’s my whole prayer.  Why?  Well, at that single moment, I have something going on and I can’t have a long, drawn out prayer!  😂  But He knows what I need.  He knows what I need when I DON’T KNOW what I need!  Luke 5:15-16, “Yet the news about him spread all the more, so that crowds of people came to hear him and to be healed of their sicknesses. But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.”  Sinless Jesus used the same tools we have today!  If it was good enough for Jesus, surely you will benefit too, right?

Lastly, let it go.  Yep, like the song!  Matthew 10:13-15, “If the home is deserving, let your peace rest on it; if it is not, let your peace return to you. If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet. Truly I tell you, it will be more bearable for Sodom and Gomorrah on the day of judgment than for that town”.  Jesus tells us to keep preaching.  Keep pointing people towards Him.  It’s ok to want to explain your side or clarify.  But if you keep going and pushing, who are you helping?  Is it for your own ego?  You have to trust God will work out what He has planned for that person you tried to change.  So, preach, point to Him and then, let it go!

So, if things had gone my way, would we still be living in the Pizza Hut house?  Who knows.  But what I can tell you from that experience, is that I had to turn it over to Him.  Once I did, He was right there and handed me what I asked for on a silver platter.  And no, my house isn’t perfect but it’s perfect for us.  And I am so thankful for His blessings for allowing us to have what He picked for us.

So if things haven’t gone your way lately, don’t get down.  Really.  I know it’s hard and stressful!  But you HAVE TO trust in Him that He has your best interest at heart.  Just talk to Him about it.  I mean really, what is the downside to praying?  And then, once you get it all out…let it go.  If you need a visual to help you through it, I have a suggestion.  Pick out a beautiful leaf.  Take great care in picking this leaf.  Then, find a stream and let it go.  Watch it drift down the stream.  Notice how that leaf gets caught on branches, or get caught in a current where it drifts quickly OR it gets sucked underwater.  That leaf that you picked with great care is your problem(s) that you are so stressed about and God is the stream.  No matter how hard the situation or where it goes, He will deal with it.

Love you all,

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

As always, it is so good to see you here whatever day it is for you!  Tomorrow is a pretty big day so I would be amiss if we didn’t talk about it.  The election.  So, without further ado, let’s talk about it.

This Motivational Monday is posted later tonight because I have rewritten it several times.  Tomorrow, I know who I am going to vote for and I back them quite a bit.  Am I 100% happy with them as a person?  Or am I 100% happy with all of their policies?  The answer to both of those questions is no…for me.  I try to approach all things from a christian perspective.  In fact, this is probably the first time I have ever prayed for the best candidate to win (and I really meant it!).  There have been times I have prayed that prayer but obviously wanted MY candidate to win.

By praying for the best candidate to win, am I voting for the least bad option?

I am, personally, extremely happy that I am not running for political office because Lord knows, I am not perfect.  And I have lived a little in my 44 years on this Earth.  🙂  I am a Christian and I am not perfect.  Just like your candidate you will be voting for tomorrow (Romans 3:10).  So to answer the question…yes.  You are voting for the least bad option because you live in a fallen world!  But that’s where discernment comes into play.

The Bible teaches us about leadership.  Exodus is an excellent source.  Exodus 18:21 reveals that one of the most important qualities of leadership is competency.  We need a leader who will uphold justice with written policies that align with our christian morals and values.  In fact, Exodus tells us this leader should have good character and support godly policies.  

This is where I struggled.  No one is perfect.  Everyone sins.  Yet, I need to vote for someone with good character and support godly policies.  That sounds like they need to be as close to sinless as humanly possible.  Friends, this is where you weigh competency and morals.  Political support and moral approval are two very different things.  A question that helps me weigh the candidates is will your candidate reflect biblical values in their political decisions?

Life is not black and white.  In fact, I think we live in a constant state of gray.  That’s why it’s hard.  Because we live in gray, most cannot back a candidate 100% and we struggle.  But when weighing the candidates, they are vastly different (I know we are talking about the presidential election tomorrow but in all elections, they are ALWAYS vastly different).

I would bet 99.9% of you know who are, will or would be voting for tomorrow.  I personally believe it is our worldly and godly civic duty to vote.  Yes, I said godly.  Here are some verses to help understand the significance of voting from the Bible: Deuteronomy 1:13, Proverbs 14:34, Proverbs 21:1, Proverbs 29:2 and 1 Timothy 2:1-2.  I am going to encourage you all to reflect on what is most important to you in your next worldly leader.  Pray about it and read His word and then vote.

I hope to see you at the poll.

