Hey friends! I thought I would start this month off with a Thankful Tuesday. Since Thanksgiving is this month, I would be amiss if I didn’t do a thanks and giving series. 🙂 Let’s get this party started!
Are you thankful? If you are, how did you become thankful? Were you just born that way? Well, let’s talk about it!
Over 20 years ago, when we had our son, we were financially unwell. We had alot of debts and not a lot of income. But, we tried! Jon and I both worked but in the end, the debt was too much. We were slowly losing everything so we declared bankruptcy (not something you want to do at 26). The bankruptcy we declared was Chapter 13 which meant we had to pay it all back and not wiped clean. One of us always worked two jobs to get it paid off quickly (it was still years) and keep up with our other financial commitments. Jon and I ate hotdogs and ramen A LOT while Logan ate chicken, peas and carrots. I was determined he wouldn’t suffer because of our mistakes. In the end, we paid it off and learned countless lessons.
Jon and I were talking the other day about how far we have come in life. Spiritually, emotionally, and financially. We started talking about our financial mindset today. We agreed that we are very appreciative of the financial security we have today and that we live day to day knowing it can change in an instant. That sounds pessimistic but truly, it’s not (or that’s not how we view it). We know what it’s like to feel like a complete failure. We also know what it feels like to feel like we are going to be ok. And, that feeling is a breath of fresh air. We are so grateful and thankful for all we have and all we have been through. It has made us stronger as couple in every way possible.
Over the years, I have become more grateful and thankful. I don’t know exactly why. Is it because we are older? Is it because we have lived through hard times? Is it because I have grown in my faith over the years and I’ve learned to let God? I don’t know for certain. What I can tell you is that everything good in your life comes from God (James 1:17). What can you do to become more thankful?
First, regularly practice giving thanks. Thankfulness should be your default instead of criticism. When there is something good in your life, point it out and stop. Thank God right then! I do this all the time. I will close my eyes and say out loud, “Thank you!” Look, we all complain. I do too! But, practice responding to your complaining by finding something to be thankful for. This helps rewire your brain to recognize the good in your life just like you recognized the bad.
Second, express gratitude regardless of the situation. I get it. This one can be really hard. Paul tells the Thessalonians to give thanks in all circumstances because God wills it (1Thessalonians 5:18). Why? Because God sees the whole picture. He is working every single situation and working them out for our good and His glory (Romans 8:28). We have to purposely look for what God is doing while we are in the middle of it.
Praise God when all is well! Can I get an “Amen”? I feel like this is a no brainer but it is so important we practice it. We need to understand that when life runs smoothly, it’s a gift. Sometimes we take it for granted.
Make gratitude a part of your interaction with other people. Again, I feel like this is a no brainer. As a kid, I was taught to say my please’s and thank you’s. Whenever someone helps me resolve a problem (big or small), I make it a habit to say, “I appreciate you”. And I do! They took time out of their day to help me. And yes, sometimes they are paid to help me. But how many times have you asked for help in a store and they DIDN’T help you? By expressing gratitude, you have elevated their self worth. It might have only been a smidge but YOU did that. They will remember how that made them feel and they might make it a point to be more grateful and thankful. You could start a trend!
Thanksgiving is a superpower. It enables us to see past our experiences and embrace how God is moving. When Jon and I declared bankruptcy, that was a bad time for us. We felt defeated. But, looking back on it, I wouldn’t change a thing even if I could. It was hard to see at the time but God took care of us more than we knew. That time made us grateful and thankful for the good times AND the bad. It also showed us that He had us every step of the way. He took care of us.
Being a thankful person enables you to draw strength from gratitude. Thankfulness and gratitude really go hand in hand. So look, go out and spread it like confetti! This week make it a point to thank God daily for something in your life. By doing this, you will start to see all the good in your life. Also, make it a point to thank one person a day for something. If you don’t go anywhere, no problem. Call them! Text them! Tell someone you appreciate them.
I appreciate all of you. No really. I do. I appreciate you and Spring Creek for the opportunity to write these week after week. Sure. It’s a lot of work. But these motivations keep me grounded and you all are my biggest cheerleader! You have given me the confidence to continue sharing my crazy stories and thoughts with a dose of Jesus. When I sign off with “love you all”, that’s not just something I say. I DO love you all and I pray for all of you. See you next week.
Love you all,
Jennifer