Love you all,

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

Hey friends!  I am so glad you are all here reading this today (whatever day you are reading it).  I appreciate you being here.  Today was an easy topic for me.  I think most of you know I get inspiration from my own life, friends, family and coworkers.  Well today, it’s about me. 😂 Hard decisions.  They are zero fun.  Especially making hard decisions in the light of God’s will.  So, let’s talk about it.

Over the last several nights, I have not slept well.  I am sure you have all been there, right?  You know you have to do something unpleasant and it keeps you up.  These decisions can be life threatening or life changing.  And sometimes, these decisions are not necessarily life changing for you but for someone else.  And honestly, I don’t like being a person that changes someone’s course in their life.  In fact, I think I do better mentally when I am the only one affected!

So how can we make tough decisions in the light of God’s will?

First, pray.  I know we talk about praying every single week.  But it IS JUST that important.  But when you are awake at 3am stressed about the next day, THIS IS THE EXACT TIME to have a conversation with God.  I pray until I fall back asleep.  And I ask Him for peace and comfort and to allow me to sleep.  You see, I believe we are put in these situations to draw us closer to God.  He knows, but we don’t.  He wants us to make decisions that are according to His word and will.  By doing this, we glorify and magnify Him in our own lives.

Second, get your heart right.  This one can be a tough one for me.  When making a tough decision, many people want it their way and not God’s way.  To be fair, I don’t think people go into decision making as “against God”.  I think we are all somewhat selfish.  Even when we do look to Him for help, sometimes we look for “signs: or “feelings”.  But we have to be careful not to bend those feelings towards our preference.  The best thing is ALWAYS God’s will.  

Speaking of feelings, those can be deceptive.  The longer we walk with God the better we are discerning His voice (the ladies bible study on Wednesday nights are studying about this exact thing!).  The easiest thing is not to base a decision on your feelings.  In fact, try to see past it.  One thing I can say for certain.  If your feeling is against the Word of God, I assure you that is NOT God’s will.  

Lastly, ask others to pray for you.  Again, this can be a tough one for me.  I don’t want to be a bother or draw negative attention to me.  And this is my thought process when I ask for prayers…which is so silly!  Why?  When others ask me to pray for them, I don’t think twice about it!  I don’t think they are bother at all!  You see, being a part of the body Christ means we have an army of prayer partners.  Your brothers and sisters don’t need to sit idle when you need them.  They love you and want what is best for you!  And what is best, is God’s will.

I am at a point in my life that I do thank God for His wisdom.  And, I know I receive His wisdom in times like this.  Life is full of decisions daily.  Some good.  Some are not so good.  I pray everyday that God will show me the right way when I have to make decisions on the spot. 

Hopefully this week, you don’t have to make a tough decision!  But if you do, I challenge you to sit back, read His word, pray and listen.  But making sure when you listen that you discern HIS voice and not your own.  I know I am telling you all these things but the reality is…I needed reminding.  And I thank you for being here to remind me.

Love you all,

Jennifer

 

Motivational Monday

Hey friends!!  How is everyone?  No really. How are YOU?  This is the time of year that things start getting…stressful.  So let’s get ahead of it.  I know, I know.  Easier said than done but listen!  Knowing what you are up against is half the battle, right?  And sometimes when we get stressed, we get ornery.  And that’s not nice.  “Be Kind” is a phrase we hear a lot these days.  So, let’s talk about it.

Almost every.single.week, I mention the fact that “we are human”.  I want to start by saying that even though we ARE human, that never excuses bad behavior.  By saying, “we are human” what I am really saying is we live in a fallen world.  Sin is inevitable but yet not excusable.  We should always strive to do better.  Growing up, people had bracelets that said, “What would Jesus do?”  And honestly, that’s a perfect question in every situation.

But have you ever thought about how you live impacts others?  Let me explain.  Most of you reading this are Christians.  I would speculate at least 50% of those reading this outwardly profess your christian faith to others when you have an opportunity.  WHICH IS GREAT!  But what happens when you have a bad day?  It could be something fairly simple like…being stressed out over the holidays.  You are on edge and then BAM!  You snap at someone.  And someone sees this one single moment and immediately judges your faith.

You see, people think that just because we are christians it suddenly means we are better.  And, many get that idea because some Christians believe they are better because they were saved by grace.  Listen, I thank God every single day for Him.  I thank Him for sending His son.  I LOVE MY FAITH.  It brings me more peace than I can describe in words.  But I fail Him everyday.  I sin every single day.  I need God’s grace every single day and I don’t deserve it.  

And listen, I know we, as Christians, want what is best for people.  And we know that being a Christian is what is best, right?  I think we are all on the same page here.  But there is a fine line with leading people to Christ and making them feel judged.  No one likes the feeling of, “I’m doing something wrong.”  But in your mind, they are wrong.  So, you see where non-believers hesitate to come to church or to have a conversation about religion with you?

As Christians, there was a time you were a non-believer.  Some of you were kids when you accepted Christ and others it was later.  But prior to accepting Christ, we were obsessed with our sins.  Just because we are now obsessed with Him doesn’t mean we don’t mess up, right?  God gives us grace and forgives us for our sins!  So, it’s time you extend that same grace to others.  I’m talking about the non-believer to the crabby cashier.  Showing grace is so much easier than explaining why you got flustered because “you’re just human.”  AND, by you showing grace, how does that impact them and their potential walk with the Lord?  How many opportunities is missed because of attitudes?

You see the circle I’m making here?

“For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast.” Ephesians 2:8-9.  If God can extend that kind of grace to me, then you KNOW He can extend that grace to anyone.  In fact, He sent His son to spend time with those who felt and were lost.  He spent time with people who had nasty infectious diseases that were “incurable”.  He spent time with people who openly and secretly betrayed him.  Why?  God’s grace….and love.  

So the phrase “be kind” is really just that simple.  But I feel like if you are Christian, there is an added layer there.  You are a leader whether you see yourself as one or not.  On a normal day, people make quick assessments about you whether you like it or not.  Are you approachable?  Are you happy, sad, mad, etc?  This is human nature.  If you are stressed and being ugly, I’m not so sure you will “attract flies with that honey” as my momma would say.  Don’t allow your second of stressful ugliness, impact someone else’s salvation.

 

Love you all,

Jennifer



Motivational Monday

The 5 “L’s” of Life Series

Hey friends!  Today is the last day of our series and I have to say, I have really enjoyed writing it.  To have started off with, “How in the world am I going to write about this?” to “Oh, I kinda enjoyed this series!” is a huge win for me.  😂  That thought actually made me giggle a little when I wrote it…which is a PERFECT segway into today’s last topic.  Laughter.  So, let’s talk about it.

Listen, I LOVE to laugh.  I laugh at the wrong times and right times!  😣  Fun fact about me (like you don’t know enough)!  I laughed the whole way through my wedding ceremony.  Yep.  True story.  When I think of my best friend Samantha, I can literally hear her laughter.  Her laugh makes me laugh!  Laughing makes me feel good.  It brings me closer to the person I am laughing with.  But have you ever thought about laughter from a christian aspect?  I’ll be honest, I have never thought about it so let’s take a go at it!

So from a health perspective, what does laughter do for us?  Well, it has been proven that laughter lowers blood pressure and stress hormones.  There have been times I am annoyed with my husband and he will cut the tension with a “funny”.  And 9/10 times, my mood is much better.  Proverbs 17:22 says, “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”  Laughter wasn’t a by-product from emotions.  God knew exactly what we needed with laughter.

Laughter is a response to God’s love and grace.  I think about the movie, Steel Magnolias.  At the end of the movie when M’lynn is having a meltdown over Shelby’s death (and rightfully so), Clairee throws Ousier in the mix by offering M’lynn a “once in lifetime opportunity to knock Ouiser out!”  Life presents us with good times and bad.  There is a “time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.”  Ecclesiastes 3:4

Can you imagine a life without laughter?  More than likely, we only know pain, grief, and just melancholy.  Right?  What if we only ONLY experienced joy?  Listen, pain and suffering are a part of God’s plan in your life.  Those things draw you closer to Him.  Laughter is a part of ups and downs of life.  David says in Psalm 16:11, “You make known to me the path of life; You will fill me with joy in Your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand.”  David not only shared his sadness with the Lord but his joy.  Laughter is part of relationship building.  With people and God!

But do you know what I see when people laugh?  Faith.  Let me explain.  Has there ever been a time in your life when something is eating at you?  Or you have extreme sadness?  Or you have a loved one in the hospital?  And all you can do is pray.  You’re worried.  And then one day, it’s like you let go and suddenly a little chuckle comes out of you.  It’s hard to laugh when you feel unsafe.  By allowing laughter to return, you are trusting Him to help you through this time.  Laughter helps us know that God is good and that He has a plan for us. By laughing, we also share His love, grace, and joy with others. So, let us laugh more often, and let our laughter reflect our soul.  

So this week, I want to challenge you to a game.  This is a made up “Jennifer” game (ask Jon!  This is a real game I play).  When you go shopping this week, I want you to make your cashier laugh.  I’ll give you a hint as to how to open them up to laughter…say something positive about them first.  Ask them questions about THEM.  Then, have a conversation as they are ringing you up.  Get them to laugh.  I want you to take note of their face from beginning to end.  Look at how you impacted their stress level for what…3-5 minutes?  It’s amazing.  God did that.

Love you all and see you Sunday,

Jennifer

 

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